Living on my Own.

[Sypherz]

I'm going to keep the first part of this short. I had a large post written up but my computer shut off so.. yah.

Basically I just began my first semester of Community College (will be transferring to the local University after 5 quarters. My relationship with my parents has become fairly toxic over the months (hell, I'm sitting in my front yard typing this because it has been decided that the internet will be shut off at 8 each night) and I feel the need to leave my home/ live on my own because I don't think my academic goals will be viable in an environment like this.

So.. I need advice. I have no idea where to start or what to do. Money is a huge issue. But any advice, tips, stories.. anything I would really really appreciate.

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I live in a town of ~100,000 in Washington State.
With a couple online methods I make ~500 a month. This can be slightly higher or lower. Tuition is ~1.4k per quarter until I go to University.
I have $3700 saved up after paying my last Tuition fees.

It isn't much to work with at all. Because the way I see it I'm spending 300 minimum on a place to live, 150-200 on food, 100 on the service fees like phone and such I already pay for, and a bunch more things.

I honestly have no idea what to do.
Thanks guys.

 

[ETPSales]

WA State wewts I'd try mending the relationship with your parents first. I know it doesn't sound good now, but its the best option trust me.

 

[Sypherz]

You know that is a possible option. I'm pursuing a degree in science though and they do shit like this, like cutting off my computer/internet/etc. and it's something I can't deal with when I'm trying to get a 3.7+ in order to get into a grad school eventually.

I'm going to have to live on my own eventually. So it might be best to get out while things are bad?

I may need a real job >_<

ty for the response.

 

I'm going to have to live on my own eventually. So it might be best to get out while things are bad?

I may need a real job >_<

Running away from the problems with your parents is not the right option. I've heard so many stories of this happening and it just drives a larger wedge between you and your parents. If you do decide to strike out on your own you should remain in contact with your parents definitely. Back to striking out on your own though, getting a place by yourself while taking on tertiary education is not a good idea. Get a few like minded friends or something and rent out a flat together. This way you have company and can split the bills. Also with regards to a job, you do need a job of some sort. It's not uncommon for university students to get a side job also, so there should be a few jobs that accommodate your schedule.

 

[Alma Mater]

Supp Sypherz,

I don't normally visit this section of Sythe but, you're hella chill so I'll try to give my advice. Anyways, although I'd rather not share my story on here, I feel like I can 95% relate to this. Do you have any family/relatives willing to support you/help mend things with your parents that live around in the area? If so, you could possibly stay with them temporarily until things get better.

 

[Laptop65]

I think you should patch things up with your parents, though at the same time I think a part time job would benefit you too.

As for your Internet going off at night, I can totally relate to that, though it normally only goes off if I have College or something the next day. Have you tried talking to them and explaining that you need the Internet to study and stuff? Whatever happens you should really patch things up with your parents, as you get older you'll realise how important they are and how much they mean to you, it's quite normal at your age to be fighting with your parents

Let us know what you decide to do.

 

[Sypherz]

I think I've decided that I need to get my savings up to ~5-10k before I go out, or get into University. In the end things are gonna still suck around here but if I invest in ways to get my own internet (or buy it from the neighbors) and make an attempt to lessen the issues with my parents I'll cope. I'm sure.

Thanks or the advice guys. I just kind of freaked out after something happened last night. About the fifth time I've been on the verge of leaving. ug.

But yes, thank you very much Laptop, Alma, Jack Goff, ETPSales

 

[Kristian4th]

I lived with my brother and his wife from the age of 12-17, we had a good relationship until I'm presuming he became too overwhelmed with my disorders (I used to have depressive patches regularly) and lost interest in things like going out with my friends and such.

My grades in high school and college were affected by this, he too interfered with my education and shut the internet off early in the evening, which was essential for my studies.

I finally got kicked out by him shortly after my 17th birthday, and I lived with my uncle for around 4-5 months, in which time he wasn't there often (I enjoyed the solitude) and my workflow improved hugely.

I live with my girlfriend now, and as well as being liberating and seeing a huge improvement of the quality of work I produce, solely due to the fact I have space to produce it.

What I'm trying to say is, you should move out, even if it's not by yourself, the best option you have is with friends, where you can cut the cost of bills and rent by splitting it. I found it was the best thing I could have done for my studies. I'm in University now and wouldn't be able to continue my studies if I lived with my brother, it would be impossible.

Good luck though, you'll be fine.

 

[Schismatic]

Sad to hear. Can you possibly explain WHY the relationship with your parents is so toxic? Has it always been this way? Do you genuinely believe there's nothing you could possibly do to improve the relationship? If so, I'd try to get a job (even if only during the weekends) and try to get out ASAP. Don't stick with them if they don't deserve you.

 

[Growdie]

You need to know that theres a fee you pay before moving into an apartment, I belive its like 3 months payment or somthing, other then that you have to think about all the stuff you have to pay, I am just going to name a few to give you an idea.

Food
Water
Internet
TV
Insurance
Electricity

It is expensive living on your own, I do it and I have no problem with it but if you're short on cash I suggest that you move ASAP, because even though it sounds like a dumb idea its for the better, you will learn to live by yourself and you can eventually survive a month for like $500 I could help you with everything you needed if you want, I am available almost everyday and you can PM me for my skype, I hope you get a better relationship with your parents, have a nice day


EDIT: Oh and yeah, if you could get a job just for the weekends you will earn upto $1000-1500 a month anyways depending on your age.

 

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