Wheres the line drawn for cheating?

[The Ract]

Is it having feelings for someone else?
Is it flirting with someone else?
Is it sexting / sending explicit pictures to someone else?
Is it doing something physical?

Where would you draw the line?

 

[MohtasaUnique]

Expressing explicit intent to engage is sexual acts with someone other than your partner is where I draw the line between cheating and not cheating. Flirting, being witty, returning a smile or saying someone is attractive is not cheating. It's inconsiderate of your partner, and can lead them to believe you're not a faithful person, but it's not actually BEING unfaithful... yet.

Sexting, sending pictures, sharing any sort of sexual-natured thing with another is too far.

 

If it gets physical.

 

[MohtasaUnique]

If it gets physical.

So... a touch? Handshake? Ass slap? Hand holding? Hand on knee? What if she touches you in these ways and you let her? What if you touch her in these ways without the intention of conveying attraction or affection? Or just purely affection, a sibling's or mother/fatherly affection?

 

Expressing explicit intent to engage is sexual acts with someone other than your partner is where I draw the line between cheating and not cheating. Flirting, being witty, returning a smile or saying someone is attractive is not cheating. It's inconsiderate of your partner, and can lead them to believe you're not a faithful person, but it's not actually BEING unfaithful... yet.

Sexting, sending pictures, sharing any sort of sexual-natured thing with another is too far.

Exactly my thoughts on where I would draw the line as far as cheating is concerned.

 

[Swan]

Just be a polygamist and you won't have to worry about it.

 

[0XidizER]

I don't might if it's like just giving hugs or general non-sexual flirtiness. I consider it cheating at any sexual contact or talk with other people.

 

Anything of an intimate or sexual nature

 

Just be a polygamist and you won't have to worry about it.

True but most will agree that's radical and illegal in many countries. This sort of behavior is frowned upon and doesn't fit in with he social norm. Going off tangent a little, weren't you a believer asexuality a couple years ago? I vaguly remember you saying you weren't attracted to either sex.

Anyway, I view anything that you wouldn't tell your partner as cheating. If you are willing to hide the truth or lie about something that has happened with someone else, I consider that cheating. Basically, if you know your partner wouldn't approve of your actions, you're cheating.

 

I'd say physical contact, though sexting / sending intimate images would be crossing the line for me.

 

[Lean]

Flirting with bad intentions, sending nudes and physical contact I consider cheating.

Harmless flirting where you're just trying to make you or the other person feel good without intentions of letting it go any further I don't really see as cheating.

 

I would say flirting to point of saying they'd do things with the other person or other sexual intentions. That's just the start. Anything past that such as 'sexual' acts, pics, etc.

 

Flirting is highly subjective for me. I can tell when someone's a dickhead with bad intentions and when someone's just being flirty for fun; so some people I wouldn't mind it with but others it would irk me somewhat. Interesting to see how it varies.

 

Flirting is highly subjective for me. I can tell when someone's a dickhead with bad intentions and when someone's just being flirty for fun; so some people I wouldn't mind it with but others it would irk me somewhat. Interesting to see how it varies.

It does depend on the person and what exactly they're saying. It's hard to interpret sometimes.

 

[Error Free]

To me cheating is the actual physical touch of anyone else besides your significant other. Flirting w/e is not ok, but it's not cheating in my books.

 

[Pockets]

Each couple has a unique relationship that they define. This is something you should talk to your partner about, not people on a fantasy RPG gold trading forum.

 

Each couple has a unique relationship that they define. This is something you should talk to your partner about, not people on a fantasy RPG gold trading forum.

Lol'd.


I'm very possessive/protective of my girlfriends (for better or for worse) so I draw the line pretty early. If my girlfriend held hands with a guy I'd probably get upset but I wouldn't define that as cheating, but anything further than that I would. Inappropriate touching or kissing or real flirting etc is cheating imo.

 

[Swan]

True but most will agree that's radical and illegal in many countries. This sort of behavior is frowned upon and doesn't fit in with he social norm. Going off tangent a little, weren't you a believer asexuality a couple years ago? I vaguly remember you saying you weren't attracted to either sex.

Anyway, I view anything that you wouldn't tell your partner as cheating. If you are willing to hide the truth or lie about something that has happened with someone else, I consider that cheating. Basically, if you know your partner wouldn't approve of your actions, you're cheating.

Allow me to clarify my position. If I were to be in a relationship I would certainly want it to be monogamous, but I was making a jest.

As far as asexuality is concerned, I believe the notion of actual, proper love should be asexual or platonic. Love for the person, not for their body. Apart from reproduction, I see sexuality as entirely unnecessary (although I don't necessarily frown upon it). Admittedly it's a bit of a naive, almost storybook worldview, but at least an ideal one.

As far as this is concerned then, I draw the line when you stop feeling for your partner, or you have feelings grow for another. It doesn't necessarily have to be physical to constitute being "unfaithful".

 

Anything that gets physical in a sexual manner would be the line I would draw. Otherwise I think intent of becoming physical would be borderline.

 

As far as this is concerned then, I draw the line when you stop feeling for your partner, or you have feelings grow for another. It doesn't necessarily have to be physical to constitute being "unfaithful".

I agree with this as well.