I have a situation.

[Evan Wears Prada]

Alright, so my best friends girlfriend just broke up with him, they only dated like 2-3 months but he liked her a lot. Before they dated, me and her were pretty close and we made out and stuff like that before and she wanted to have sex with me, but I stopped talking to her because of my friend. She broke up with my friend because she just lost feelings and she told me today that he wouldn't have sex with her and all this stuff and that it pushed her over the edge. So, she told me she was done with relationships and just wanted to have sex with one person just as like friends with benefits. I just blew this off thinking she was just rambling so I let it go. Then later in the conversation she tells me that she wants to have sex with me and for me to just be there to have sex with her. I'm totally fine with the sex part, but I just don't know what'll happen with me and my best friend. He's not over her yet so he's still sad. She told me she wouldn't tell him but I don't know if I could not tell him if it happened. I'm not sure if I should go on and have sex with her, because I want too, but I don't wanna hurt my friend. I'm just wondering if you have any advice on this situation that I am in because it sucks.

 

[Iminess]

Lucky son of a bitch.
Wear a condom.

 

[FloydZeppelin]

Women come and go, but friends last.

That's the best advice I can give you. Take it how you want.

 

[goku usa]

bros before hoes is not just a saying. it's the way relationships should be. talk to your friend straight up and see how he feels. if he doesn't mind then well, go buy few condoms.

 

[FloydZeppelin]

bros before hoes is not just a saying. it's the way relationships should be. talk to your friend straight up and see how he feels. if he doesn't mind then well, go buy few condoms.

I don't agree with this.

You: Hey man, sorry to hear about your break-up, but do you mind if I smash her?

How awkward/inconsiderate is that.

Just let it go... Don't be a dick.

 

[Evan Wears Prada]

I think I'm with Floyd on this, I most certainly won't talk to him about it, because he'll freak out. I'll probably just stop talking to her and leave it, because she isn't worth losing a friendship.

 

[FloydZeppelin]

To be honest, if I were in your situation - I'd completely avoid all contact with a girl that broke up with my friend simply because he chose not to have sex with her. What kind of bullshit is that?

Just goes to show how pathetic and inconsiderate people have become.

 

[goku usa]

I don't agree with this.

You: Hey man, sorry to hear about your break-up, but do you mind if I smash her?

How awkward/inconsiderate is that.

Just let it go... Don't be a dick.

Clearly you did not read what he wrote. The girl approached HIM for sex. Not only did you sound ignorant, but also immature. You do not approach anyone in that manner to talk about something this big of magnitude. I don't blame you for not understanding adult talk. It comes with age. I told him to tell it straight up how it is which is that she approached him and asked him for sex; and if he objects, don't do it.

 

[FloydZeppelin]

Clearly you did not read what he wrote. The girl approached HIM for sex. Not only did you sound ignorant, but also immature. You do not approach anyone in that manner to talk about something this big of magnitude. I don't blame you for not understanding adult talk. It comes with age. I told him to tell it straight up how it is which is that she approached him and asked him for sex; and if he objects, don't do it.

That's quite a skewed perspective you have there.

It doesn't matter whether the girl approached him for sex, a certain degree of morality and doing what's right should come into play.

You do not approach anyone in that manner to talk about something this big of magnitude

This big of magnitude? The girl has blatantly made it clear that she's nothing more than an arrogant young girl with no sense of ethics. Why even associate with her? Why even consider her offer? Why bring it up to a friend who is upset over someone who didn't give two shits about him? What do you honestly think he'll say? It's not a big magnitude, it's something that should be let go and forgotten about.

I don't blame you for not understanding adult talk. It comes with age.

This is irrelevant, but it's something I'd expect from someone with a self-proclaimed 'big boy' ego, such as yourself. Quit with your assumptions, it makes you sound so incredibly ignorant, it's not even funny.

I told him to tell it straight up how it is which is that she approached him and asked him for sex; and if he objects, don't do it.

Refer to my quote above to explain why he should just pay no attention and let it pass.

 

[goku usa]

Refer to my quote above to explain why he should just pay no attention and let it pass.

I'm totally fine with the sex part, but I just don't know what'll happen with me and my best friend.

Clearly he wants to be with the girl, but he's not unsure of his friend's reaction to it and if it will have any impact on his friendship. Thus, I suggested he talk to him. Jumping to conclusions about what he will think is no valid, because we're not psychic.

 

[FloydZeppelin]

Clearly he wants to be with the girl, but he's not unsure of his friend's reaction to it and if it will have any impact on his friendship. Thus, I suggested he talk to him. Jumping to conclusions about what he will think is no valid, because we're not psychic.

