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[StockingUpGold]

Wow... The first part of that story man... I'm so sorry to hear that but I'm also glad that you have a backup play with your uncle.

 

[Inva]

I feel that if she leaves you like that she isn't really worth your time especially not your effort. After everything you did for her, she could of at least over a period of time tried to talk to you about what was going on and how she felt. She could of tried to help repair the relationship which she thought wasn't working. If a person acts in the way she did, in my opinion don't bother with them.

With moving on, I think what you are saying is a great idea. Try to avoid doing little things that may remind you of her.

Best of luck man, it gets better.
Head up

 

I can't offer a lot of help about the second thing, but I can about the first. One of my brother's friends who is now 28 has been through 3 different relationships of over 2 years a piece. The third one has lasted and she is now his wife. But the point is, he thought he was tied down with the first two; however, both of them ended it for similar reasons: he was too busy, not involved enough, etc. You may have done a lot for her, and while it will hurt, you just need to move on. Any woman would be extremely lucky to have a guy who cares that much about her, you just have to find the one who will treat you in the same way. Just because one long relationship didn't last doesn't mean your true love isn't out there. Just be patient, and keep your heart open man.

 

[TahBreezy]

Sorry to hear man, but you can't give up on that special person. As hard as it may be, try not to even think about it. The secret to find, is to stop searching.

I don't know why, but I get a feeling she will come crawling back to you eventually. You seemed like too much of a nice guy and a lottery ticket to her. Trust me, give it some time and she will regret her decision whether she tells you or not.

As far as you getting back at her. You shouldn't leave that to anyone but yourself. Don't let anyone on this website convince you on that decision you are having.

Anyways, I wish nothing but the best for you because I myself, have gone through heartbreaks. I hope you feel better man, and keep your head up. We don't love these hoes <----- jk lol

 

Yeah I agree. The thing is that she never treated me in any way except sweet until the last couple weeks of our relationship. It was sudden, she planned the fuck me over while she smiled to me and told me I meant the world to her right?

So I think I could find another sweet seeming girl in a week. The problem is, how will I know if she has a heartless bitch deep inside? All my family was blown away that she would do this to me. They felt really betrayed and deceived too. But my Mom said she's seen it a thousand times. And that you'll be hard-pressed to find a girl who won't pull this crap on you one day or another.

So right now I'm thinking to go back to how I used to be. Just have fun with girls and don't let them in. Too risky.

I mean of course yeah, you don't want to jump right back in for a rebound. For now, go about life, try not to get attached to anyone and just enjoy being single. For the future, while it's not a great experience, don't let it bog you down. What I mean by that is don't let it effect future relationships too much.

 

[kmjt]

Sabotaging her career would be very immature. Just move on. Ever think she is being cruel to try to help you get over her? Some girls are like that. She may think that you will get over her faster if you think she is someone you don't want to be with. It is kind of wrong to think you own her life just because you did her favours. It is crappy that you put all that work in for her to leave but you can't trap someone in a relationship =/

Good luck!

 

I don't feel as if it would be immature. She broke the rules/law. I didn't feel comfortable about it while she was doing it and I don't now. This isn't to mention I invested more to get her the job than she did. I even bought a car for her to get to it. Plus the things I mentioned in OP and more. I think I have as much right to end the job as she does. I wouldn't be ending her career, I'd be ending the kickass job I got her. But I do kinda agree than revenge as a whole is immature. That's why I likely won't do it.

She isn't being cruel to help me. I know that for a fact. She is being cruel because she thinks I did her wrong by not doting on her continuously and boning her regularly. She has told me this. This is after I moved cross country to be by her family and get in tight with them for like 5 months because she wanted me to. After I bought her a big ass diamond ring. After I made countless playlists for her. After I bought her countless gifts. Wrote her countless heart-felt letters. Boned her twice a day or more. Rocked her to sleep when she is hormonal/sad for whatever reason. I never wanted a "thank you," but as soon as I'm having a tough time and need to take a break from doting on her she acts like I never did anything in my life for her. So she got her revenge on me for that. And that's how she sees it. That she is justified in taking all my shit and acting like I'm a terrible person.

Did I say I owned her life? lol. No I said it hurts like a bitch to have given your heart and soul to someone and worked so hard to help them for them to turn around and slap you in the face without even the courtesy to act like they care.

I never held the things I did over her. I let them speak for themselves. But she never appreciated or acknowledged it.

I never tried to trap her in anything. She asked me to leave. I did. It was the apartment I got in my name, bills in my name, furniture I had before we were together, my money, and my fkin life lol. But I let her take it from me and let her try and bully me without reacting in any way except sad and apologetic for any mistakes I may have made.

If you bought her something like a car, that's reasonable to want that back. In regards to time you personally invested towards her career, that is done and over with. Let's put it this way: two wrongs do not make a right. Just because someone wronged you does not make it ok for you to wrong them. Be the better person and move on. I certainly understand your stance, and have even been there myself. Sometimes, however, it's best to just hold your tongue and let it play out. Believe in karma: what goes around comes around.

 

[Bert]

Hey bud, including the wife part i would reccomend you let it go. You are a good person for doing all that and she is a bitch and you should be proud for what you made someone else accomplish and just walk away from it knowing you are a good person.

For the job, Experience is 100x better than a degree. Show them that you are good at what you do and people who are you competition with bachelor degrees don't have any competition with your skill level and knowledge. You should be very confident in getting the job and thats how you will succeed in life

 

[Lean]

Never trust females enough to where they can put you in a bad place financially or mentally. They are a dime a dozen, trust me. I've never met a women who could define me as a person or my future. You can and will move on and come out a stronger and more emotionally stable person in the end. Right now it may not seem like it, but you will. Nobody defines your future but you. Best of luck man.