Relationship Advice? Sythe don't let me down.

[lilq20]

Does she really want me? Please I need help, big time.?




Ok, so I hope y'all will read this and help me out. I have a girlfriend of almost a year, but throughout the course of this year we have had a somewhat rocky relationship for about the first six months, but since then everything has been pretty smooth. However, one of the past issues came up once very recently but in a much smaller scale and was dealt with swiftly and efficiently and no problems arose. The problems we had within the first six months were between her, another guy, and I. She thought about cheating a ton and told him she would and had scheduled to hang out with this extra guy quite a few times but never went through with it. We took breaks and I broke up with her once during these times, but we got back together and have been great. He came back confessing his love for her recently, but she was like I just don't know how to reject him. I helped her and he has been gone. That's just a little background, now the main story. Her and this guy who lives in the same neighborhood as her have been becoming very close friends. We are teenagers so she hangs out with him all the time to do homework and stuff, and because I live on the other side of town I can't see her all the time. They are now like best friends and are very close. They are quite comfortable with each other and don't mind getting close. However, this friend is not very attractive, or so people say, and I am much more attractive than him, or so people say. She always tells me I have nothing to worry about and that they are just friends, but she does get extremely upset whenever I question her about him or tell her I am not comfortable with him having his arm around her and stuff. I am worried that this is going to undermine our relationship, this friendship maybe more. He touches her casually and sometimes I walk into a room and he will have his arm around her and she will be curled up next to him. Should I have to worry about this? Please help, I can give more information if necessary.


The guy is like 6'1 and kind of chubby. He's definitely not gay and has never had a girlfriend before. She cares about him a lot, like she was hurt when he goes out and drinks and was going to try weed, and they are best friends. He is not in any means, very attractive so I guess I have that on my side, but I care about her so much and we were best friends before hand. I definitely have lost my role as best friend, I just don't see her cheating on me, but I also may just be blinded by my feelings towards her.

 

[Zypur]

If you're looking for relationship help on here man, she deserves better. This is the kinda thing you need to figure out on your own.

Come on, seriously bro?

 

[SwiftSeller]

If you're gonna ask a bunch of computer programming, RS/WoW playing, gold trading nerds advice on girls you fail.

Since im not any of those above I'll help you tho!

99% that someone cheats when they get suspicious of YOU.
If she bugs you about what girls you talk to, chances are shes nervous and is already cheating on you.

As for the other dude. Throw it up to her. Say "Aye Bitch! You want dis homie or you want me?"

Give her a few days to decide if she really needs that kind of time.

But if shes already told you she loves you, etc. then she shouldnt need that long, and if she does then shes def cheating or wants to cheat.

Maybe shes a gold digger and is going for both dudes.

 

[DylanAn]

If you're looking for relationship help on here man, she deserves better. This is the kinda thing you need to figure out on your own.

Come on, seriously bro?

I can't stand people like you.

Go back to being all high and mighty and never needing help with anything, kay?


First off, most cheaters cheat again, not to scare you, it is a fact.
The ones that don't are usually the ones that feel so sincere when they came back to the one they cheated on.

If she get's angry when you ask it could be because of you not entirely trusting her, bit you have very good reasons to not trust her.

What I would do is ask him, go to the other guy for help, ask questions, but don't ask them harshly.

 

[Swan]

I can't stand people like you.

Go back to being all high and mighty and never needing help with anything, kay?


First off, most cheaters cheat again, not to scare you, it is a fact.
The ones that don't are usually the ones that feel so sincere when they came back to the one they cheated on.

If she get's angry when you ask it could be because of you not entirely trusting her, bit you have very good reasons to not trust her.

What I would do is ask him, go to the other guy for help, ask questions, but don't ask them harshly.

No, he's right. These things are only really truly learned from experience.

 

[MegaMatt]

Try to get more involved when they're hanging out. If you don't really have much of a problem with the guys personality you may become more comfortable with them being friends if you start hanging out with them both.

