Need help with this guy

[Devhardware96]

well, im bi, ive known it forever, and their is this guy... hes one of my best friends, but i dont think he is interested... at all.... and its breaking my heart, im a really emotional person, i have depression, and i just got over cutting a year ago... i dont know where to go next, because i more then just like him, i love him....
well, he will put his head on my shoulder, and we will get really close, but im not sure what he wants...

 

[uselesspoop]

Maybe try making things clear to him? As you said he puts his head on your shoulder, which is a form of intimidacy in my point of view. So there is a chance that he might have mutual feelings for you.

However, if it doesn't go well you guys still can remain close friends. If you like him you will respect his decisions and wish him happiness. And being friends isn't too bad either!

Additional : If you continue to behave so emotionally and do things like self-harm, you are going to end up doing something really extreme some day. I say you have to find a solution to your depression first, it is more serious. If you don't overcome depression, you are going to face many many other downs in future.

 

[Pleasure]

Hmm.. You just should talk to him straight.

 

[Robzombie179]

well, he will put his head on my shoulder, and we will get really close, but im not sure what he wants...

"Ask and you shall recieve."
"The dumbest question is the one that is never asked."


Ask him what he wants & tell him how you feel regardless of what he says... Maybe it will unlock more doors?

 

Just talk to him about random things and gradually get him into a conversation talking about gay/bi people and ask him if he is gay or bi, then you can tell him you're bi and he may open up a bit.

 

[Kadaj]

Just tell him straight. What's the worse that could happen?

 

[Apith]

Just talk to him about random things and gradually get him into a conversation talking about gay/bi people and ask him if he is gay or bi, then you can tell him you're bi and he may open up a bit.

I agree with this. However, it's not that easy for someone to open up and tell another that they are gay/bi. So you need an approach to be able to find out.

I also do agree with uselesspoop's post, we have the same views.

Just tell him straight. What's the worse that could happen?

Well first of all they're friends, no, they're best friends. It would make things really awkward, especially on the other guy's side when they hang out. It could really freak the other guy out. The guy might try avoiding him after finding out. Do some thinking before giving such advise, I don't even consider what you said an "advice". Personally, if someone approached me the way you told him to, I'd avoid them at all costs. Especially since I'm straight, it would be better if there was some sort of approach, because if there was, the odds would be better that we stay friends. Your "advice" doesn't fit in here at all, and it would only fit if it was someone he barely knew or didn't know at all.

 

I agree with this. However, it's not that easy for someone to open up and tell another that they are gay/bi. So you need an approach to be able to find out.

I said that because it's exactly how I told my friends how I was bi, granted it wasn't to someones I was attracted to, but it was how I brought it up.