We Hate Each Other Outside :/

I'm actually 17, but nonetheless. It's important to realise that a crush is nothing. A crush means naught. It's realism, not cynicism. You seem to be forgetting that younger people like to THINK they're mature. In truth they're not, but me and everyone I know once thought they knew it all. It's rare nowadays for someone entering his teens not to think like that. If he does get with this girl, he's only going to bawl his eyes out when it's over.

My advice would be to pay attention in school and realise something you're passionate about. My passion is science and culture / language, and I love learning about it. Spend your younger years doing something that will actually be worth while and will lay a stable foundation for something worthwhile in the future. I'm intending on working towards a PhD in engineering personally. I had never had a girlfriend until this year, and I wholeheartedly regret it.

You're blurring the line between realism and cynicism. It's not behaviour that should be encouraged because there are obvious social implications if things go awry, and depending on how they go awry could be the difference between bad and worse. Even at that age you should be able to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.

 

I think it's good for a 12 year old to have a girlfriend/boyfriend and then they break up. It builds character.

You can't live your entire life sheltered and cooped up all day. If the OP likes the girl and she likes him then why shouldn't they date and do whatever it is 12 year old couples do these days? Because they will more than likely break up one day?

Are you implying it isn't possible for someone to have a good relationship but also be able to work towards the future in other aspects of their life?

 

ask her out and dont be a lpuss

 

Not at all, but looking back that was something which distracted me from my schoolwork. Too much from my schoolwork. It continues to distract my friends from THEIR schoolwork. Considering that the overall position calculated within my school to determine my rank to go to university also relies on the rest of the people in my grade, it irks me when people put no effort in, instead choosing to be with their significant other.

It's possible to juggle a relationship and schoolwork if you're emotionally mature enough, but you can't say there's a point in seeking a relationship if it's going to fail anyway. The end result is the same, just that a couple of people end up more hurt than before. Consider utilitarianism, what is the outcome which benefits the most people involved? Then again, people are going to tease their desire regardless.

It may build character in some regards, but more often than not I just see it adding to a guy's audacity to treat women like objects.

 

i'D GIVE YOU 2 WEEKS TOPS. (FFs caps lock).

Then your friendship is fucked sideways.

you're better off just to tell her you like her in a brother sister kinda way and stay close. then when ur like 15 tell her youve loved her this whole time.

/win

 

This is precisely what should be happening at that age. There are so many friendships that got ruined in my first year of junior high that could have been saved.

 

Is there really a difference between 12 and 15 when it comes to this? Might as well wait until you're 18.

Anyways I guess people have had bad past experiences "dating" when their young.

I say just go for it OP, in my experience dating a girl when you're 12 isn't going to destroy your scholarly life and break friendships.

 

Me personally, I remember first meeting my girlfriend, a few months after moving to NY, and she was hanging out with a bunch of her friends and some of her male friends. And I went up to her and asked her if she wanted to go to the movies, and the rest, well... pretty much you know it(we later went on to dating etc.) If you honestly like her, i'd suggest you ask her now, before the time is too late.

 

Hmm, I don't know who to believe.. But I'm not getting distracted from my schoolwork or anything, I'm getting outstanding for almost every subject. I might ask her if she wants to come over my house on Monday, will let you see how it goes. Althoguh, not sure how to ask! :/

 

Well let me tell you this much: if you want anything to last out of it, don't try and bring it in to any sexual phase. You're far too young for it. Believe me, I was 12 once. I know what you're feeling. By all means be good friends with her, but if you try to make anything more out of it you take a great risk in losing your friendship and coming out of it with both of you hurt.

Lasting friends are better than failed relationships. You'll understand if you learn the hard way.

 

I don't mean that way. But I know that she likes me as nearly all of her friends have told me that.

 

Is she viet or aussie ?

 

Does it matter lol?

 

Go ahead. It won't last very long and it will be pretty silly, but It will do your reputation good. It doesn't really matter whether it will work out, as long as you can profit out of it in as many ways as possible.

 

Loving someone in a brother/sister kind of way doesn't really work out. My sister basically has a hobby of being an asshole and then punching me if I tell her to shut up. XD

 

Why so serious, people?

They're young, he needs to learn about the big bad world of relationships at some point. It's never going to turn into something serious dude, but by all means go for it...what's the worst that could happen

 

Been with the same girl since i was your age, and im 19 now, and i couldnt imagine my life without her.
Dont waste the chance, do what feels right and what makes you happy while you can.
If things dont go well dont let it make you bitter.

Good luck pal

-Reece

 

Thanks, apparently I asked her and she's coming over today after school I kinda asked her if she wanted to come or not but I didn't mention to be my gf lol. Anyways still good

 

You only live once, and trust me..it goes fast(this is coming from a 17 year old..).
Get the experience for when you're older, because at the end of the day, you want to be a skuxx, ladies man, etc.
Learn how girls work, because they develop and mature faster then us guys!
Once you learn the tricks of the trade, you will be set for life, bro!
Let us know if you score the gal, ye?

 

Well, she's coming over in 2 hourse so excited :nuts: but I'm not sure what we're going to do when she gets here lol >_<