End of The Year Decision

I have no one else to go in my part lol I'm just asking for the internet's (sythe's) advice as a last resort.

So there is this girl (a friend) who I considered to be a great friend since September, but something happened and I admit it was mostly my fault. We were texting each other through Twitter and I got real bored and unleashed pervertedness in my texts. I told her about a dream I had and it was about her getting raped by another friend of mine in the class, but I saved her. Then she 'rewarded' me in that dream (don't wanna get too detailed with the 'reward', but you know what I mean...)

Then this happened:

She replied to me with a text saying, "this is (the girls name)'s mom! What are you two talking about????"

Being an IDIOT I was I thought that was her joking around freaking me out. So I said, "Hello, (the girl's name)'s mom. May I have permission to date your daughter?"

Being a typical parent of course they wouldn't let their daughter date a pervert psycho like the me in the dream... But I didn't know that was her mom... She got scolded and I really made her cry and she is very fucking angry at me.

She thinks I was never there. She hates on me on something I do occasionally. I apologized at the next day of school, but it stayed the same. At February I made a song to her, and made my 2nd attempt to apologize and she said that she accepts my apology but she also said to not expect any changes in our relationship...

It's staying the same until now; the end of the school year. I really miss her. I want her back as a friend. I regret not saying anything at all to her (literally) in our class farewell party to the beach. There will be another farewell party and I hope she comes... Now the question that I need answered is:

Should I say something to her? If I should then what should I say...

EDIT: I admit it's my fault. And why her mom replied to me using her twitter account was because her mom was using her phone... My friends wondered why she even checks on her phone. There's a chance the girl is making shit up to get the hell away from me, but I'd like to believe what she says is true... She likes anime ecchi stuff so I presume it is true.

Have you tried apologizing to the mom in any way or explaining the situation? That might be a good start to regain the relationship.

What I'm trying to work out why she's mad over a simple joke? Shouldn't she be flattered that you asked to date her daughter. When I read that you wrote her a song I just went "aww" cause that's so sweet, and if it's your last chance to open up to her then make sure you say EVERYTHING to her.

I know you say you want her back as a friend, but do you have some emotional feelings towards her? Just by what I've read it seems like you do, but I could be wrong, you two might just be the best of friends.
It was a silly joke taken too far *by her* and you should explain that to her when you see her next and just tell her everything you've been feeling and how much you miss her, if that doesn't work then maybe she's just not interested in being your friend anymore.

Chloecat said:

What I'm trying to work out why she's mad over a simple joke? Shouldn't she be flattered that you asked to date her daughter. When I read that you wrote her a song I just went "aww" cause that's so sweet, and if it's your last chance to open up to her then make sure you say EVERYTHING to her.

I know you say you want her back as a friend, but do you have some emotional feelings towards her? Just by what I've read it seems like you do, but I could be wrong, you two might just be the best of friends.
It was a silly joke taken too far *by her* and you should explain that to her when you see her next and just tell her everything you've been feeling and how much you miss her, if that doesn't work then maybe she's just not interested in being your friend anymore.

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I need a mindset that overwhelms my fear of doing that... I need to to think of something positive that can build up my courage of saying everything to her. I don't have the courage to do so since it's been a long time since we even talked.

Pulse said:

I need a mindset that overwhelms my fear of doing that... I need to to think of something positive that can build up my courage of saying everything to her. I don't have the courage to do so since it's been a long time since we even talked.

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Yeah, that can be scary having to speak your mind to someone who means a lot to you, especially in real life.
I don't think I can give you much advice there but to think about the positive outcome that there might be if you DO tell her, like her accepting the apology and you two going back to being friends and happy again.

Good luck with it though if you get the courage to tell her, I hope all goes well!

Chloecat said:

I don't think I can give you much advice there but to think about the positive outcome that there might be if you DO tell her, like her accepting the apology and you two going back to being friends and happy again.

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That's a neat way of thinking. "the positive outcome". I'll build up courage on the next time we meet. I'll try to tell her

Thanks Chloe!

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MRangeM said:

Have you tried apologizing to the mom in any way or explaining the situation? That might be a good start to regain the relationship.

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I can't get a contact with her mom. I've tried, but its not possible as she is not in my country.

Well..
If somebody said what you did to my kid, I personally wouldn't let you near hear and you'd have no chance in ever seeing her again.
I am assuming you are very young and do not know a lot about women/girls yet, to have told her you had a dream she got raped.

Personally I think you should just stop speaking to her, she likely thinks you're weird now and her mother won't like you, so there's no chance of much happening.

I'm pretty sure her mum's warned her to stay away from you, you'll only get her in trouble by trying to undo it. Learn from the mistake and move on.
No amount of friends are irreplacable, you probably wont talk to half your school friends again anyway.

Shoop said:

Well..
If somebody said what you did to my kid, I personally wouldn't let you near hear and you'd have no chance in ever seeing her again.
I am assuming you are very young and do not know a lot about women/girls yet, to have told her you had a dream she got raped.

Personally I think you should just stop speaking to her, she likely thinks you're weird now and her mother won't like you, so there's no chance of much happening.

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That's pretty mean

I'm 16 nearing 17 and I do have a girl so don't tell me I don't know a lot about women/girls

But I kinda agree that I should stop speaking to her. That's my plan ages ago since I don't ever wanna get in her way again as I do think I am a bad influence to her. However, I wanna apologize. I don't believe she accepted my last apologies. I just want her to know how I feel....

