Need Advice With A Girl.

[D God]

Alright, where to start off?
I'm a Junior at High School and since January 2010 I've been talking to this girl at school.
Yes, it's been quite a long time.
I first saw her in Algebra class and I thought she was cute.
I didn't make an attempt to talk to her or anything though.
Then in January of 2010 I used MySpace and one night I posted a status saying I was bored and if anyone wanted to text me they could.
I left my number in the status update.
That night she texted me and wouldn't tell me who she was for some reason.
The next morning she told me and I started flirting with her slightly.
I didn't want to lead her on or anything.
Anyhow, we flirted for two or three months.
I don't think she wanted anything serious and I was sure I didn't want anything.
Around March I was talking to my mate Eugene and he constantly talked to this girl (as friends).
He told me she liked me and that I should ask her out.
I told him I couldn't seeing as I had a girlfriend at the time.
I'm pretty sure he told her about this.
Anyways, she still continued to flirt with me and kissed up on me, bit my neck, sucked on my neck, etc.
I later found out she had a girlfriend (she's bisexual).
Her girlfriend ended up being one of my sister's close friends!
I didn't know what to do so I just tried stop talking to her even though she told me that she wanted to be with me and wanted to cheat on her girlfriend and whatnot.
I took a break from talking to her for some time and just chilled.
About two weeks later my girlfriend and I broke up and I started talking to this girl again.
We continued flirting and I started having feelings for her and wanted to be with her, but I never took the chance to ask her out because I was too shy.
Some time after that another guy Jon asked her out and she said yes... I didn't know what to do.
I simply felt like she played me, but it was partially my fault for being too much of a bitch to ask her out.
I stopped talking to her again for some time.
From about April 2010 to August 2010 we barely talked.
We wished each other happy birthdays when it was our birthdays and that's about it.
Also, she called me one night in the Summer when she was drunk saying that she rly liked me and wanted to be with me so bad, etc.
We didn't talk much at all during the Summer.
When it was late August and school was coming around I texted her and started flirting with her again.
We had cute conversations and also I attempted to help her with problems that she had.
I was trying to come off as a nice guy who would always be there for her.
We continued texting from September until about October and I just lost interest in texting her and talking to her irl.
I would still give her hugs and whatnot irl however.
Sometime during November she made a Facebook status saying "like this and I'll make you a video."
I liked the status and she made me a video. She told me she made mine the longest, lol.
In that video she talked about what an awesome guy I am, how I am always there for her, etc.
Half way through the video she brought up the conversation she and I had in the Summer about how much she liked me.
That showed me a sign that she still liked me.
We started talking a lot and she told me that she does indeed still like me.
So I continued to flirt with her during the month of December.
I felt as if we were at the peak and I told her I like her a lot and she told me she liked me a lot as well.
I decided to man up (maybe it was because I was totally fucked up) and I asked her out on New Years Day.
She gave me this whole lecture about how she is scared to be in a relationship and it's hard for her to give in.
She said she's bad at relationships, isn't ready, etc.
So I was just sitting there like WTF?!
I asked her "Do you expect to just sit here and wait on the sidelines for you to be read?"
She told me that she doesn't want me to wait and that I can do what I want.
She told me how she knows that it's not fun waiting like that, but if I rly wanted to I can.
So I thought about it for a while and I came to the conclusion that I would wait for her because I like her a lot and I want to be with her.
It is now February 22, 2011 and I am STILL waiting.
I talk to her frequently still, but I just don't know what to do.
It's been almost 2 months since I asked her out and I am still waiting on her.
I honestly don't know if I should say fuck it and go for other chicks or if I should wait.
I'm not just sitting here twiddling my dick or whatever though.
I do hook up with her and stuff, but I want to further and get into a relationship.
She has told me numerous times that she's DTF (down to fuck), but I don't care for the sex like that.
I just want to be with her as a couple.
I need some advice and it'd be nice if anyone could help me out.
Should I wait for her or should I tell her to fuck off?
Also, she doesn't like being sober at all.
On the weekends she's either fucked up on Weed or alcohol and I'm chill with her doing that sometimes.
I don't like the fact that she does it so often though.
I also want to say how she has done Cocaine two times which is a complete turn off!
I told her to stop doing that shit because it's going to fuck her up.
She promised me she won't do it and if she has the urge to do it she will tell me.

 

[Sanctuary]

Could you please un-center your text? I'll edit this once I'm finished reading, but that's making it extremely difficult.

Edit: Read it anyways, but it was quite painful.

First off, she comes across as a major skank. Throughout the whole thing she was with numerous other people for a short time, then bailed. It almost looks like she's just using them for whatever she pleases, then when it gets boring, moves on. That's just what I got from the quick read.

