Should I try to get back with my ex?

So, my ex dumped me 1 month before I left to another country. Her reason being she didn't think of me in that "way" anymore.
Now, our relationship was pretty great. We didn't really get that close sexually, in 4-5 months but we hugged, kissed, held hands and that shit. I loved her loads, and she told me the same like almost every day. The break up was really sudden, and took me by surprise.

Anyways, so i'm not quite sure if that's the ACTUAL reason behind her breaking up with me. It could be her getting over with it cause she can't handle long distance and she knew it'd eventually end, or her actually losing feelings for me, which I doubt.

So now i'm moving back to the country where she lives (where I used to live) So i'm wondering now, should I start texting her again to try and get back with her, once I move back of course. It's been like 10months since we talked, and more than a year since we broke up

Should I even bother? I still love her :l And she did or still does. Or should ex's remain ex's. She was kind of bitchy about it, like she doesn't even text me anymore as friends, but it's understandable. I was leaving her.

Btw, she doesn't know that i'm going to be moving back. She still thinks its permanent

What should I doo?

 

When a relationship breaks up it will never be the same as it was the first time, even though you were moving to a different country. Yeah it's fun to be in a relationship because you get perks of things such as someone to keep you company at all times, but getting back into a relationship where you have broken up before is not fun because it will just repeat itself.

 

In this instance, u guys loved each other very much and usually u shudnt get bak with ur ex BUT its completely normal for a girl not to be able to handle long distance relationships ESPECIALLY if u she thought ur leaving her for good. So in this case if she broke up with u because of that, ill say definitely get bak with her once ur bak

 

Sorry to break it to you but it sounds like she found someone else.... same case for me with my ex.

 

When you get back to her country, maybe contact her and meet up for coffee and see what's up with her and maybe even ask if she's seeing someone or if she wants to give it another shot.

EDIT: I'd like to add more to this. I really think you should try and meet up and talk about your breakup and your relationship and everything. Women aren't the heartless, soul-crushing monsters that the internet often makes them out to be. Perhaps she broke up with you before you left to try to protect herself from the hurt of you leaving. She could have been 100% more devastated about you leaving than you were and breaking up before you left seemed like the only way to get used to the idea of you not being in her life. That breakup could have been the hardest thing she's ever done, and for all you might know she spent the next few days in her room crying about it. Or maybe she didn't want to face a long distance relationship. Or maybe she met someone else or maybe she was being full out honest about just not feeling the spark like she did before. You won't ever know and you won't ever get a nice sense of closure unless you talk to her face to face.

 

I wouldn't bother tbh, once a relationship is gone, it never works out when you try to get together again, same goes with marriage.

 

What? No...

 

Thanks for the replies everyone. I agree that, you shouldn't go back in destroyed relationships, but this is a different case. I will never know the true reason we broke up, so I have to try.

I agree with you and l0lly

Thanks for the advice. I still have a few months before I move back, so what should I do in the meantime? Text her and tell her i'm coming back? Or wait until I actually move there?

 

Don't listen to this guy, PLEASE. I think sometimes people need to lose one another so they can realize how much they need each other. That's how it went with me and my current girlfriend of over 14 months.

Surprise her one day, contact her and tell her you are moving back. Although, expect the worse. Women can move on fast depending on their personality.. She may have someone else in her life now..

Best of luck, and I hope to hear what happens!

 

honestly,if you're even asking about this you should try to give it another go because what you're looking for is a strong yes go ahead man and good luck

 

The honest and simple answer is no. Take advice from someone who was in limbo with deciding whether or not to get back with his ex for about 5-6 months. Not to mention she cheated on me and I STILL wanted to go back.

Just think of it like this. You guys broke up for a reason, there was an issue that caused things to end and you guys breaking up and getting back together won't change that. The little fights will always be there, relationships don't last/work because there are no fights, they work because despite the fights they are worth it.

Just try to find someone new who's better and makes you happy

 

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