So yeah.. some advice about a girl?

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Hey man, interesting read. I'd honestly just tell you to go for it. Rejections happen, and you'll never have an opportunity in forming an actual relationship if you're worried about rejection. I've been in the same situation a few times in the past. (I'm guessing you're high school age?). But yeah, just let her know that you're there for her, and also make sure to compliment her often. Ladies love compliments..

Best of luck, and keep us updated!

 

College! Yeah just abit "scared" if i were to ask her out & she rejects me that it would make it awkward in class & i also don't want to rush things & will do! I deffo want to give it all a shot tho, been a long time since i've been interested in someone like this. I'm just not sure how

 

Ahh, yeah I personally wouldn't ask her in class. My professors would have a field day with that one.. I'd suggest trying to make conversation close to the end of class so you can walk out together; walk her to her car, or ya know.. put in the works. Ask her to hang out sometime, maybe catch a flick, get some lunch/dinner.

 

Hi man,
Okay so she's obviously interested in you. Doesn't mean shes not like this to others though, which you have better judgement on I think.
Now, it's only early days, and she just shared something very personal with you. Its very normal for her to sober up and realise she was maybe too open, too soon with you. I wouldn't approach her more than just 'i'm here if you want to talk about anything', she may be a bit embarrassed/needs some time to just recoup, you know?

Although this opinion is often taken negatively, I think a lot of people who say that they are sad or even depressed, may actually just be attention/sympathy seeking (to an extent, please don't be offended, to anyone who reads this). Therefore, if she opened up to you and proposed that she was sad, it might be a small cry for attention from you. Now i'm not saying she is lying about being that way, but just the fact that she tells you about it is trying to draw some sort of emotion from you, and it works, right? Its an Okay sign imo. But, i reiterate, she may be doing this to other people as well.
Its up to you whether to investigate if she does this to more than just you or not (by asking fellow classmates or her), but its risky because on the one hand, if word got out that you spread info like that, she would definitely not want to talk to you. But on the other, it saves a lot of hurt down the line if she is like this with everyone.
IDK if i'm going on a tangent here or not, so apologies if i am. Just words of wisdom, goodluck man.

 

Thats what i was thinking, she's very social so it's certainly possible. But the pic she sent me of herself you kinda saw that she cried i doubt she would send that to other people that might be a little embarrassing for her. But yeah not sure what to think of it, was thinking of sending her a text tomorrow evening something like, "Hey i hope you're feeling a bit better! I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to." The thing is i just can't keep up with the "have a bad boy attitude" i'm just a friendly guy who just likes to tease a little but in cases like this when she openly tells me she's not happy i just can't do anything else but be totally friendly which "scares" me to be friendzoned by her

 

I mean let's say i ask her out to grab dinner or lunch & she rejects me. Wouldn't that make it awkward when we're in class together after that i can imagine she would tell her girlfriends in class etc i think i'd feel pretty awkward

 

If you see her multiple times a week, no need (dont imo) double text her if the first time wasnt responsive. Re-reading your first post, it seems she might actually be more sincere than i first thought, as she didnt want to reply to your message, showing she wasnt simply attention seeking.
I would just talk to her in class about whatever, small talk. Remove the uneasiness, then once youre in conversation and its more chilled, you then decide (by feeling the energy/direction of convo) if she A. Wants to forget about what happened or B. Wants to talk about it but is kinda embarrassed. Either way, stepping stones, yep? Better than where you are now. If its option A, im sure later down the line itll pop up anyways.

 

I'd suggest asking her out for lunch after class, like not on a "real date".. I'm assuming you've only gotten to know eachother recently, so rushing it is definitely something I wouldn't do. Then you can talk about what happened with her and see if there's some chemistry when you're both together, but alone.

It should be easier to get a feel whether or not you should proceed from there.. Keep us updated

 

Without talking more to her beforehand or about what she texted me about being unhappy? What is she rejects me, wouldn't it make it awkward for us in our class? If she tells her friends in our class that i asked her out for lunch etc..

 

I don't think it will make it awkward, to be honest.. How many of the guys have tried with her? Probably none, if anything it will make her respect you more for it.
If she does end up telling the rest of the class, it's a girl you don't want to end up with anyway..

 

Other people giving you plenty of solid advice but I'm going to suggest 1 detail tweak - ask her out to dinner rather than lunch. Lunch is much more casual than dinner and while it may not be misconstrued as a "friends" sort of gesture, it also could be.

 

True, thanks!

I have no clue i know from our class 1 guy that she spoke about & that he seemed very desperate. But i can imagine a lot of guys try to get her attention but i doubt many guys would straight up ask her out


Anyways she replied to my last text of last night a few hours ago when i was still sleeping & said she still feels a little sad but that it would be over tomorrow.

I replied that i'm here for you if you need someone to talk to or need someone to brighten up her mood & made a little pun with her name about it.

She laughed and replied thanking me for the support just now which i just replied to;

No problem, are you feeling a bit better?

She replied that she was but that she did something dumb & would talk to me about it in real life

i replied; thats fine & we all do something dumb at some point in our lives the best you can do is learn from it

But i'm totally not getting the feeling now that she's interested in any way, might of have just been drunk & was anyone that she could of have texted just happened to be me

 

I would just take her out to eat after school, I know we used to do it all the time with friends. It makes it more “casual” and less of a date, she will be able to be more open to you about it. If she gets the feeling it’s a real date, she might not want to say or embarass herself, you know? Just feel the chemistry.. after that you can move on from there and ask her out on a real date if you feel like there’s something there.

 

Thats assuming she wants to do that tho, if she was really interested she'd keep the conversation going right? Which she isn't doing

 

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Asked her out for dinner & she replied very positive going on a date next week

Thanks for the tips, we'll see how it goes

 

Good to hear, happy for you

 

Just be polite, Well manned. And come up with a back up plan if it's not going too well, If you are at that point where it's turning bad just fucking leg it and let her pay for the dinner! hope this advice is the best u have came across, No problem man best of luck with ure date.

 

I hope she's not the kind of girl that expects guys to pay lmao,

 

If she's worth it, Pay. If she ain't fucking leg it! I don't go on *Dinner dates* often Because i'm not that sort of person, I like a drink at a pub/club I think having a couple of drinks loosening you up to be who u both really are, I hate it when people pretend to be something when they ain't.