So with that being said, it looks like she's using you too. She's a party-er. She's simply out for personal pleasure, and you just happen to be one of the tools she's decided to use. So you have to ask yourself this question: What type of girl am I looking for? You said it yourself, you're looking for a relationship. Judging by her actions, that's the last thing on her mind. She doesn't want to be tied down.

So, tl;dr - find a new girl.

 

[D God]

Could you please un-center your text? I'll edit this once I'm finished reading, but that's making it extremely difficult.

Edit: Read it anyways, but it was quite painful.

First off, she comes across as a major skank. Throughout the whole thing she was with numerous other people for a short time, then bailed. It almost looks like she's just using them for whatever she pleases, then when it gets boring, moves on. That's just what I got from the quick read.

So with that being said, it looks like she's using you too. She's a party-er. She's simply out for personal pleasure, and you just happen to be one of the tools she's decided to use. So you have to ask yourself this question: What type of girl am I looking for? You said it yourself, you're looking for a relationship. Judging by her actions, that's the last thing on her mind. She doesn't want to be tied down.

So, tl;dr - find a new girl.

Uncentered.

She wasn't with a lot of people for a short amount of time.
The relationship I first knew she had (with one of my sister's close friends) was like 8 months... I just didn't know about it until the last month or so of it. Also, the relationship she had with that guy Jon was about 5 months or so. I don't deem those short relationship seeing as I have only had one relationship that has exceeded over 2 months. Yeah, she likes to party a lot. I like to party too just not as much as she does. I don't want to believe she is looking to use me. If she was going to use me, don't you think it would have already happened? It's not the last thing she wants. She's told me that she wants a relationship as well bu isn't ready. She has been fucked over a lot and is scared to give in. I do talk to other girls but none appeal to me like she does. I've never had feelings for a girl like I do for her. :|

Edit: Thanks for taking the time to read it and give advice.

 

[Sanctuary]

I don't want to believe she is looking to use me.

I do hook up with her and stuff, but I want to further and get into a relationship.
She has told me numerous times that she's DTF (down to fuck)

If she was going to use me, don't you think it would have already happened?

Hasn't she though..? Just because you don't want to believe it doesn't mean it's not true.

I do talk to other guys but none appeal to me like she does. I've never had feelings for a girl like I do for her. :|

I'm a little confused on your gender now...are you a guy?

Well, if this is only your (potentially) second relationship, you might just be overly excited about it. I know at a younger age when you first start to date you always feel like this is the one, this is the person I "love". It's usually just raging teen hormones, nothing more. But I'm not you, nor do I fully understand the relationship between you two.

If you want to continue waiting, by all means, continue.

 

[Reboman]

If she's willing to cheat for you, she's willing to cheat on you.

Pass.

 

[D God]

Hasn't she though..? Just because you don't want to believe it doesn't mean it's not true.



I'm a little confused on your gender now...are you a guy?

Well, if this is only your (potentially) second relationship, you might just be overly excited about it. I know at a younger age when you first start to date you always feel like this is the one, this is the person I "love". It's usually just raging teen hormones, nothing more. But I'm not you, nor do I fully understand the relationship between you two.

If you want to continue waiting, by all means, continue.

Whoops, that was a typo.
I meant to put girls, I am a guy.
This would not be my second relationship.
If I would take a guess I'd say I've been in over 20 relationships.
Thank you though.
You opened up my eyes a bit.
Much appreciated.

Edit: She never threw herself sexually at me other than a little flirting when we first started to get to know eachother. I was the one who took the first move when we kissed, etc. I asked her whether she would have sex with me or not. That's why I don't see her wanting to use me.

If she's willing to cheat for you, she's willing to cheat on you.

Pass.

Alright, thanks for the advice.

 

[D God]

I'd say pass on her.

tl;dr

If it's too long to read then don't post instead of being a douche.

 

[D God]

Bump.

 

[`^*~-_Elias_-~*^`]

If it's too long to read then don't post instead of being a douche.

Uhm, i actually did read it and honestly i dont think shes worth it.
She has way to much baggage and once a cheater always a cheater.
Then again if you love her...

 

[D God]

Uhm, i actually did read it and honestly i dont think shes worth it.
She has way to much baggage and once a cheater always a cheater.
Then again if you love her...

I don't "love" her, but my feelings for her are pretty great.
Thank you.

Edit: She told me that she only wanted to cheat on her ex-girlfriend because she liked me a lot and things with her ex were just going downhill.

 

[Blitzful]

i read it and it sounds like she's playing you or using you as a 'reserve' if something doesnt go good with someone else.

find a new girl tbh

 

[D God]

i read it and it sounds like she's playing you or using you as a 'reserve' if something doesnt go good with someone else.

find a new girl tbh

I talk to numerous girls daily who think I'm cute and all, but none of them appeal to me like she does though.
I'm positive that I'm the only guy she talks to like that.
Everyone has been telling me to ditch her.
I'll update the original post on this thread if anything gets more serious.
>_<