Relationship extremely over rated.

I've been dating for a while now and I've just lost that spark from when I first started. Even sex it's not that enjoyable anymore I mean yes it feels good but I don't hunger for it anymore like I use too I swear I actually get more tired from sex then when I go to the gym. Maybe it's me just started working full time couple of months ago I feel like i'm putting to much time into work but then again I have no choice. Two days i'm off I don't even want to go out with her I just want to stay home and relax but she won't let me it's driving me crazy. Anyone been in this situation? what should I do break up with her? I feel like i'm carrying to much weight on my shoulders right now and letting this go will lighten the load a lot for me.

 

Talk to her, obviously there's issues and you cant guess them. Talk, and if it's better for you, then breaking up might be what you need.

 

Like Roary said, try talking to the girl. She would probably understand

 

I have gone through a similar situation and I think in car is part of growing up and being comfortable with a women/girl. My girlfriend and I pretty much did the same thing where I was working graveyard shift and found that I have very little to no time to spend with her going out drinking or hanging around her friends all I wanted to do on my time off was relax and watch TV chill out more or less. I ended up taking her for granted and have her leave me temporarily and she was bored of just hanging around the house which really pushed me towards trying to be a better boyfriend and finding time for her outside of work.

At the end of the day man I think you need to talk to her and tell her exactly how you did here and explain to her the problems you're having and see if you can come up with some kind of solution . Talking is usually one of the better options when it comes to relationships.

Good luck man!

 

Like everyone has said, just talk to her about it. Plan special dates, where you are both off and can do something fun. Maybe go on a date or something if you feel bored with the relationship, or try something new.

 

Sounds like you're using your energy on work so you'd rather lounge around then spend your free time with your girlfriend. Either that or something happened within the relationship that made you no longer as attracted to her as you were before.

 

I broke up with her yesterday done with women for a good while she told me to enjoy jerking myself off LOOL.

 

I would have talked to her about it first since the issue was you having a lot on your shoulder and stuff. In my opinion, the relationship ends if there are no more feelings but if there still are and external problems are affecting it its still better to try and salvage the situation. Would still like to offer my opinion even tho you have broken up with her. However the decision is definitely yours and I wish you all the best with life

 

Maybe she isn't what you thought she was, apparently, you made the right decision if she's going to act that way.. :noworry:

 

let her know how you feel, and if she can relate maybe you should do something about it.

 

Talk to her about how you feel and if she doesn't seem willing to try and compromise with what you need then you should end it because then she is obviously not worth it or the right one.

 

I did attempt to have a calm discussion regarding the issue but she refused to listen. It was never a mutual relationship I was always attending to her every need and I couldn't keep it together she was giving me stress preventing me from achieving goals I have... For example I've been bulking for 5 months and she kept telling me I eat to much I'm a gym addict etc... So I sat her down and said we are done if you want to be friends i'm up for it, she didn't take it so good already she's been busy letting everyone know she broke up with me but that's okay I honestly don't care what people in general think of me.

 

Sounds like every "relationship" I get into.

I don't get into them anymore. Personally, I can admit I'm a pretty heartless individual, having a "partner" doesnt interest me.

I'd suggest for you to find someone you can have sexual encounters with regularally with no strings attached. Even if its this girl, just keep pushing her away. That works best for me.

Probably not the beat advice for someonr looking to get married or anything anytime soon, but it works for me and keeps the drama to a minimum. Hope this helps.

 

You've lost the spark, happened to me before and I was just telling myself to make it work, do what makes you happy, don't feel the spark anymore... You know what to do :/

 

Communication is the foundation of every relationship, without it you have nothing.