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Hey, Thanks to everyone for this Support everyone is so kind I didn't really expect this it just makes u realise that not everyone is bad in this world.

Also Build I Rang a local gym who do martial arts classes, I will start next week!

 

If it is at the point of you getting physically assaulted I'm stunned the college don't know about it, you can be insta-booted out of college for hitting someone else.

This needs to be reported to the college, your tutor is likely the best option. Your education and your A Levels / Diploma (whatever it is you are studying) is what is important at the moment and is what will matter when you eventually finish and go onto employment / university.

 

Yea I agree with u, But grassing could make it worse. I am on the up though the support I've gotten i'm shocked. I thought I would be classed as a baby and told to man up.
And I really really want to go college, I want to study hard and achieve what I wanna do, Wish these people wasn't there. But bravos has made me feel like I can stand up to them more and believe in myself, I thank everyone for the support really means a lot, I'm so glad I joint sythe. If I didn't Idk what would happen to me, It's just nice knowing there are caring people out there.

 

If these people are bullying you they may be doing it to others also (or go on to do it to others). There is no way a tutor is going to go "man up", even in the Army bullying is not tolerated at all (in most cases, it does depend exactly on what goes on), so you are making things worse by hoping it will just go away.

 

Oh no u may be right, I never thought of it. I would hate for people to feel like me :'(. i'm just abit nervous about telling, I am going to tell my dad tomorrow then maybe the tutor if people are being the way I treated they might not have some nice people helping them out.

 

That's a good idea, speak to your dad first and then likely your tutor in college. Colleges do tend to welcome contact from student's parents in the 16 - 19 age bracket, so if you wanted to go to college with your dad or whatever to discuss what's going on that would perhaps make it easier (me I would just speak to the college myself, but obviously we're different people who've had different experiences).

My point still stands that the only thing that matters at the end is the grades you get (same with school), and this is certainly not something that should mess with that.

 

What experiences did you have? And yeah u made a great point if this is happening to someone else I might be able to help. I want to do more for people in my shoes, I was ready to end my Life as I was so down and depressed But this thread has inspired me to do something about it, I cannot thank you all enough.

 

hopefully in the uk there are clubs or fraternities you could possible join. Hopefully your advisor could possible help with this situation if bulling is happening in the class room. Also if you have the means (money) join a crossfit/jujitsu gym. Both of those will enhance your physical abilities and both have amazing family bond between members

 

I can't really say a lot more than what has already been said , these fuckers will most likely do it to more people than u i honestly see the age bracket u r in with kids my area and it is appauling the way they treat other people .

They literally copycat TV programs and will pick on anybody who isn't in a group so don't fret on silly thoughts that it might be just u. These pieces of shit chuck stones at cars , and will most likely be in prison by 18 years old if they don't grow up.

I hope college goes well for u , do ur best to stick at it and make sure u make it known to ur Dad, and ur tutor behind closed doors .

U will look back on this thread in 1 years time and hopefully have some satisfaction smiling from the top of a hill or atleast halfway up looking at rock bottom.

U can message me anytime about anything . I'm 26 years old and i'm from the UK too and can probably relate to more things than the Americans trying to help u.

 

Like I said I haven't really spoke to anyone about it, This has been a bit easier expressing myself due to the fact it's only the internet and no one knows me!, And I start martial arts next week to try give me some confidents. Thanks for the advice

 

hey thanks, And yeah people in my age bracket can be brutal and have no respect for other people, I don't wish prison on anyone but I can see it if they don't grow up , I still ain't told my dad but I will tonight, I hope because being at rock bottom is not nice, And thank you for ure kind words and support, Can we make a suggestion having a mental health selection where people can post there in times when they are at the lowest and rock bottom, I didn't really want to post here and be the only one to be have a depressing post . I see people having Happy threads about what to do with girls and stuff I don't think it has the 100% effect that people can post there problems and have really good support, I don't know where to begain but mental Health and sucides are a big thing, if People had a selection where it's just about supporting people it may bring more people into talking about their mental health, I just want to do more. And that's a really nice thread. your a good guy

 

Sorry to hear.
I'm also in the UK. Excessive 'Banter' in school can cross over into bullying. Don't for one second think its only you against the world, there are others out there who can provide help or friendship, i.e. here on sythe, people you've never spoken to in school, or even teachers.
If I were in your shoes, I would avoid contact with the bullies, and try to join a club or hang out in other classrooms at lunch, making new friends. Its just bad luck that the bullies started on you, nothing more than that. Stay positive dude, there are definitely other fish to fry in your college, make new friends!

 

Uni is a great place because you can find a friend group pretty easily. Join a random society or sport. Put some effort in and with time you will definitely be okay

 

If you’re being harassed and assaulted then you need to contact your university police or another campus authority and report it. You also need to confide in your parents for emotional support.

Most Universities also have hotlines with people who are there to be confided in and give you support.

I wouldn’t recommend going out of your way to meet aggression with aggression except in self defense. So take a self defense class if it makes you feel safer and more comfortable.

Surprising to hear though tbh. At my university if we saw a student being abused in the manner you describe, no one would stand for it. They’d be stopped and reported in no time at all. Your classmates are pretty lame if they let it happen.

 

Yeah college is not uni, Still aload of people who haven't grown up, I don't have anywhere to report apart from a teacher. And thanks Andy for the advice.