Is sex THAT important?

So, to be short and simple.
Do you think sex is that important in a relationship, or is it one of the "bonuses" in dating?
I for one feel it is one of the most important things in a relationship, simply because it is the closet you can get to someone. What are all of your thoughts?

 

Yes, sex is intimate and intimacy is important in a romantic relationship.

 

It's important because it's a natural thing for humans to do. Especially for relationships.

 

highly important. ive seen people get married without having sex before their marriage and i always feel like they are just doing a coin toss on wethor their marriage could even possibly work out lol. just kinda weird to me, please dont hate me religious people

p.s. i come from a religious family and attended a private school most of my life. im finally away from all that.

 

The intimacy is important, but that's about it... I mean, I'm not gonna throw a good girl to the curb just because she's not very good in bed.

 

Some people don't have sex before marriage is because it's a big sin their religion, for example Muslims cannot have sex until marriage as well some other religions. It's frowned on by family members for a Muslim person to get a girl pregnant without being married.

 

In todays society it's thought to be very important. It likely is if you are in a stable relationship. Although (for women) the more sexual partners you have the less likely it will be that you will ever have a stable (5+ years) relationship.

An illustrative graph:



Not aware if there are any similar studies made about men, but I'd say it's highly likely that something like this also applies to men.

 

would be careful assigning causality here, it could easily go the other way... the more partners you have, the less interested you could be in long-term marriage (not that your marriages fail because you have more partners). also would be valuable to see it broken out by religion and race. but anyway, enough economics desires for now...

ot: i would say yes, sex is important insofar as you both care about it. i don't think it's inherently important but often has a place in healthy relationships. ultimately relationships are about trusting and feeling connected to others, and sex is a medium for that in many cases

 

Indefinitely; without physical attraction I don't see a future with that person.

 

Sex is to tool to show appreciation and intimacy towards one another, without sex you can't really show intimate feelings which won't give you a deeper love between each other. On the other hand I know a friend who has been with his girlfriend for 4 years he's now 21, they have never had sex and won't until they get married, to love someone so much that you wouldn't violate them until marriage shows a deep love and I've come to that understanding from having long talks with him.

 

True on the casuality part. My aim was more at if you want to have a stable relationship then as a man you should avoid women who have had many partners. Very likely that if you are her 10th partner then there will be an 11th partner or the relationship just won't last 5+ years for what ever reason. It might very well be that people who are programmed for long term relationships just have less sexual partners as a result.

 

Sex is definitely important in relieving stress between relationship.

Also, if the girl is willing to shag immediately, chances are she isn't the "one true love".
Or is she?

 

It's more like: chances are that she has shagged a fair amount of men before you and might shag someone a few weeks later after getting drunk at a party

 

Probably the most important part of a relationship. You need intimacy/physical attraction.

 

Haha the common stereotype of fucking on the first date. If she does it, shes definitely just a fling.

 

My ex was abstinent and we had no problems because of it. I find it important, but it doesn't have to be necessary if you handle it well.

 

She was just waiting for the alpha while having you pay her bills (I do hope that wasn't the case, but if it was then gg)

 

lol maybe. we're still friends and she said she's still a virgin after dating 2 other guys

guess she has yet to find the alpha male

 

Yes, sex is a way of showing love for your loved one..?