I just need some motivation.

[Berner]

I struggle everyday to be motivated to do things, mainly schoolwork. I hate going to class, hate being in class, hate doing homework, I absolutely hate it.

I've been really screwing up and I'm 3 weeks into community college. Keep in mind I got a 30 on my ACT, I'm no dumbass. I just have no motivation.

I also have a problem with my parents. We have a horrible history and honestly, one day I love them one day I hate them, however they do absolutely nothing wrong to me anymore. I truly refuse to spend time with them over my friends.

Can anyone help me get out of this dark place? I feel that I am wasting my life right now. I wake up, go to school, avoid my family, homework and all that shit just to be with my friends (I would be more specific and say smoke with my friends, but I'm truly not concerned with my thc use). Twice this weekend my parents waited for me to go eat with them just to get blown off. I can't even find it in myself to not blow off my Grandpa half the time we have plans.

I really don't feel depressed. I love a lot of things and people, but I feel as if my life is so constricted between work and school that I can't enjoy anything. Who's felt this way before and been able to snap out of it? I can't quit work or drop classes, neither are options.

 

[Ekumo]

I know how it is to be stuck in the mode you're in, trust me.

Getting out of bed and going to class to each day to learn things that may not even come in handy later down the road can be difficult, too. For school, the question I'd be asking myself is: do I really like what I'm studying? Once you've determined that, maybe you can start to get to the root of the problem in that sector of your life.

Second, the parents. I often feel the same way you do when it comes to the ones who raised me, even though I had no bad past experiences with them. As you get older, parents just become more of a nuisance than an asset. I know it sounds terrible, but it's true for a lot of people, myself included. Although, you still should go ahead and see them for once, maybe have a bit of catch up time, all that jazz.

I don't think you're in a dark place, you've just got a couple bumps in the road that you need to overcome, and I know you can do it. Good luck!

 

[szskateman22]

You are a few years behind me in this aspect (except I do not do the whole smoking thing). I have run through what you are going through.

Might I ask if you have ever had a menial labor job before, i.e.: Cashier in a grocery store, shelf stocking, etc.?

If not I might suggest you go apply for one.
It will:
1. Force you to better manage your time.
2. Give you a sense of WHY you are working for your degree.
3. Keep your mind off the miseries that you believe you have at home.
4. Get you away from your "friends" that appear to be dragging you down.
5. It will provide you with an image of self-worth IF you put the effort into it.
6. Believe it or not, it could give you connections that you never expect and it certainly gives you an insight onto other people's lives. You can always tell who has what and why by brief analysis.

Contrary to what Ekumo has stated, I actually find my parents to become more helpful as I grow older. While I had thought of them as a nuisance then, they are actually rather wise - at least my parents who have come from scientific degree backgrounds [both have a brain].

I whole-heartedly agree with you that a piece of paper from college may seem worthless to you right now; while that may seem like the perspective now, you still need that piece of paper to get your foot in the door for a relatively strong job (unless you apply your current knowledge to developing something that everybody wants, but that is a completely separate topic). Believe it or not - I had thought the piece of paper was worthless just like it seems you are doing right now. I have come to the realization though that if I want the job that I really do want, I NEED that degree. While it might be difficult to get, I HAVE to get it. That's what I set my mind on and I'm not going to back down now.

To accomplish my own goal, I have pretty much given up everything - I have been ignoring my girlfriend (including turning down weekly sex [wtf?!]) because it's a flat-out distraction. I only eat when it's a relatively quick meal or prepared for me. If you're in college (especially advanced/high-level courses), you have to be focused on that - practically nothing else. This weekend I had to prepare for TWO tests - in Physical Chemistry AND Biochemistry. Both are courses that take so much attention I literally didn't leave my house and my course-load is light compared to many others.

Here are some suggestions for proving yourself better in college:
1. Start going to class everyday.
2. Find the intelligent people and start making conversation with them. Get to know the people in the class - ask them to make study groups with you when available. If you understand something and they don't - chime in and help them out - try to explain it to them in the simplest mannerisms you can.
3. Don't look at the homework as homework: Look at it as a reinforcement of what you have learned (or not learned as my case is right now) in class.
4. Turn on some music, put on some headphones, and just get crackin on anything and everything - tune the world out if you have to.
5. Talk with your parents, if you have to - ask them for advice; believe it or not they might surprise you with how smart they are as well.

 

[Lean]

Don't smoke until you have nothing else to do. It makes you not motivated to do anything in most cases.

 

Your motivation should be the impact that all the hard work you are doing will make on your future, try to invision your life with or without te degree, compare them and then make the better decision based on that.

 

[kmjt]

If you do not like your program, why are you in it? Find something you like since you will most likely be doing it for the rest of your life

 

[Pro Account Sale]

Honestly you cant keep looking into the future or the past you need to stick to the now, Once you conquer the now, Everything else will eventually fall into place. Being defiant of your parents at your age is very typical and that too shall pass. Just take it day by day man dont look to in depth into your feelings because to be all honest you really dont want to see your "Dark Spot". Just keep trucking and Goodluck

 

Switch what you're doing at school, do something you might enjoy!

Workout if you already don't, can increase your mood a lot.

 

[Hamouze]

I used to feel the same way. It's probably because like you said, you have nothing to motivate you. You have to find something you enjoy doing, then do it. If all you have going on in your life are things you don't like, you won't enjoy life. Find what you love and let it kill you.

 

[Pro Account Sale]

I used to feel the same way. It's probably because like you said, you have nothing to motivate you. You have to find something you enjoy doing, then do it. If all you have going on in your life are things you don't like, you won't enjoy life. Find what you love and let it kill you.

Those are ALL solid points and I think this whole thread is filled with positive points. Im going to go over again what I said before, You need to live in the Now and dont look to the future and leave the past in the past no matter how deep in your past it is. Look at "The Today" Today is whats going to get you too tomorrow. ----- Repeat------Repeat------Basically Stay in the "today" until you honestly feel back to normal. Try creating calenders and mark the X on the calender everytime you conquer that day.