</3 The Job called Life

A bit about me:
Although I am only 16, and a junior in highschool, I loved,no....LOVE, this girl so much. Im what one of the highschoolers call annoying and a nerd. I'm that white kid in all of the AP classes that has a job and tries to stay fit but is a little chubby. We all know this kid, I was in the band for two years (freshman/sophomore) as a snare drummer in the drumline. I quit this last year though because my job and school were becoming overwhelming. During my freshman year I started dating a Varsity Cheerleader, we were dating since then. I have loved her since the moment I first said hello.


The extravagance of life:
It was once said that "Life is but a game"

An Epiphany of My Own:
The realization that this fact is extremely false has hit me today. On this eve, at approximately 6:30 pm, that this quote, is faulty. My gf of over 1.4 years broke up with me. Even though it was not said, we are done. I have not cried in over 5 years up until now.

The Overview of the past ~3 Months:
Have been hectic. My AP Course load and new job as a cashier have taken over my life. My GF has joined the banned as a marching cymbal player. We hardly see each other, in, and out of school. When we do, it is usually on the weekends for an hour or two, nothing major. She is also a ticket girl at the local movie theater, has been in drivers ed, and has been in the band; her life is also hectic.

Recently (~1 Month):
My girlfriend tells me she sorta has "small feelings" for another guy... This is because (her words) that "You (me) weren't there for me and he was being nice and I guess I just wanted that." she then stated that she'd stop talking to him for awhile to get over him. This became a bit of a problem because they work together. To avoid another fight with my girlfriend, I didnt even bring him up again, thinking that shed get over him. I havn't really seen her in a week at this point.

The Past Week:
Things have been really rough, she hasn't answered my texts. My calls are sent almost instantly to voicemail (ignore key). I no longer see her in school; she is in the library first period and I am across the school... Havn't seen her in a month. She blew me off on Saturday for one of her friends (a girl)...

Today:
I finally text her saying 'WTF is wrong'. She had posted a status about today being the best day ever. Then she texts me saying she had a good day. When I ask why, she says stuff. So I say "another guy" and she says "ya sorry. i got asked to homecoming" (only seniors + dates can go), and I say "and of course youre going?" and she says "yah i just wnat to have fun ive been so misrible lately" ect/... So i call her and her friend answers and starts being a bitch then she gets on and says that she figured we'd be broken up by the time the homecoming party was so it wasnt a big deal.... then I say it is a big deal (we've had alot of jealousy issues in our relationship), she had denied going to the sophomore/junior dance with me because she doesnt see a point in school dances. Homecoming is a school dance (keep that in mind). Then shes goes off saying that it's a group of her work friends [so i ask if the kid she likED asked her and she said yes], my follow up question to her was do you still like him and she said yes. so then she just hurries off the phone to eat dinner, and its been over an hour so we are practically broken up </3

my question to all of you... how do I get over someone I love so much. I would kill myself if it ment she wouldn't have to. I'd marry her if I had the chance, I would've done anything for her....

so I guess my real question is.... what do I do? :'(



tl;dr fags
FUCK OFF

 

Time will heal this. I dated a girl in high school, thought I absolutely loved her, and 7 years after I graduated I got married, and still hang out with the old girlfriend with no feelings for her. Just keep on going making those good grades, try harder to get in shape if it is what you want, and live life for the moment. Do not try to impress anyone. I know sometimes peer pressure gets to you, and you make split second retarded decisions, but you live with them. Whatever happens you always have to think of it as a positive influence on your life.

 

Its just I feel like snapping this kid's neck. The kid that is taking her to homecoming.

Just the fact that I know she will be dancing with another guy, the fact that I know she will hug him, kiss him and he will feel her. It hurts me. So far down inside

 

Just blow her off, She wants to talk to you? Fuck her, ignore her. It will kill her.

My Story:

Dated a girl for about 8 months, 2 months into it she tells me she has feelings for my best friend of 10 years, I'm pissed as fuck. Tell her to stay away from him. More time goes by and I eventually break up with her because I move away.. A week later she is dating my best friend. She trys to text me like nothing is wrong, I tell her why the fuck would you date my best friend right after me.. Apparently she thought we weren't even friends.(bullshit she knew well)

TL;DR I tell her to go fuck herself and ignore her forever... She still texts me every once in a while only to get no response.

 

I can sympathize with you my friend. I know the feeling of loving somebody with your whole entire heart, and slowly watching that person begin to drift away from you for whatever reason (in your case, another guy). I lost the love of my life about a year and a half ago and it was probably the single most devastating thing I have ever lived through. So I cannot lie to you and say it is going to be easy and you will get over her overnight, because you won't.

But in all honesty man, she actually doesn't sound like a very nice girl. I know you love her and I have no right to argue with your feelings (as I'm sure you have had many wonderful experiences together). But it sounds to me as if she is only putting a half-assed effort into your relationship, cheating on you emotionally with other guys while you guys are still together rather than trying to fix the problem, and also making no time for you in her life whatsoever. I think a break up would have been inevitable at some point unfortunately

You sound like a good guy and you have ALOT of things going for you. This will hurt like hell but don't let it ruin your life. Keep making your grades, working your job, working out and toning your body etc. and just try as hard as you can to make it through day by day until things start to look up. It may take many months, but eventually things DO get better, and you will accept the fact that she is not in your life. I guarantee that at some point down the road too, you will meet an even sweeter and more beautiful girl who will be more compatible with you than your current girlfriend ever was, and you will forget all about this whole relationship.

Just remember - you deserve the best that you can get, so why settle for anything less? Particularly a partner who is not even that into you.

 

Good lord. I'm so close to going through something similar. That is really low of her to do that after you had been dating for so long. She doesn't seem like a good person, especially since she would do that to you. I'd tell her to fuck off and try my hardest to make her feel like shit.

 

To be Honest with what she said i'd break up with her anyway. I wouldn't bother chasing after her if she agrees to going to homecoming with another guy =/
Moping around the house won't help, best thing to do is spend time with your friends. You're 16, you'll find someone else even though it'll be hard. I know I didn't even move from my bed for 2 days to even eat after my first big break-up but it'll pass.

 

I've looked over this thread a few times and the best advice I can really give you is to just let this one go, as great as she may seem to have been to you, what she's doing is shady and flat out messed up. You're young, you've got life to live, don't waste time on this girl. She's not worth what you're willing to give her. Maybe someday she'll realize that, but for the time being just get up, get out and live life.

 

Your best friend is the asshole not the girl.