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As some of you may know, I've thought it would be a good idea for sythe.org to have a forum dedicated to personal support. It never really went though because sythe.org probably wouldn't be able to support enough activity to warrant a whole forum dedicated to it.

Recently I thought that making a topic dedicated to personal support would be a good idea, since everyone has a question they don't feel comfortable asking someone in real life, or needs someone who will just listen to what they have to say.

I'm putting this in Something For All because it is meant to be taken seriously and maturely. Please do not abuse the assistance I'm offering to you, and do not make fun of anyone that posts for any reason otherwise you will be infracted.

If you've got a question for me about anything I'm willing to offer my own advice, and if I don't know much I'll do some research and see what I can find out.

Feel free to post your question in this topic, but if you don't want anyone else to see it, PM me or add me on MSN ([email protected]), and I'll get back to you whenever I can. If you choose to ask me through PM or MSN, your identity will never be shared with anyone else.
 
ok so um theres this girl at my school that likes me and i like her just her mom hates me and im in her class ( im not the best student, great grades bad behavour), and iwana ask her out but her mom would kill me and im not sure my parents would aprove either, help?
 
ok so um theres this girl at my school that likes me and i like her just her mom hates me and im in her class ( im not the best student, great grades bad behavour), and iwana ask her out but her mom would kill me and im not sure my parents would aprove either, help?

How old are you?

I can understand where her parents are coming from, but when it comes down to it they are going to try and control who their children date for the first few times. You should really talk to your parents about dating and see what their feel is on it.

I'm not sure if this is the first girl you'd be going out with or not, but when I first started dating, I didn't tell my parents I was dating someone.
 
How old are you?

I can understand where her parents are coming from, but when it comes down to it they are going to try and control who their children date for the first few times. You should really talk to your parents about dating and see what their feel is on it.

I'm not sure if this is the first girl you'd be going out with or not, but when I first started dating, I didn't tell my parents I was dating someone.
im 13, this would be the first one py parents new about cause her parents would say somthing =\
 
im 13, this would be the first one py parents new about cause her parents would say somthing =\

Well, then it's really up to you and how you think your parents are going to react. Personally I'd try and get her to talk to her parents, but if that's not really going to work then there isn't too much you can do.

wow, a psychiatrist =P

I'm not trying to act as either a psychiatrist (someone who prescribes drugs for mental problems), or a psychologist. If you think your above the advice of someone else, then suit yourself.
 
shawn, I like you idea :d have a good time with this topic!

Let's ask you a question:
There's a girl always looking for me on school. She's a nice lady but somethimes it's just TO much! What should I say her about that? I mean, if I just say "FUCK OFF STUPID IIODOT" she won't do nice to me... Maybe you got some advice? I already kind of running away from her :p

thx already
 
shawn, I like you idea :d have a good time with this topic!

Let's ask you a question:
There's a girl always looking for me on school. She's a nice lady but somethimes it's just TO much! What should I say her about that? I mean, if I just say "FUCK OFF STUPID IIODOT" she won't do nice to me... Maybe you got some advice? I already kind of running away from her :p

thx already

If she's getting annoying to you, you shouldn't just tell her to fuck off per say, but you really are going to need to talk to her about it. Tell her that you don't want to start a relationship with her, and that what she is doing is too much. If she does want to get into a relationship with you, she will probably be mad at you for a while after you reject her, but that is totally normal and unavoidable.
 
If she's getting annoying to you, you shouldn't just tell her to fuck off per say, but you really are going to need to talk to her about it. Tell her that you don't want to start a relationship with her, and that what she is doing is too much. If she does want to get into a relationship with you, she will probably be mad at you for a while after you reject her, but that is totally normal and unavoidable.


Ya, was ganna plan to do myself :d.
I'll talk to her in two weeks when I have done exams. Hopefully not losing a friend just before summer! But let's wait how she's responsing to me. I'll le you know after!

thx shawn
 
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Shawn_ if you want too i can try and help out with this topic... I have had a fair few life experiences that i think would help me to be able to give some kind of relevant advice :P
 
Shawn_ if you want too i can try and help out with this topic... I have had a fair few life experiences that i think would help me to be able to give some kind of relevant advice :P

Go for it, any topics you want to cover specifically?

Add me on MSN aswell please.
 
Great idea Shawn_. I do not have a question to offer you, but rather my help. I've had some crazy things happen to me in the past so i think i could help some others out. Also in my school, I am a natural helper, which is cool because only 10 people are chosen out of the whole high school. =-O. If you think you've got it covered i understand, but i am just offering my help to you. Thanks for the consideration.
 
Wow. This is a great idea, I've been thinking about something like this too.
It's just that, some immature 'tards might actually spazz, flame, and act totally inappropriate, even these situations are serious.

Eh, I'll just start asking for a bit of advice? It's basically general.

What do you do to get a girl to be, crushed, and to like you?
No BS, I'm actually wondering.

It's not because I'm some gay ass retarded jerk with huge thick glasses with no life, I'm just wondering.

o.o
 
shawn, i really appreciate what you are doing here, and i completely support you :)

any questions i have, i will come to you with
 
Great idea Shawn_. I do not have a question to offer you, but rather my help. I've had some crazy things happen to me in the past so i think i could help some others out. Also in my school, I am a natural helper, which is cool because only 10 people are chosen out of the whole high school. =-O. If you think you've got it covered i understand, but i am just offering my help to you. Thanks for the consideration.

