I need some advice [Relationship]

[Ninja Turtled Like Sparc]

Okay well see I have a slight problem ive been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now, and it seems its all falling apart [shes being to controling and now shes got to the point i can't stand it] So today i told her i wanted to break up, she started crying and saying all kinds of things. And i softened up because i have a heart and cannot stand to see/hear a girl cry.. So im asking you all what i should do, please no rude comments or anything like that. Im simply asking for help not smart ass remarks.

Thanks to all you who help.
-Dillon

 

Tell her to lighten up and get on with her life as I know she won't end up marrying you.

 

[Fatih]

Just because she cries doesn't mean you wanna spend the rest of your youth with her.

 

[Ninja Turtled Like Sparc]

Yes I understand that but idk i can't seem to watch/hear her cry... And she won't lighten up.. I just don't know what to do guys :/ Im 17 and I really do not want to be tied down like that you know ?

 

Lol she's crying for attention. If you don't want to be tied down you don't have to, you're the only one letting yourself be.

 

[tofurocks]

She will get over it soon enough, just tell her the truth and it's up to her to accept it, you can't let her control you even more by changing your mind because of her crying.

 

[Fatih]

Lol she's crying for attention. If you don't want to be tied down you don't have to, you're the only one letting yourself be.

Exactly.
If you stayed with someone every time they cried about something, your life would suck.

 

[Ninja Turtled Like Sparc]

yes i do agree, but she said she cannot live with out me? she would commit suicide... what do i do lol.. i don't want that shit on my hands

 

[tofurocks]

yes i do agree, but she said she cannot live with out me? she would commit suicide... what do i do lol.. i don't want that shit on my hands

Girls often say that, they won't follow through, they told us to beware of it in health, but honestly I myself wouldn't risk it, and clearly you wouldn't either, so it seems like you're in a tough situation :/
Did you try telling her that if she truly loves you she should respect you when you ask her to be less demanding?

 

yes i do agree, but she said she cannot live with out me? she would commit suicide... what do i do lol.. i don't want that shit on my hands

Tell her to grow up, you can't be in a relationship out of guilt.

 

[cosrob97]

send a text lol this way you cant see here face

 

[Im Fresh]

If you like and care for her and just dislike her because she's controlling I'd give her another chance and tell her you need your personal space/limits.

 

[Ninja Turtled Like Sparc]

ive tryed this many times... seems she doesn't want to give me my own sparce and limits..

 

[Rhodesy]

Tell her the truth on how you feel.

 

[Evan Wears Prada]

She is possibly crying to try to make you feel guilty so you don't break up with her? I think you should stand strong with your decision because if it is what you want then you should stick with it and go on with life. Best of luck with your problem, i hope i helped in some way.

-Evan

 

[Necromancer24]

Just let her know where her mistakes are. Tell her you cannot stand control-freaks. After that, give her a while to try and change.

If she's still the same as ever or refuses to change, then simply let her know that things aren't working out. Console her if she starts crying but tell her, in no uncertain terms, that you guys are no longer together. Tell her you can be friends, but nothing more.

 

[madhacker14]

Okay well see I have a slight problem ive been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now, and it seems its all falling apart [shes being to controling and now shes got to the point i can't stand it] So today i told her i wanted to break up, she started crying and saying all kinds of things. And i softened up because i have a heart and cannot stand to see/hear a girl cry.. So im asking you all what i should do, please no rude comments or anything like that. Im simply asking for help not smart ass remarks.

Thanks to all you who help.
-Dillon

Hey, two years for a girl is hard to handle being shattered, it wouldn't be easy for anyone! The thing is, you need to talk to her about "the line", if you even want to consider getting back together. You must say "Hey, this is where I draw the line!" Explain to her every reason you had for breaking up on her, and how you can BOTH set limits. Hey, things get rough after a while, we all hit a few bumps, but we need to work through them. So if you're up to it, talk to her, see if she understands, and if so give it another shot!

Goodluck man!

 

[333]

Just act the same way towards her, then way she complains about it say

"treat people the way you want to be treated."

 

[Ninja Turtled Like Sparc]

Well thanks for all of your advice was verry usefull, We are now back together and everything is going fine