What would you do?

Will you?

Does it matter if she is post-op or pre-op?

If you aren't going to stay with her because she is a liar, are you sure that's the only reason?

Explain your answer.

 

When you say not born a man? Do you mean not born a woman? and if that is the case then... I don't know but I'd most likley stay with her since I have a great future ahead of me and we both love each other.

 

I would not stay with her.

I would probably be very depressed to let her go, but it would bother me way to much and I just couldn't do it.

 

More than likely i would stay with 'her'.

I would miss out on child birth, but love is pretty good to.

 

She's hot,so why not!

 

what? she was born a man or... this doesn't even make sense.

 

i might stay with her, but be VERY drunk if it all there is any sex.

 

That's quite the mind fuck.

(Especially since I'm trying to figure out how to re-word the hypothetical in order to answer it. )

If I were a guy though, I'd have to say no, for a couple reasons. First of all, I don't date people who'd lie about anything that important. If it turned out she were calling to bring up the ex-husband she'd forgotten to mention, I'd probably break it off too.

Secondly, I think I'd have to be in the situation and know the person to be able to honestly claim that I wouldn't care. I identify as heterosexual, and asking in the hypothetical if I'd be okay dating someone of the same sex (whether post or pre-op) is an awkward question. Thus, I would have to agree with her self-identification as a woman (presumably as the product of biological factors) before I could conceive of a relationship.

 

Yes, not born a woman. I guess saying that she wasn't born a man totally fucks up the predicament, eh ?

Fixed.

 

id stay with her and yea just get an op to make her a women and get any man bits out cause u got the trust there and it takes time to build up trust and for her to finally tell u sumthin that big iis and would be a gaint leap in the relationship.

kids wise,who cares if u cant have any just think cut back on condoms and if u really want kids you's always got adoption when u think ur ready for em.

but if you broke up with her imagine how she'd feel, she'd feel crushed and driven into the ground just to no that all that support u had for her is gone in that moment and she'd prob most likely kill herself cause ur not showing that u truly love her for whgo she is and not her personnality

 

No, I would not. Why? I could not see myself dating a guy, and also she/he lied.

 

HELL NO. Well first, he/she has been lying to me the whole time. Plus 2 guys= yukky stuff. :\

 

Wait, so she was born a man and cut it off and now she's a woman?

In that case, nasty. I would dump her right there and call her a lying man-whore. That's just nasty, I'm sorry.

 

I wouldn't penalize her because she lied, only because you can't spring something that serious on someone right away in a relationship.

To be honest, I would have to end the relationship for multiple reasons. Someday, I don't know when, I'm looking forward to having my own children, obviously not possible in this situation. I would continue to be available for her and console her, but I wouldn't be able to marry her after finding out she was a man, it would just be a conflict of morals

 

Well she has kept a continuous lie for about four years, so that's not really helping her case, but more importantly, I would have to know more about this person, especially considering the fact that I've never been in love so I wouldn't know what mindset I would have.

 

I would have slapped him/her and ran out of the room screaming 'whore!!!!11!!!'.





On a more serious note, I would not stay with her, due to the fact that she was lying to you for four years, and I don't like being tricked.

 

I shouldn't have clicked this thread

To be honest I don't know what I would do. If I seriously felt that attached to a person I don't think I could continue without "her", but life would just be way to weird after learning about it:huh:

 

like finn said, HUGE breach of trust. I would leave it, depressed, heartbroken and angry with myself for falling into something like that.

I'm not sure what i'd do when it talked to me though... i've been in a serious relationship before and know afterward the memories are still there. Really deep question, but i'd definitely break things up and never talk to Laura again.

Probably turn to alcohol or just try to eliminate every memory possible.

 

who would honestly stay "him" lmao

 

I would go WTF?! after 4years you finally tell me?