I need help....pleaseuhm oka before i get into the whole recent story. This is going to be long so i am sorry ahead of time.
3 years ago i started dating a woman who was so amazing. We were deeply in love, after 5 months of living together and PERFECT no-fighting relationship. I purposed to her. She accepted it of course. then after a few months, she turned into a lets say bitch.. So I broke off the engagement and we were just "dating". So after about a year. She broke it off with me because she wanted to see her other options out there and i was devastated. After a few weeks she came crawling back. So to fast forward. We broke up and got back together 4 different times.
This last time she had a job in Texas and i went with her, seeing i could get a job anywhere being a licensed electrician. So this past spring i moved to Texas with her and worked for a traveling electrical company and she had to go back home to take her state test. We get back, she would go out every single, Tuesday, Thursday and sometimes Saturday nights with friends to bars and stay out till 4 am. While i just stayed at her moms and she never text me back or called to tell me who she was with or anything. And if i were to get mad at her. she would say i was overreacting and that she did nothing wrong.
So i decided to break it off again. She was going out the bars with this guy and he was in love with her. So as a few weeks go by, My ex had time to think about the stupid shit she has done and wants me back. So this guy who is obsessed with her sees that and keeps trying to force her to get over me. So he creates a fake facebook account of a girl then makes up this whole story just to get information out of me and tell her. I caught him, told him i know it's him, then I told my ex and she tells me she believes me and knew he was doing something like that. But then sends me messages on my email telling me she wants me back and would do anything to get me back and realizes that she was wrong and would do anything to fix it. I ignored them. and another week goes by. she unblocks me from facebook because i never replied to her on Email, and it was a very sweet message telling me everything i want to hear, but because i really honestly did want to get back with her, I kept thinking of the past shit she has done and did not want to go through that again. So i blocked her on facebook then sent her an email telling her she fucked up, and it's over. to stop messaging me ..
two more weeks pass.. I go on my facebook, read old messages between me and my ex, and it gets me missing her, a lot.. so i message her. to find out she is dating that guy. but there is more to their "relationship".
One month ago they were "talking" not dating, and he saw the message she sent me about wanting to be with me and he flipped out. He took her phone, her car keys at her house. Tried locking her in her house so she couldn't go anywhere. Then after a bit she finally gets outside. She walks down the street and he tells her to come back and he'll give her, her phone back so she agree'd and came back.. He shut the door behind her and locked it and would not let her near it. Would put his hands on her forcing her to stay there. She gets on the computer to try to get someone there since he is not giving her the phone and not letting her out.. He shuts off the modem and now she has 0 communication. They apparently "work it out".
So a month later i send her a message telling her i missed her and i was sorry for ignoring her, they are dating for a week and a half now and he see's the message and goes ape shit on her again, this time it's worse. he grabs her phone. and won't give it to her then throws her on her bed. Sits on top of her and as she's trying to get him off he grabs her wrists and forces her to stay there. so she screams for her mom to help, he grabs a pillow and puts it over her face so she can't scream for help. then when i was in MMA i taught her some moves on how to get someone off if she really needed too, so she got him off and ran to the door. He grabbed her arm and left a bruise so bottom line on that is, he is abusive...
She tells me she wants to be with me and wants me back. and that same night that guy drinks so much because he's depressed that he gets alcohol poisoning and came to the point where he stopped breathing. so he was in ICU and what not. So she ends up asking me to come to her moms so i can be there. so i do. we talk. she then tells me, she thinks she wants to get back with this guy because she feels like this whole ordeal on being in ICU is her fault. so after all this has gone down, it's the next day and she tells me she loves this guy and wants to be with him. so basically told me to drive an hour and a half to see her just for her to tell me, she wants to be with a guy who has phsycological issues and anger issues, over me.. the guy she has been with for 3 years on and off, the guy who has never put a hand on her, has always supported her through hard times to shit was wasn't a big deal.
So this whole thing is about me feeling like shit seeing she chose a guy she has been dating for a week and a half and woman beater, over me.. the one person who knows EVERYTHING about her. and did everything for her.
I am just a wreck. I don't know what is wrong with what i did.. i mean do i have to go around beating woman to get a her respect and understanding?