 

[MMO KING]

The biggest denominator in a relationship is age, 30 year olds date diffrent 13 year olds. Please post your age.

Otherwise, me love you long time big kisses and make you feel good.

 

[shakaka]

Meh, you have reasons to worry and reasons not to worry.

Reason not to worry: He's just a friend. Friends are ALWAYS just friends in a girls eyes. If you become a girls friend before you get into a relationship, the relationship will have less intimacy than if you were not friends beforehand, it's a fact.

Reason to worry: Friend = connection. If he's just a friend, she DOES have feelings for him in one way or another, and I would personally consider what she's doing cheating.

Believe me dude, I've been there, and it's hell. The best thing to do is to not interfere too much. It's her life and her choice to do what she wants, let her decide. If you interfere, it will pressure her to stop hanging out with him, she probably will. However, in the long run it will make her unhappy and there will be some tension between you two because you made her lose a friend because of your jealousy.

What I would do: End the relationship. I know it's been a year, and it's easier said than done, but it's probably the best thing to do. If she cares for you, SHE will make the sacrifice of losing a friend for your relationship, and the burden will be on her conscious instead of your relationship with her.

 

[Big-cow]

Hey man!

Well really she has technaclly 'no offence' got bored off you. You must try to get that away from her, do romantic things, take her out, show her that you love her, love her ALOT. She might think you love her a little, which in some cases she will go to another boy to seek a higher type of love.

Now i know what im saying is kinda shify, but the point is that you need to prove to her you still love her. Remember 'Money dose not buy happiness' and that for a point is dont go out buying her gifts and what not. Just do some small romantic things.

For example take her on smalls dates, no fancy shit, small picnics, maybe watch the sun go down one night. Just something to prove to her you really love her.

Now, if this dose not work. You should really concider dumping her. I know its hard, and in the past times ive had to do it too. The real reason is that she dosen't feel the same type of love you feel for her anymore. But that's if worst comes to worse.

Cheers + Hope i helped!

 

[DylanAn]

No, he's right. These things are only really truly learned from experience.

And if you want to trash a relationship for learning purposes, you don't deserve to have a girl/boyfriend.

The way I learned was when I was clueless, I asked for help and learned from what happened when I followed advice, now I never need to ask for advice.

 

[Anti-Virus]

No, he's right. These things are only really truly learned from experience.

Right! That's why Zypur doesn't know shit.

 

[Atomic]

Maybe she just isn't into the whole "wall of text" thing?

Chicks dig well structured posts.

 

[TDD]

Maybe she just isn't into the whole "wall of text" thing?

Chicks dig well structured posts.

I totally agree, no self-respecting chick would go for a guy who can't even structure a paragraph or two correctly. Why the hell are you asking a group of kids on a Runescape forum advice about women anyway? It's rather pathetic.

This is something you're going to have to man up and work out for yourself, there is no right or wrong answer here, you have to deal with it the way you think you should. Don't talk to the douches here, talk to your girlfriend. Communication is key. If you can't talk openly and honestly to your girlfriend about this then there is no point being in the relationship in my opinion, share your feelings with her, and listen to hers, and sort it out.

 

[Rabs]

Talk it through with her bro, it's the best option!

 

[SAYANK]

I totally agree, no self-respecting chick would go for a guy who can't even structure a paragraph or two correctly. Why the hell are you asking a group of kids on a Runescape forum advice about women anyway? It's rather pathetic.

This is something you're going to have to man up and work out for yourself, there is no right or wrong answer here, you have to deal with it the way you think you should. Don't talk to the douches here, talk to your girlfriend. Communication is key. If you can't talk openly and honestly to your girlfriend about this then there is no point being in the relationship in my opinion, share your feelings with her, and listen to hers, and sort it out.

making fun of how people structure their paragraphs over the internet, I'm sure you're a stud irl.

perhaps some people don't take the internet as seriously and feel it's a place where they don't have to do everything perfect or to a standard of other peoples needs?