I met this girl...

Well due to recent events in my past, I have to retake senior year of Highschool(Lol). And I met this girl Krystal in my 4th period.

At the beginning of school she sat on the other side of the room from me and I didn't pay much attention to her, but then we got moved around and she eventually sat near me.(lol lucky me) But we eventually started talking and talking to the point where I piss the teacher off alot. But fuck it, I like her, and we have no phone and she has no Facebook.

Anyway she just seems like one of the most amazing girls I've ever met! She's very soft spoken, and polite, intelligent, very mature, and just beautiful! She loves transformers and star wars and stuff like that(WoW included), which is fucking awesome.. And she also drinks Not like to the point of passing out but you know, juss chillin. (and she said she loves to cuddle when she drinks)

She seems perfect, really. But the fucked up part is, she has a boyfriend She mentioned him once slightly.. I guess they've been together for like.. a while before May 2010. They've been to Winter formal and Prom together for their Junior Year.

It's just that it throws me off a lot and I wonder if I should still try. I'm just tired of not going for what I want and letting potentially amazing things disappear from me. I really like her.. Should I just disregard the fact that she has a boyfriend and pretend she doesn't? It's not like I hit on her and flirt with her and shit.. We actually talk and make each other laugh a lot. I donno.. I'm confused on how to explain the question I guess.

And last night I saw my friend Brandon and he said this weekend he's having a kickback, and I started thinking if I should ask her, but I don't know if I should or not.

Do you think even though she has a boyfriend she'd still be willing to get to know me? Or do you think she would just dismiss all thoughts of being with other guys, and just see me as a friend. I guess that just depends on if she's happy or not -.- I donno Just random shit I've been thinking about a lot. I really want this one though..

 

If she has a boyfriend and they have been dating for that long, she is probably commited to this guy a little bit. But there is nothing stopping you from getting to know her and be friends. Invite her to the kickback, you know just to hang out, but she would probably bring her boyfriend most likely. Just keep your options open and get to know her, be friends for a while. There is always that chance they could break up, and then when all of that settles(if they do happen to break up), go for it and ask her out. It could potentially ruin things for you if you try and get together with her since she has a boyfriend, but flirting is not always a bad thing.

 

I say, keep doin what you're doin. So what if she has a boyfriend? Respect that and don't hit on her. Be there for her so that when their relationship falls apart (Statistically speaking, it will), you'll be right there to pick up the slack and work your way into her life.
But knowing that she's not available, go and get some snatch while you're waiting for her. Live it up while you can.

 

I would say continue what your doing, if she decides she likes you more than that's her choice, it not your choice to decide who she goes out with, just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean you still can't be friends
Anyways goodluck

 

Exactly that^

Also, if she says she won't come to your kickback thing because she has a boyfriend; just say "are you not allowed to have friends or something?".
That normally changes their mind.

 

Keep her as a part of your life as a friend. Don't try to do anything stupid like ruin the relationship, but be there for her as a person and friend. Don't let things get complicated because the more into her you get, the more difficult it'll be to hold back thoughts of anything more than a friendship if she does stay with her boyfriend for longer. Be her friend, don't be too pushy for more, let it play out with time, but don't let her go.

 

If shes flirting with you, relationship isnt serious and neither will the one you make with her if your planning to.

 

I've had the gross role in the past in pursuing girls with boyfriends.

Although a couple of them have resulted in me being with the girl for a short period of time, it wasn't worth the guilty feeling of stripping a girl who someone else obviously deeply cares about.

Literally drove me insane, I will never be able to do it again, being more-so of an altruist.

 

Put yourself in the boyfriend's shoe and there's your answer.

 

I'd remain friends with her, get to know her, but don't get too attached because she currently has a boyfriend and you won't likely be able to do much. If they break up, comfort her, and then start making moves

Rs Emperor

 

Hit the nail on the head.