I feel so trapped.

I can't stand living with foster kids anymore. The little girl my mom currently has beats my mom up all the time and picks on me and screams throws things and I do my best to keep my cool but she's a ten year old in a 16 year old body.

She has multi personality's. Her grandpa sexually abused and beat her on a daily basis so sometimes she'll say she's her grandpa and that's when all hell breaks loose.

I constantly have to go to my bedroom and close the door with my dog and cat inside because she'll try to break their paws or hurt them. She's nuts and mentally unstable. Only reason why she's still with us is because my mom loves her and knows there is a little girl inside there that has so much potential and she just can't let her go.

If my mom did let her go, the foster agency said she'll be put into a mental patient hospital where she'll stay until she gets better. Which is one of the reasons why my mom wants to keep her.

She's currently under no medication and my mom is currently fighting for her to be evaluated but it's hard because she puts on a show for strangers where is so innocent and nothing is wrong with her. So when she does have an attack we have to get her in the car and take her to the children's hospital some how which is 100% of the time unsuccessful because she will punch you out.

It's currently 6:39 PM, she's down stairs fighting my mom about something I don't know of. I can hear my mom in the background of my music saying "stop hitting me, don't touch me". I sit here and do nothing because that's all I'm allowed to do.

I'm seventeen and I cry myself to sleep every night because I don't want to wake up in the morning. I just want to evaporate.

 

...I've got not much experience with this type of situation, but I too come from a VERY abusive family. I think the best thing to do is send her to the mental hospital if she is as unstable as you make her sound. I've been sent to one before, they suck ENTIRELY. But it seems it is the only way. You could also try and have her put on the medication she needs. If your mother doesn't want to, there is one other option I can think of.
Acquire a video camera. ANY kind. Videotape one of her "fits". If she hits you or your mother you can get her charged for assault. She will probably get 6 months of probation to a year of probation for the first time. If she continues, she'll be facing jail. This is only something you should do if you are prepared to remove her from the house. The chances are she'll either be sent to a mental hospital or jail.

If you ever need to talk, pm me... I was in an abusive home before and I know it's tough.

NOTE: I'm Canadian, so the laws apply to my country, but it stays generally about the same. The only problem is, she'll be tried in a court for people under the age of 17, where she will get a lighter sentence (what I told you).

I hope everything works out...

PS: I'm sorry it took so long for a response.. I've been REALLY busy lately.

 

You should appeal to your mom that this girl needs to go. Her being there is not benefiting anyone, especially not your mom. Although your mom thinks that the best thing that she can do for the girl is to keep her out of a psyche ward, that is far from the truth. The best thing you guys can do for her, is to get her help for her problem, and during treatment for you guys to support her. If your mom still decides not to get treatment for her, maybe you could try talking to social services, I am sure they would understand your predicament.
Edit: About that last post, I would not suggest trying to get her charged for assault, she has major mental issues that need to be worked out through rehabilitation, not punishment.

 

Your mom is being kind of selfish. The girl NEEDS to get serious help, your mom should stop preventing it just because she wants to "keep" her. Until your mom realizes this I guess there's nothing you can really do, except trying to encourage her letting her go to a mental facility. Have you told your mom how trapped you feel and how you fear this girl?

 

Personally i would film it and take it to the police for proof of assault, i guess it could work and the kid would be taken away, it is horrible to hear this and as your 17 i guess you are doing A levels which is the most important part of your life.

 

You're leaving out some rather important details. I've seen some foster kids get along with their families, so there must be something else that began all this hatred. Why don't you start telling us about all this from the beginning?

I think you should try looking at all this from HER perspective for once. Would you ever want to be sent to a mental facility? Would you ever want to be sexually abused at a very young age? She has probably lost her purpose for living. The environment she lived in influenced her to become the devil she is today. It might not be too late to reach out to her though.

Tell me the type of relationship you have with her. What's her attitude towards you? Does she have any friends?

 

Oh I understand now. It's not the type of "Get her out of my life" Situation... You care about her, so I'd suggest you encourage her to get her the help she needs. I don't suggest to put her in a hospital as an inpatient. PLEASE, DO NOT. If you care about her, you WILL NOT LET HER BE AN IMPATIENT UNLESS YOU 100% HAVE TO. Keep pushing for her and show her you care. When you calm her down, you can make her realize what she did wrong too, so she'll feel guilty and not want to do it anymore...

Sorry if this made no sense. I'm tired atm...

 

i see that you do care about her, tell your mom she needs to go get help for herself and your family