I posted this a while back, but it contained a large ammount of flaming and "f" words. But here it is, intellectually discuss.
Normally, a conversation about a friend hurting a friend would go like this:
*dudeA punches dudeB in the stomach while playing around*
*dudeB actually loses his wind, can't breath, and falls to the ground*
*dudeA's reaction is to fall to the ground, and help dudeB up*
*dudeA repeatedly says "Sorry" in an attempt to comfort his friend, and fix the situation*
*dudeB manages to shake it off, and gets back on his feet*
*both dude's laugh it off, and "sorry" fixed the situation*
That's nice right? It works like that quite often, but really, it's not a very good thing. If you re-read, you can see the point I am going to convey later. dudeA intentionally punched dudeB in the stomach. This shows that his action was in fact what he wanted. However, dudeB's reactiong was not intended. So dudeA, in response to dudeB's reaction, jumps to dudeB's aid and trys to fix the situation. He repeatedly says "Sorry" and helps his dudeB get over his pain. dudeB gets up, and they share a laugh. That shows that simply helping another, and appologizing will fix nearly any situation.
Let's see what would happen if he hadn't appologized:
*dudeA punches dudeB in the stomach while playing around*
*dudeB actually loses his wind, can't breath, and falls to the ground*
*dudeA's reaction is to fall to the ground, and help dudeB up*
*dudeB manages to shake it off, and gets back on his feet*
*dudeB punches dudeA in the face, and they both fight till one goes down completely*
Now, "sorry" seemed to have helped the situation in the first example, however, "sorry" in the scheme of things has given these two "friends" immunity from each other. Basically it's saying "if I appologize to you, you'll forgive me. And likewise". This can be seen as good, but how good is it, when the other friend does something serious and appologizes.
What I am saying is an appology has gone so far as to corrupt society. "Sorry" is looked at as a get out of jail freecard, and an attempt to save someone's own ass.
"Sorry" can be accepted, however, only in situations where harm was not intended, or accidents did not occur. An accident does not merit an appology, because the person doing so is only "sorry" that they had done it or that they could get into trouble. If it is intended, then you cannot be sorry that you had done so.
I understand there are those who are truly sympathetic, however, the majority of appologies heard today, are merely to save oneself from harsh judgement or bad reactions.
Discuss.
Normally, a conversation about a friend hurting a friend would go like this:
*dudeA punches dudeB in the stomach while playing around*
*dudeB actually loses his wind, can't breath, and falls to the ground*
*dudeA's reaction is to fall to the ground, and help dudeB up*
*dudeA repeatedly says "Sorry" in an attempt to comfort his friend, and fix the situation*
*dudeB manages to shake it off, and gets back on his feet*
*both dude's laugh it off, and "sorry" fixed the situation*
That's nice right? It works like that quite often, but really, it's not a very good thing. If you re-read, you can see the point I am going to convey later. dudeA intentionally punched dudeB in the stomach. This shows that his action was in fact what he wanted. However, dudeB's reactiong was not intended. So dudeA, in response to dudeB's reaction, jumps to dudeB's aid and trys to fix the situation. He repeatedly says "Sorry" and helps his dudeB get over his pain. dudeB gets up, and they share a laugh. That shows that simply helping another, and appologizing will fix nearly any situation.
Let's see what would happen if he hadn't appologized:
*dudeA punches dudeB in the stomach while playing around*
*dudeB actually loses his wind, can't breath, and falls to the ground*
*dudeA's reaction is to fall to the ground, and help dudeB up*
*dudeB manages to shake it off, and gets back on his feet*
*dudeB punches dudeA in the face, and they both fight till one goes down completely*
Now, "sorry" seemed to have helped the situation in the first example, however, "sorry" in the scheme of things has given these two "friends" immunity from each other. Basically it's saying "if I appologize to you, you'll forgive me. And likewise". This can be seen as good, but how good is it, when the other friend does something serious and appologizes.
What I am saying is an appology has gone so far as to corrupt society. "Sorry" is looked at as a get out of jail freecard, and an attempt to save someone's own ass.
"Sorry" can be accepted, however, only in situations where harm was not intended, or accidents did not occur. An accident does not merit an appology, because the person doing so is only "sorry" that they had done it or that they could get into trouble. If it is intended, then you cannot be sorry that you had done so.
I understand there are those who are truly sympathetic, however, the majority of appologies heard today, are merely to save oneself from harsh judgement or bad reactions.
Discuss.
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