My Bestfriend and I...

[User Undercover]

Had sex...
Im a guy and he's a guy.


It's kinda new to me... being gay because last night I told my Girlfriend I loved her and Damian and I were gonna play Black ops all night and get high.
So last night I was Straight and now.......am I gay!?


We both were high, and a little drunk...
We're both so called "Straight" and... well... I woke up thinking F my life..
And he woke up little after I did..... he woke up said hey wheres my phone.... and I said right here... handed it to him... he scooted next to me (naked) and he just starting talking as if nothing was going on..

How in the living hell am I suppose to react to this?

Please.... HELP!

 

[r3dm0nk3y]

Well , if he was completely fine with it seeing as you said he started talking as if nothing were wrong , I'd say he's either gay or bisexual and managed to talk you into it all while you were drunk/high . Try talking it out with him , figure out everything , and try to put it behind you . If you have a girlfriend and you really feel the way you do about her , and consider yourself straight then there isn't any problem . I'm not sure if you should tell her about it or not though , she may take it the wrong way and want to end everything with you . Give it some time before telling her .

 

[Zerkerfist]

First of all - RELAX! Take a deep breath, calm down.

Just because you had sex with another guy does not mean you are gay!. Whether you are gay or not is totally up to you, and something that only you can decide after you investigate a little more. It sounds to me like your friend is probably gay for sure, but you are obviously having a hard time wrapping your mind around this situation and trying to decide - did you like it? Do you regret it? What does this mean from now on??

I think that it IS possible to be straight and have sex with another male. Although, very unlikely, as I don't see what would compel you to have those urges in the first place. But it could be a number of things:

- You are bisexual. You are just discovering that you are sexually attracted to both males and females

- You made a big mistake under the influence of alcohol and drugs. This is probably less likely, but still possible.

- Maybe you are just very confused about your sexuality right now, and unbeknownst to you, you went along with this whole thing purely as an experiment, and so you could know once and for all how you feel about men.

So the first thing I would do is just relax, take a breather, and think this through. How did it start? Like did he initiate it, or did you? Did you even LIKE it? Or was it just weird and awkward throughout? Would you do it again? Or was it just a one time thing that you were curious about? These are the questions you need to be asking yourself, so that you can sort through your feelings here and make a decision about your sexuality. It might be wise to start keeping a secret journal so that you can record all your feelings and make it easier for you to sort through them later. I can only imagine how confusing this sort of situation must be for you.

As for your girlfriend - it is probably best you DO NOT tell her for now, for the time being. That could potentially get messy.. I would keep it between you and Damian for now. I also think you should talk to Damian about it when you get a chance. Ask him the same sort of questions you are asking yourself and see what his take on things are.

I think with time you will be able to figure out where your sexuality lies and become comfortable with who you are. There is nothing wrong with what you did so do not panic - just take it easy and think this through calmly. Good luck, and come back here and update us if you need to.

 

[Lord Tums]

Nothing wrong, I've slept with my friends before... im "straight" its sometimes fun.. youll be good.

 

[Hayd3nrox]

Well it is as simple as this - Let's start with the question: Are you gay? Would you do it again?

 

[mtn dew]

Well , if he was completely fine with it seeing as you said he started talking as if nothing were wrong , I'd say he's either gay or bisexual and managed to talk you into it all while you were drunk/high . Try talking it out with him , figure out everything , and try to put it behind you . If you have a girlfriend and you really feel the way you do about her , and consider yourself straight then there isn't any problem . I'm not sure if you should tell her about it or not though , she may take it the wrong way and want to end everything with you . Give it some time before telling her .

Score +1 for the friend if he actually convinced him.:laugh:

But in all seriousness, what Hayd3nrox said. Have you discovered something new about yourself that you didn't know perhaps?

 

[ezkNYNE]

Everyone has a homosexual experince once in their lives. Don't worry about it.

 

------------I have not read any of the replies so I may be giving double information------------​

Considering the circumstances (weed, alcohol) I wouldn't worry about your sexuality.
However you should worry about your relationship with your girlfriend, you cheated on her.

We've all done stupid things whilst intoxicated, tell your girlfriend what happened and hope she understands it.
I wish you the best of luck with whatever choice you make.

tl;dr
One experience does not change your sexuality.
You cheated on your girlfriend, be it with a guy or not this is still bad.

 

[FeCoola]

Maybe your just a homosexual?

 

[setherzpownz]

i had almost the same exact experience a year ago.

 

[IMVUFret]

Everyone has a homosexual experince once in their lives. Don't worry about it.

A fucking gread man.