My moms considering suicide... Help?

[geeebuz]

I really don't know what to do. My mom is considering suicide because of financial problems, which in all honesty were not that bad, she is probably one of the smartest people I know.
I don't know what to tell her. We live close to New Orleans, so its hard for a white woman w/o a degree to get a job out here. Sorry to say, but it is extremely segregated. (she has been self employed as 1. biggest painting company in Orlando FL for 3+ years, Multi-Million Dollar Agent, and a house flipper in New Orleans. She has made MILLIONS and honestly she is just as smart as anybody with a Ph.D. in the things she does. She has A LOT of street smarts. I look up to her a lot. She knows shes all that, infact she went to an interview and they asked her a question "what are your Strengths and weaknesses? She said "I'm sorry, I cannot answer that. I have no weaknesses." I love that answer
She might just be bullshitting us, but she says she has a good life insurance policy and that my dad and I will get the money and we will be fine. Now as most of you know my moms life is worth more to me than any amount of money/material items.
Even if it were to get bad enough to get kicked out of our house we have my grandma to go to. She says she is doing this because it will "take care of us" which really I think it would fuck me up bad depression wise.
Now honestly, I think she i she is bluffing but any advice would help.
I will tell you what happens =/

Sorry for ALL of the grammar mistakes, not really caring ATM.

 

[C_Town_Hero]

Take her out to eat for mothers day

 

[TahBreezy]

Make her feel special. Make her have bigger, better, and deeper feelings for you. That way, if she considers suicide, she'll think about you.

 

[Flight]

Take her out to eat for mothers day

..... Then there would be no need for psychologist's or mental health doctors.

If you value your mom, take her to a mental health doctor ASAP, or any her current doctor who will refer you to a mental health doctor. Also, you should tell your dad because it sounds like he doesn't know what's going on. If he does, then he's not very mature.

But you're dealing with a few days before she may kill her self so don't wait.

 

[geeebuz]

..... Then there would be no need for psychologist's or mental health doctors.

If you value your mom, take her to a mental health doctor ASAP, or any her current doctor who will refer you to a mental health doctor. Also, you should tell your dad because it sounds like he doesn't know what's going on. If he does, then he's not very mature.

But you're dealing with a few days before she may kill her self so don't wait.

No he knows, he has been trying to talk to her the past few days. My mom is a little crazy but only certain times. Im sure she has some type of illness, she always has these emotional roller coasters. And I know that it is infact normal for these but not to the extremity of which she takes it.

&she wont go to the doctor, she won't admit she has a problem.

Oh and would smoking since she was 14, and drinking everynight from 5- till she falls asleep


Anyways, she said shes better as of now. Might be different tomorrow but today she said & promised she wouldn't. My Mom is anything but a liar.

Thanks though guys, I really appreciate taking time out of your day and giving me advice/support.

 

[Mister Fox]

it's called weed

 

[Kristian4th]

She sounds like a smart woman, it seems as though she can maneuver her way out of her financial situations because she's so headstrong and knows what she's doing.

You should let her know this, get her to consider her options and what would be the best outcome for her and your family.

 

[Tezlin]

As the people above have said, make her feel like she is wanted. Obviously she is feeling some form of loneliness, or she is feeling responsible/helpless regarding your economic situation.

Let her know how you would feel if she did what she said she wants to do. By natural instinct, a mother won't abandon her child. It's impossible.

Please PM me if you want to, I'm always here.
Tez.

 

[Rune Scimmy]

If I were you, I would really make this mother's day count. Clean the house, tell your mom how much she means to you, bring her breakfast in bed, take her to the movies, go to a school play, anything that will cheer her up. Also, you could get a job yourself and use the money to pay the houses bills. goodluck everything will be fine. Also, tell your mom that she means more to you then money.

 

Make she feel valuable to you & persons near she. If that doesn't work, you should really get help for she. Hope you get all the things solved.

 

[angus07]

tell her exactly what your saying here. tell her that killing herself to give you money wont, in fact, help you OR your dad.... it will just make things worse for the two of you. let her know what she means to you and if she did that it would destroy you emotionally and psychologically, etc. I must be missing some details because i dont understand how if you had millions and millions of dollars...idk where it all went. i also dont see why there cant be more.

 

[Zulzarax]

Make her feel special. Make her have bigger, better, and deeper feelings for you. That way, if she considers suicide, she'll think about you.

This would help, if she feels better about stuff like this, she should calm down.

 

[Rune Scimmy]

Agreed with most everyone else except comments like "weed" are not cool. Weed does not solve problems it is illegal. If anything, marijuana causes problems. I have a story for you sythe: my step-father was the coolest to me when I was a kid. I didn't know he smoked marijuana and neither did my mother. One day he was driving home from work and appraentely he was smoking marijuana whilst driving. There was a train and the gates were down as to say stop. Instead my step-dad under the influence of marijuana misjudged the oncoming trains speed and went through the gates. That is how he died he was hit by a train. So never say marijuana solves anything because it DOES NOT.

 

[Call me Mike]

All the good things you just said about her, tell them to her. If anything, it may make her feel guilty about killing herself she won't do it.

Also, I'm almost certain life insurance isn't applicable if it's a suicide. Just saying this because it would be horrible if she kills herself trying to help her family only to make it worse.

Just please please tell her that life is worth it. If she's half as smart as you described her you'll all find a way out.

 

[letsrenovate]

Like others have said, talk to her. Try to desperately make her see how much she means. But issues like this are many times beyond your control or simple acts of kindness. You have to get her to see someone who can help her. If she isn't willing to talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist then call one and make them come to her. Even the smartest people are able to misjudge and do irrational things when they are under a lot of pressure, stress, or anxiety. Psychological problems are one of the most underrated, but their results can be disastrous. Even if she said she's okay for now, if there's the possibility that she would consider it tomorrow then you really need to contact a professional. Goodluck. I hope everything works out for you.

 

[Aroxez]

it's called weed

Yeah, don't post useless shit when people actually need help.

On topic, mothers day is up around the corner, get her some flowers and talk to her about it. Tell her everything is okay. Man, if you want to talk to me, add me on MSN: [email protected]

 

[BARDIA SAEEDI]

i suggest dont take her to pschyologigts and something.

theyll take her away...

 

[Rune Scimmy]

Psychologists will not take her away! That is a big lie if anything they will console her and possibly prescribe her medication. A psychiatrist on the other hand will work with her mind without medicine. So, don't say rash things like that because, I can gurantee that's not true.

 

[Grrr]

Just explain to her the the end of the day money and material possesstions mean absolutely nothing compared to her, that you fully support her with whatever she does, regardless if she gets a job or not and at the end of the day it isn't the end of the world if she doesn't. The only thing that matters to you primarily is having the love of your family surrounding you.

Pm me if you ever feel like talking.

 

[letsrenovate]

Psychologists will not take her away! That is a big lie if anything they will console her and possibly prescribe her medication. A psychiatrist on the other hand will work with her mind without medicine. So, don't say rash things like that because, I can gurantee that's not true.

It's actually the opposite. Psychiatrists are MDs and can prescribe medication and try to solve things medically, regarding her neural hormones, electrical balance, etc. Psychologists will be there to talk to her and provide comfort, allow her to speak her mind, try and understand how she's feeling and discuss it, etc.

But I agree with Rune Scimmy. Please don't fall for the myth that these professionals will do you bad. It's one of the most frustrating and irresponsible connotations ever created. They will work through the problems with your mom and help her, give her medication if she requires it, and many times provide her experienced support that she may desperately need.