I just need help
3 years ago i started dating a woman who was so amazing. We were deeply in love, after 5 months of living together and PERFECT no-fighting relationship. I purposed to her. She accepted it of course. then after a few months, she turned into a lets say bitch.. So I broke off the engagement and we were just "dating". So after about a year. She broke it off with me because she wanted to see her other options out there and i was devastated. After a few weeks she came crawling back. So to fast forward. We broke up and got back together 4 different times.
This last time she had a job in Texas and i went with her, seeing i could get a job anywhere being a licensed electrician. So this past spring i moved to Texas with her and worked for a traveling electrical company and she had to go back home to take her state test. We get back, she would go out every single, Tuesday, Thursday and sometimes Saturday nights with friends to bars and stay out till 4 am. While i just stayed at her moms and she never text me back or called to tell me who she was with or anything. And if i were to get mad at her. she would say i was overreacting and that she did nothing wrong.
So i decided to break it off again. She was going out the bars with this guy and he was in love with her. So as a few weeks go by, My ex had time to think about the stupid shit she has done and wants me back. So this guy who is obsessed with her sees that and keeps trying to force her to get over me. So he creates a fake facebook account of a girl then makes up this whole story just to get information out of me and tell her. I caught him, told him i know it's him, then I told my ex and she tells me she believes me and knew he was doing something like that. But then sends me messages on my email telling me she wants me back and would do anything to get me back and realizes that she was wrong and would do anything to fix it. I ignored them. and another week goes by. she unblocks me from facebook because i never replied to her on Email, and it was a very sweet message telling me everything i want to hear, but because i really honestly did want to get back with her, I kept thinking of the past shit she has done and did not want to go through that again. So i blocked her on facebook then sent her an email telling her she fucked up, and it's over. to stop messaging me ..
two more weeks pass.. I go on my facebook, read old messages between me and my ex, and it gets me missing her, a lot.. so i message her. to find out she is dating that guy. but there is more to their "relationship".
One month ago they were "talking" not dating, and he saw the message she sent me about wanting to be with me and he flipped out. He took her phone, her car keys at her house. Tried locking her in her house so she couldn't go anywhere. Then after a bit she finally gets outside. She walks down the street and he tells her to come back and he'll give her, her phone back so she agree'd and came back.. He shut the door behind her and locked it and would not let her near it. Would put his hands on her forcing her to stay there. She gets on the computer to try to get someone there since he is not giving her the phone and not letting her out.. He shuts off the modem and now she has 0 communication. They apparently "work it out".
So a month later i send her a message telling her i missed her and i was sorry for ignoring her, they are dating for a week and a half now and he see's the message and goes ape shit on her again, this time it's worse. he grabs her phone. and won't give it to her then throws her on her bed. Sits on top of her and as she's trying to get him off he grabs her wrists and forces her to stay there. so she screams for her mom to help, he grabs a pillow and puts it over her face so she can't scream for help. then when i was in MMA i taught her some moves on how to get someone off if she really needed too, so she got him off and ran to the door. He grabbed her arm and left a bruise so bottom line on that is, he is abusive...
She tells me she wants to be with me and wants me back. and that same night that guy drinks so much because he's depressed that he gets alcohol poisoning and came to the point where he stopped breathing. so he was in ICU and what not. So she ends up asking me to come to her moms so i can be there. so i do. we talk. she then tells me, she thinks she wants to get back with this guy because she feels like this whole ordeal on being in ICU is her fault. so after all this has gone down, it's the next day and she tells me she loves this guy and wants to be with him. so basically told me to drive an hour and a half to see her just for her to tell me, she wants to be with a guy who has phsycological issues and anger issues, over me.. the guy she has been with for 3 years on and off, the guy who has never put a hand on her, has always supported her through hard times to shit was wasn't a big deal.
So this whole thing is about me feeling like shit seeing she chose a guy she has been dating for a week and a half and woman beater, over me.. the one person who knows EVERYTHING about her. and did everything for her.
I am just a wreck. I don't know what is wrong with what i did.. i mean do i have to go around beating woman to get a her respect and understanding?
I just need help
