I'm a player.. but I can't help it

Jacmob · Sep 1, 2012

I need help guys..

I started out texting hanging out with one girl 24/7.. now there's like 4 or 5 (I lost count truthfully)

They've all said something around "i cant wait til next year when i'm a legal adult we can get married".. stuff like that.. and i have deep conversations with all of them..

I'm not trying to trick them though.. i just can't help it

I have gotten "home runs" with all of them, and I'm not choosing favorites because they're all hot

So what do I do? Do i just say enie meanie miney moe and pick one or what

MitchelltheGreat · Sep 1, 2012

Focus more on substance rather than which girl looks best in the bed. If all of them have a combined IQ of 70, you are better ditching all of them and talking to a less attractive but intelligent person instead.

By the looks of your post, it seems like you don't really care about any of them that much because you are offering the possibility of eenie meenie miney moe which would mean that you are depending on chance rather than personal decision.

i was a noob · Sep 1, 2012

Dude this is my life story, sadly. I feel where you are coming from. I'm sorry I cant help though. It's hard to help a problem, when you are one..

Jacmob · Sep 2, 2012

MitchelltheGreat said:
Focus more on substance rather than which girl looks best in the bed. If all of them have a combined IQ of 70, you are better ditching all of them and talking to a less attractive but intelligent person instead.

By the looks of your post, it seems like you don't really care about any of them that much because you are offering the possibility of eenie meenie miney moe which would mean that you are depending on chance rather than personal decision.

nooooooo they have a combined iq of like 1000..

they're smart.. hot.. they come from 'rich' families.. i mean really i can't choose.. they are all the literal perfect girl

Shoop · Sep 2, 2012

Some people are naturally just like that. You'll settle down eventually, I'm assuming you're still young.
Just be blunt with them and say "I'm texting another girl and I don't want to hurt her or your feelings and I feel really bad about it so I have to break it off with both of you because it's not fair on you both". Something on the lines of that anyway.. You just have to break it off with them and seem like you care at the same time.

Schismatic · Sep 2, 2012

Hard to believe you have EQUAL feelings for all of them. Even if that is true, then your feelings probably aren't genuine for any of them. Try to find out which one you really like, and you would consider spending the rest of your life with.

OMG DRAGON CLAWZ · Sep 2, 2012

Yeah some people naturally give off that vibe. Which to some people is a gift from God, but to others it is a problem they deal with. (Hence the whole walk a mile in there shoes). But truth fully you are going to have to pick one you see yourself settling down with, or to be honest you can just tell them you aren't looking for something serious. I mean if you are only around the age of 18 then you should not be talking about getting married.
Enjoy youth. Don't let it slip away because you can't tell a girl you aren't interested.

Visual3volution · Sep 3, 2012

In all honesty, no matter how hot the girls are or how great they are in bed, it's best to go with the girl who has a good head on her shoulders. You don't want to be with a girl who will bring you down. I find that a girl with a great personality and a great mindset is a keeper.

xenoo123 · Sep 3, 2012

Im not gonna lie right now, but you sound like your just gonna break there hearts. Than your gonna have a couple of chicks that are gonna fucking hate the shit out of u.

Infadel · Sep 5, 2012

I think you should stop man. Either chose one or leave them because you can't play with their feeling like that. Do you realize how much it would hurt them if they found out?

Chosenn One · Sep 5, 2012

This may sound like the worst possible solution in relation to everyone else's advice.
But here it is.

I'm gonna assume you're in your teens + high school student and you have an endless string of girls coming at you.
Unfortunately for all these girls, my advice is treasure it. Go have your fun.
I didn't have as many girls at once like you have now, but I had a few and when one was gone another came by.
I'm older now, out of high school and in University studying to become a Paramedic. Unwillingly, I've grown up and gotten more mature.
So now when girls see me, they don't see me as the guy who can show them a good fun time. My string of one night stands has been cut.
Pretty much every girl I come across now have been becoming JUST friends.

I'm now stuck with ONE girl... she's great but I miss the teen days.

Jacmob · Sep 5, 2012

Chosenn One said:
This may sound like the worst possible solution in relation to everyone else's advice.
But here it is.

I'm gonna assume you're in your teens + high school student and you have an endless string of girls coming at you.
Unfortunately for all these girls, my advice is treasure it. Go have your fun.
I didn't have as many girls at once like you have now, but I had a few and when one was gone another came by.
I'm older now, out of high school and in University studying to become a Paramedic. Unwillingly, I've grown up and gotten more mature.
So now when girls see me, they don't see me as the guy who can show them a good fun time. My string of one night stands has been cut.
Pretty much every girl I come across now have been becoming JUST friends.

I'm now stuck with ONE girl... she's great but I miss the teen days.

thing is im tired of the one night stands.. theyre all the same.. the occasional whore that you didn't realize could rock the bed but i mean this is isn't about that.. sure I enjoy what I got and what I have.. but when you have 5 girls like that after me..it drives me nuts.. also drives me nuts if you read other thread..

Kristian4th · Sep 6, 2012

I think being a "player" or whatever you consider yourself is such a bad trait to have. Women won't take you seriously in a relationship because they know you have a history of wanting to speak or have sex with a lot of women, even if they do it themselves with men.

You need to seriously consider behaving yourself and start dating a woman who you see a long future with, not just pick one out randomly.