Pulse said:

That's pretty mean

I'm 16 nearing 17 and I do have a girl so don't tell me I don't know a lot about women/girls

But I kinda agree that I should stop speaking to her. That's my plan ages ago since I don't ever wanna get in her way again as I do think I am a bad influence to her. However, I wanna apologize. I don't believe she accepted my last apologies. I just want her to know how I feel....

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Its not mean its the truth. As a parent if I read the text that you sent to her I would of warned my daughter to not speak to you anymore.

Shoop said:

Well..
If somebody said what you did to my kid, I personally wouldn't let you near hear and you'd have no chance in ever seeing her again.
I am assuming you are very young and do not know a lot about women/girls yet, to have told her you had a dream she got raped.

Personally I think you should just stop speaking to her, she likely thinks you're weird now and her mother won't like you, so there's no chance of much happening.

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Shoop no offence but this is the dumbest thing I've ever heard..
They're teenagers, of course there is going to be somewhat of "sexual" talk between the two of them even if it is completely innocent, don't you remember when you where that age? I'm sure you where just as much like that as Pulse was.
Don't listen to Shoop and Roary, I remember me and my friend would get in trouble from our mums cause we'd be up till like 2am texting each other *back when I was like 13-14* but they both told us it's what teenagers do and they're not THAT mad about it. I'm sure same thing applies to this girls mum, she would of been a bit shocked you had said something like that but I highly doubt she woulda gone to her daughter "DON'T YOU DARE SPEAK TO THIS BOY HE'S SUCH A PERVERT blah blah blah.."

As above, think about the positive outcome and don't let posts like this get in your way.

Chloecat said:

Shoop no offence but this is the dumbest thing I've ever heard..
They're teenagers, of course there is going to be somewhat of "sexual" talk between the two of them even if it is completely innocent, don't you remember when you where that age? I'm sure you where just as much like that as Pulse was.
Don't listen to Shoop and Roary, I remember me and my friend would get in trouble from our mums cause we'd be up till like 2am texting each other *back when I was like 13-14* but they both told us it's what teenagers do and they're not THAT mad about it. I'm sure same thing applies to this girls mum, she would of been a bit shocked you had said something like that but I highly doubt she woulda gone to her daughter "DON'T YOU DARE SPEAK TO THIS BOY HE'S SUCH A PERVERT blah blah blah.."

As above, think about the positive outcome and don't let posts like this get in your way.

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I'll do my best to tell her in a class-dinner-farewell-party... It's gonna be a pain though. I don't know whether or not I should say it to her in front of the whole class or personally face-to-face. I don't wanna do it through the net. Thats just dumb.

For shoop and roary, I never get mad easily. Thanks for advising me to not speak to her anymore (I asked if I should), but chloe made me wanna believe theres still a chance.
Peace guys

For taylor,
What people consider good or bad are just a matter of perspective. I consider it to be mean. You might not. Know reality.
Peace to you too

Chloecat said:

Shoop no offence but this is the dumbest thing I've ever heard..
They're teenagers, of course there is going to be somewhat of "sexual" talk between the two of them even if it is completely innocent, don't you remember when you where that age? I'm sure you where just as much like that as Pulse was.
Don't listen to Shoop and Roary, I remember me and my friend would get in trouble from our mums cause we'd be up till like 2am texting each other *back when I was like 13-14* but they both told us it's what teenagers do and they're not THAT mad about it. I'm sure same thing applies to this girls mum, she would of been a bit shocked you had said something like that but I highly doubt she woulda gone to her daughter "DON'T YOU DARE SPEAK TO THIS BOY HE'S SUCH A PERVERT blah blah blah.."

As above, think about the positive outcome and don't let posts like this get in your way.

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This is the real world Chloecat..
We don't all say sorry, forgive and hug each like nothing ever happened.
I am giving him a parents perspective, if anyone ever spoke to my child like that, or spoke to any of my nieces of nephews like that, I wouldn't let them anywhere near them.

Of course boys will be boys, we do have sex on our minds a lot, but there's a difference between talking sexual with a girl and mentioning she had been raped in a dream.

Shoop said:

This is the real world Chloecat..
We don't all say sorry, forgive and hug each like nothing ever happened.
I am giving him a parents perspective, if anyone ever spoke to my child like that, or spoke to any of my nieces of nephews like that, I wouldn't let them anywhere near them.

Of course boys will be boys, we do have sex on our minds a lot, but there's a difference between talking sexual with a girl and mentioning she had been raped in a dream.

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I forgot to tell you she was enjoying our chat...

Shoop said:

This is the real world Chloecat..
We don't all say sorry, forgive and hug each like nothing ever happened.
I am giving him a parents perspective, if anyone ever spoke to my child like that, or spoke to any of my nieces of nephews like that, I wouldn't let them anywhere near them.

Of course boys will be boys, we do have sex on our minds a lot, but there's a difference between talking sexual with a girl and mentioning she had been raped in a dream.

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I live very much in the real world and I'm telling you how stupid you're being, I'm not sure how protective you are but that just steps WAY out of line.
It was a joke and as pulse stated above she was enjoying it, and as you can tell he's tried apologizing time and time again about it because he knew it was the inappropriate thing to do.

If I was a mother I'd rather have someone have a one off joke about a dream then some creepy boy asking my daughter for dirty pictures, or trying to have a real sexual talk with her.

Thanks for all the support. I decided I will say something to her regardless if I get buttfucked in my rectal.

#YOLO (h8ers gonna h8)

tsh said:

I really just feel like this thread belongs in the spam forum.

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If you're not willing to help me then don't, I find it fucking annoying considering how you think this is fake. I like to hang and mess around in SF but there's a reason why I post in this part of the forum.