Parents trying to control my life.

I feel as my parents are trying to control me, and make me things I don't want to even do. I know parents are supposed to make there children try hard etc, but I don't even want them in my life at all. It started when i first tried out band. As I thought it might be fun to do, a few years later though I found out it was not something I want to be doing yet my parents made me go on. I am now in highschool and have been doing this fucking band shit (excuse my language) still, and I try to get out every year, but I simply can't they make me go on. No offense to any band members etc, but they have pushed me to where I now hate anything to do with music. This is not all they do too. They also make me try out for community, and varsity soccer every single year. They turn something that was originally fun, and cause me to hate it. They also threaten me to make top notch grades like my perfect sister, and I try my best but they are still dissapointed. I tried to get out of band for this upcoming school year, but when drove there and got my classes I found out that I had band once again this school year. I talked to the people there and they said I needed my parents approval to get out. I don't know why, but when I came back to ask my parents about it when I got the answer no I just burst into tears. I know it sounds lame, but I have been doing the same robotic schedule shit that they make me do every year, and now I'm just fed up with it. After just sitting in my room feeling extremely depressed my parents come in and say "We should just have you changed to drama class instead of band" then laugh, and leave. As I type everyone in the house is gone except for me, and i'm feeling extremely depressed. I don't think I would go a far as killing myself, but I want to just drive off and never come back. Please don't laugh/flame me this is not a joke.

 

Sorry i read it all but didn't see you asking any question as to what you should do. If this is just a rant to make yourself feel better, rant away

 

Do what I did, and rebel.

It worked, and now I have no problems.

 

That's prolly not the BEST advise. I did that and I was happy as ever. Volleyball used to make me very happy and my parents refused to let me play. They said they won't drop me off at practice etc so I walked to school. Then they went even further and told my coach that they don't want me to play and blla bla. I just started hating them and now my relationship idn't too great with them. If you don't want to ruin your relationship with parents then don't do it. But from reading your story I feel as if you already dislike your parents so what the hell. Some more dislike won't hurt if it makes you hapy.

 

What I did made me and my parents grow closer to be honest.

 

Tell your parents you are an individual. You are your own person. They can't change that.

 

I do I try to tell them that I just want to myself, but they don't listen. I guess it doesn't matter that much though, in a year or two I'll be moving to a completely different state, and the hell out of this house. No plans for coming back either.

 

You're best off not abiding by this "set" life they're laying out for you. You must take a stand, and rebel. If your parents don't like the way you're rebelling, then simply rebel even more. I'm not saying become a bad kid though, just stand up to them. You're the one controlling your life, not them. If they're the ones controlling your life instead of you, then that just means your weak-minded and your existence was never meant to be. I'm not trying to sound harsh by saying that though, but when you think about it, then it's true.

 

It's a scary world out there and they want to make sure your safe.

 

It's your life and you have a right to do what you want. Tell them that. If they still force you, rebel.

 

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to say:
Just keep up with them until highschool is over, when you are an adult.

Give yourself, maybe a year to think about your past life.

But I tell you this:
If you quit doing band/music, you will regret and miss doing it later in life

 

To be honest, your relationship with your parents is a very personal and situation-specific sort of thing. It's my personal opinion that every parent, no matter how demanding, careless, or obsessive, only wants the best they can do for their child and to see them succeed in life. They want them to be happy. Your parents wouldn't struggle in the current global economy to feed and cloth you and support you through these programs if they didn't want to see you develop these talents that identify you.

Sports such as soccer and activities such as band/music are part of you. I'm sure you once loved them. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you currently dislike them because your parents are making them "too much" part of your life. I believe that you would miss them if you quit them completely.

My suggestion is to let your parents know that you can stay on top of your life without them, and to let them give you a chance. Tell them that you are a highschooler and you are still deciding who you are. If they feel like you aren't finding your "direction" quickly enough, tell them that you are trying out new things and trying to identify your talents and skills that you want to pursue.

 

i know exactly what you mean..same story with my parents
it's annoying as hell.

 

ignore them my dads like ur parents :/ kicked me out wen he found out abt gf etc. but unlike u i have my mum to fall back on just tell them u wana do wat u like if they argue or still continue pushing u around just dont go to the dum classes till they have to physically drag u your old enough to make your own choices and your parents arent always right.

 

Try to impress them, once they're impressed and they know your trying then they might cut some slack. But if they're doing it to torture you then I guess you have to wait until your 18 to move out.

 

Thats bullshit dude. Until your 18 you should know to expect shit like that though. If you kill yourself that would be sad that you punked out of band class.

 

FUCK THAT BULLSHIT its a band
just dont go LMFAO

if you seriosly want to get in just crash one of the plays and theyl kick you out

either sit there and dont play your notes or anything
or make it sound incredibly horrible...embarassment for a day- your life back
pick?

 

%100 agreed

parents should be ther e for support and encouragement.

If they are FORCING you to do something you don't want to do then just don't do it. Straight up fail band on purpose. Unless you plan on going to a university right out of high school this won't effect your future education.

I honestly believe it's best to go to a community college and then transfer into a university.

Seriously though if you don't want to do something. Just don't do it.

When I was forced to go to catholic school for 3 years after asking each year to be taken out. I hated it because I was the only atheist their and was constantly being harassed. I finally just gave the big fuck you and didn't do anything at all but sleep until they flunked me out. I remember the only thing I did when I decided to fuck this school was the religion report, and I did it on how Catholicism was flawed over the years by humans.

YOU CAN REBEL. YOU CAN TAKE CONTROL.

Find what you want in life and go for it. Otherwise your just living someone's life that isn't yours.

 

Ok guys, I kept hounding them about band, and they finally allowed me to get out. Hopefully my life will be a little better now that I don't have to worry about those stupid concerts, rehearsals, etc. I'm kind of sad now to see band go, but am way more happy to be out. Thanks a bunch for the help!

 

whenever they talk to you, simply let it go in 1 year and out the other.