"So, she told me she was done with relationships and just wanted to have sex with one person just as like friends with benefits."

There is a difference between being with someone, and exploiting them for sexual purposes. One has a level of sentimental value and the other is casual and not significant in the least bit. She's made it clear she only wants the sexual portion.

Your logic regarding the "jumping to conclusions" bullshit holds no water, simply because it's evident how he would react. Being upset about someone leaving you, then having your friend request permission to have sex with that someone? Hmmm, that's a no-brainer!

 

[davidh93]

like the guy above said^ women come and go, but friends last . so basically bros before hoes

 

[Proc]

Think of whichever one means more to you, your long time friend, or his ex-girlfriend? If you choose to have sex with her, you might lose a friend, and if you don't, you won't lose much (unless you are really that close to her) but your friend will appreciate you more and your relationship will become stronger. Besides, if she really "likes" you that much, she will still want to be your friend if you choose not to take up on her offer.

 

[Evan Wears Prada]

To be honest, if I were in your situation - I'd completely avoid all contact with a girl that broke up with my friend simply because he chose not to have sex with her. What kind of bullshit is that?

Just goes to show how pathetic and inconsiderate people have become.

I agree that it is bullshit that she broke up with him for that and I do feel sorry for him, however, I shouldn't have to not talk to her because she broke up with him. He doesn't want me talking to her but I was her friend for a while before he even talked to her, and I stopped talking to her because of him and her and how they irritated me. She started texting ME and talking to ME first, I didn't text her. I'm not going to have sex with her but I shouldn't have to avoid her because of my friend.

 

[kill dank]

I would get up on that shit. If her and your friend don't talk, who's gonna know?

 

[333]

There are a few ways to handle this situation..

-Tell your friend... Which is what most people with good morals would do..
-Tell her your gay...
-Tell her when, where, you have the right brand and size.

 

[El DLo]

Don't do it, man. It's not worth your friendship. This past summer I had a bad breakup with a girl that I'd only been dating for 4 months, but had grown extremely close to. I had been with other girlfriends for much longer than her, but for some reason what I felt with her was unlike anything I had felt before it. If your friend liked her a lot and he told you this, then chances are he actually liked her even a lot more than that. After the breakup, it hurt to know that my ex-girlfriend was doing anything with ANYBODY. If I found out that she had hooked up with my best friend, well, I don't know what I would do.

Honest truth is that for the sake of your friend, you really shouldn't do it. If he really is your best friend and you go through with it, it's going to end up destroying your friendship, because the guilt will get to you, and whether you realize it or not, it will start to push you two apart. If your friendship is anything special, it's not worth ending over a girl, and it never is. There's a million girls out there, and from the sounds of it, you don't have the hardest time getting with one, so if there's one girl to avoid, it's this one.

I know you'll end up convincing yourself that it's okay because they're not together anymore, and you'll justify it by saying that it's what she wanted and that if she's single it's fair game, but inside you'll know that you're betraying your best friend in the worst way possible, and the fact alone that you'll be forcing yourself to hide from the truth will completely eat you up inside.

 

[FireZ]

Don't do it, man. It's not worth your friendship. This past summer I had a bad breakup with a girl that I'd only been dating for 4 months, but had grown extremely close to. I had been with other girlfriends for much longer than her, but for some reason what I felt with her was unlike anything I had felt before it. If your friend liked her a lot and he told you this, then chances are he actually liked her even a lot more than that. After the breakup, it hurt to know that my ex-girlfriend was doing anything with ANYBODY. If I found out that she had hooked up with my best friend, well, I don't know what I would do.

Honest truth is that for the sake of your friend, you really shouldn't do it. If he really is your best friend and you go through with it, it's going to end up destroying your friendship, because the guilt will get to you, and whether you realize it or not, it will start to push you two apart. If your friendship is anything special, it's not worth ending over a girl, and it never is. There's a million girls out there, and from the sounds of it, you don't have the hardest time getting with one, so if there's one girl to avoid, it's this one.

I know you'll end up convincing yourself that it's okay because they're not together anymore, and you'll justify it by saying that it's what she wanted and that if she's single it's fair game, but inside you'll know that you're betraying your best friend in the worst way possible, and the fact alone that you'll be forcing yourself to hide from the truth will completely eat you up inside.

I will 2nd this.

 

[superman sp]

she prob got some STDs or something and just wants to give it to one of u -.-

 

[Burdock`]

Stay in contact with her. Nothing sexual.

Then when your mates done being upset, nail her. Discretely though.

Best of both worlds?