I think I'm fine right now, since there hasn't been a huge amount of activity that I haven't been able to handle, but if it gets to the point where I need some help I'll talk to you and DarkSpark. Since he asked first, I'll go to him first, but we will see how well this topic gets off.


Wow. This is a great idea, I've been thinking about something like this too.
It's just that, some immature 'tards might actually spazz, flame, and act totally inappropriate, even these situations are serious.

Eh, I'll just start asking for a bit of advice? It's basically general.

What do you do to get a girl to be, crushed, and to like you?
No BS, I'm actually wondering.

It's not because I'm some gay ass retarded jerk with huge thick glasses with no life, I'm just wondering.

o.o

Glad you like the idea I may be looking for help later on. Don't worry about the question, that's a very fair question and not many people will admit to needing advice with. I'll post a long guide for this later on, when I've got more time to write it.

Theres not really an easy "get a girl" gude, but I'll outline some main things here for you.

The following are four tips on how to impress a girl, mainly by first impressions, but also to give you the proper approach.

Confidence

This is a trait that noone can tell you how to do. You will have a lot of opportunities to express this in front of a woman. In front of a girl, you want to do nothing that will upset you, or disrupt your emotional state. If she's flirting with another guy, you don't care on the outside, and you know inside you are the real prize, she's making the mistake if she's going for another guy. It sounds like you are being cocky or an asshole, but your displaying that you are confidant in yourself, and that you aren't weak to the point where you will become very upset by her actions.

Smile

Smiling is a very simple way to demonstrate that you are happy, and have something positive to offer a woman. Smiling will make you look a lot better physically than someone who never smiles, and make sure you do it often in general. You don't want to look depressed to see a girl, you want to look happy and excited generally speaking.

Humor[/n]

This is often the part where guys mess up. Being "funny" and making her laugh all of the time, you become her entertainer, not her physically attractive partner who she wants to get sexually active with. Being funny displays your wit for a while, and it helps to maintain any sexual tension, but it is too easy to overdo, and it won't work past getting her attention. A good combination to use is cocky and funny, but it only works for so long before it becomes annoying quickly.

Grooming

Not just the simple stuff, such as bathing and brushing your teeth, but the more compex stuff, like keeping a fresh haircut, keeping your nails cut. Women go so far out of their way to look their best for everyone else, and likewise they are impressed when a guy goes the same 10 yards and does it for them. You could ask advice specifically as to what would look good on you from a female friend, but some may give you mixed feedback.

In terms of asking her on a date..

I hate date, I don't like the idea of calling it a "date". Dates are always over hyped, and they can be broken very easily. Not to mention all of those damn magazines that outline the "Ways to tell if your date is a keeper/loser". It brings too much to the table that she expects from you and it isn't worth it, at least as a first date.

I prefer hanging out as to going on a formal date.

Before you ask a girl, have something in mind. This will never work:

Guy: Hey, hows it going?
Girl: Great
Guy: I was thinking we should get together sometime
Girl: Yea, sure, where? What do you want to do?
Guy: I don't know... What do you think?

Your finished the second you say that. Make up before you say something, because women don't always like to take the lead role, they want men to make some decision themselves aswell.


Another big thing that girls like is contact, not nessesarly sexual contact, just touching in general. Put your arm around her, anything like that, nothing too advancing, while still making the contact. If you think the girl has something for you aswell, and you two are alone, make some sort of contact with her.

Proof that contact increases your odds:

article said:
A good-looking man approached 120 women in a night club over a period of three weeks, and asked them to dance. It was in the name of science – the man was an assistant to the psychologist Nicolas Guegen. Remarkably, of the 60 women who he touched lightly on the arm, 65 per cent agreed to a dance, compared with just 43 per cent of the 60 women who he asked without making any physical contact.

A second study involved three male research assistants approaching 240 women in the street and asking them for their phone numbers. Among those 120 women who the researchers touched lightly on the arm, 19 per cent agreed to share their number, compared with 10 per cent of the women with whom no physical contact was made.

Guegen says that when men make this light touch on the women's arms, they are perceived as more dominant which is an attractive trait associated with status.

Full Article

Well, theres a few tips for you, that I hope you can take.

If I had to pick the most important, I would say confidence, as it shows a lot about what a girl is looking for in a guy.
 
I'm paranoid about death/god/science.
Basically just consumed and afraid, trying to know everything. I want to just stop thinking about it but i can't. Advice?
 
I'm paranoid about death/god/science.
Basically just consumed and afraid, trying to know everything. I want to just stop thinking about it but i can't. Advice?

I'm not too sure on that one to be honest... Are you religious? You could try talking to your minister if you are.
 
I'm agnostic actually.
 
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Go for it, any topics you want to cover specifically?

Add me on MSN aswell please.

Well i can do anything.. hey even if its just on ones you have already covered having another opinion cant hurt can it... i cant get on msn much at the moment because im kinda in and outta places ATM... ill PM you my private im on it more k.
 
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