Make my move?

[Meeder1]

Now, the girl is giving me insanely mixed signals T_T

We spent a whole night together this weekend, it was me her, and 3 of her friends, pretty much a sleepover, and she was pretty touchy to being with an so on.

The next day she's all " oh we should've snuggled!" said i was cute, and some other things, calling my FB photos attractive, and stuff

She had told me afew days earlier that she was crushing on someone else,
and today she text me when she and him hung out at church ( they only see each other every sunday.. im feeling the the replacement for the rest of the time :\, which is NOT something i want ).

" Oh i just gave him a really tight neck hug!" - she even said to me she considers neck hugs like a couples passionate hug.

Any idea whats with the mixed signals, hot and cold -_-.

Id really rather not ask her, but i think ive made it clear that im pretty jealous.

Does she want a fucking tug-o-war : \ ?


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Me and a good friend of mine use to have a "thing" in the past, it lasted for maybe 4 months, and ended quite abruptly.

Eventually, we started talking again, hanging out again, and became better friends.

At one point, i told her i still had feelings for her, and she suggested that we just be friends, and i was fine with that, i started looking at her more like a sister than anything else.

We've gotten closer, and its at the point to where she will trust me with most of anything, and will talk to me about things that she wouldnt talk to her best friend about.

I had been suppressing my feelings for awhile, forcing myself to see her as a sister. However over Halloween weekend, we had hung out and had a great time, later that night she told me she still had feelings for me ( obviously not as strong as they used to be), but that she has feelings for someone else aswell.

I see her alot more than the other guy, im closer aswell ( walking distance ).

Should i make a move on her?
Possibly wait and see what happens with her and the other guy?

Any advice would be appreciated, Thanks

 

[goku usa]

I would HIGHLY suggest you do not cross your line. You told her how you feel despite your break-up and she obviously was not comfortable with getting back together. If you tell her again, she will only get more upset. Being best friends will be much better than going back to becoming strangers. Don't do it.

 

[0 w n t z]

Hehe..Sorry to dissapoint you but i think you are her best friend....She said you guys should be just friends...You should not go over that boundary,otherwise she might be more upset. Plenty more fish in the sea.

 

[Fortify Media]

Idk what to tell you man. The same thing had happened to me two years in a row. I would go to this Halloween carnival and always meet a girl from my school. It was a different girl each year. The same thing happened with feelings except we never went out before. But one girl said yes, one girl said no, so truthfully i don't know what to say besides follow your heart.

 

[Meeder1]

I would HIGHLY suggest you do not cross your line. You told her how you feel despite your break-up and she obviously was not comfortable with getting back together. If you tell her again, she will only get more upset. Being best friends will be much better than going back to becoming strangers. Don't do it.

Hehe..Sorry to dissapoint you but i think you are her best friend....She said you guys should be just friends...You should not go over that boundary,otherwise she might be more upset. Plenty more fish in the sea.

However over Halloween weekend, we had hung out and had a great time, later that night she told me she still had feelings for me ( obviously not as strong as they used to be), but that she has feelings for someone else aswell.

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from my original post.

She's told me she still likes me, the main point of this thread is to just see if i should make a move on her before the other guy, or let it take its natural course?

 

[cheater2010]

go for it. if it fails just be friends shouldnt be that hard to recover might take a month lol but least u gave it a shot

 

[FishFishy]

If she did tell you that she still had feelings for you, then I see no harm in trying to get back together with her anytime soon. It could very well be possible that she still does want to be with you, and is just waiting on you to actually make a move. Also if you do like here as well, I wouldn't just wait around to see weather or not she likes this other guy or not.

Also if it is true that she does still like this other guy the worst think that could happen is for her to say no, and also that she is trying to get with another guy at this time. If that does happen I don't see that posing any possible harm on your current relationship, as others had said before.

Overall I would say that the choice is really just up to you. If you still have feelings for this girl, then I would say sure go ahead and ask her about taking things to the next level. Also if you like the way it is now "Just being friends with her" then just wait it out, and see if things escalate overtime.

I hope this helps, and if you need anymore help just ask.

 

I personally wouldn't go for a girl like that, it's best to just stay friends.
There are always better girls out there and it's always good to have a friend you can stay close to like that, but you don't have the worries of a girlfriend.

 

[Meeder1]

I personally wouldn't go for a girl like that, it's best to just stay friends.
There are always better girls out there and it's always good to have a friend you can stay close to like that, but you don't have the worries of a girlfriend.

Im not a very.. how do i put it. I dont tell others my problems? Because i dont like to get my friends caught up in them. Having a close friend isn't a big deal to me. They normally vent to me, im just a good listener.

 

[kmjt]

She probably only told you she had somewhat feelings for you so you wouldn't take the news of her having more feelings for someone else too hard. She probably knows that you still like her.. I would suggest letting her make the first move if you've already tried/been rejected in the past.

 

[insanosky]

You clearly dont want his friendship, you want more than that.

You stated:

I had been suppressing my feelings for awhile, forcing myself to see her as a sister.

So yeah you dont want to be her friend.

My opinion now:
First off, make 100% sure she has feelings for you as a man and not as a friend (sometimes people tend to see something where its nothing).

And then just tell her softly what do you feel, dont force her to say yes or no. If you se that working, then make your best move.

Good Luck Mate

Let us know =)

 

[Chi City]

I wouldn't suggest it if you aren't willing to risk your friendship with her.

 

[Meeder1]

You clearly dont want his friendship, you want more than that.

You stated:


So yeah you dont want to be her friend.

My opinion now:
First off, make 100% sure she has feelings for you as a man and not as a friend (sometimes people tend to see something where its nothing).

And then just tell her softly what do you feel, dont force her to say yes or no. If you se that working, then make your best move.

Good Luck Mate

Let us know =)

Will try to keep the thread updated,

note this may take awhile so, gravedig inc.

 

[Chi City]

Just keep us updated. I'm really curious to see how this will go.

 

[Meeder1]

She probably only told you she had somewhat feelings for you so you wouldn't take the news of her having more feelings for someone else too hard. She probably knows that you still like her.. I would suggest letting her make the first move if you've already tried/been rejected in the past.

As for this, she had already told me she had feelings for this guy probably 3 weeks before she told me she had feelings for me aswell. So i doubt what your saying is true, but there's always the possibility.

 

[Meeder1]

Bumpity, having a new problem. Please read!

 

[Meeder1]

Bump

Blah ill just be adding Gohan soon on msn for help </3

 

[kill dank]

I think you should tear that shit up. She already told you she has feelings for you and thats the foundation of a relationship, if that's what you want. Plus, the other guy's never around so you get extra time with his lady.

 

[Meeder1]

I think you should tear that shit up. She already told you she has feelings for you and thats the foundation of a relationship, if that's what you want. Plus, the other guy's never around so you get extra time with his lady.

Thanks

After the talk me and her had lastnight, thats pretty much what im leaning towards.

The other guy is just quite frankly.. a better flirt than me

 

[Aroxez]

Hey, I know how you feel. If you have good friends and they're willing to help out, ask them to see what's up. See if she likes you, and so on. If she'd date you or what. I know that's not very *manly* or whatever, but it really works. I've used it a few times. I wouldn't make my move though, because incase she has a bigger thing with the other guy than you know about, it might cause you some trouble. I wish you the best of luck.