I have a problem... with boyfriends....

Ok I'm finally admitting it to myself... I have a problem.

For some reason it's hard for me to be in a relationship. I don't mind being in a relationship but I don't want to see my/future boyfriends everyday. At the most 3 times a week, after that i get annoyed. Also I can't be in a relationship more than 2 weeks because mostly they will say something stupid that makes me end the shit right there or they're begging for money or sex sex sex... (no i don't like sex much). NOT to mention they cheat a lot and I like staying healthy. But yeah over all I think it's me and not my laundry list of ex's.

 

I think the word you're looking for is... friends. If you want to see that person 3 times a week at most, then that's literally what a friend is. Don't get into a relationship with every guy you meet, just stay friends; that way you avoid the need for money or sex. Maybe if you have a bunch of guy friends you'll be able to pick out the one you like the most after a while and get into a relationship. From what I can tell from your OP, you're just getting into a relationship with a lot of guys.

But if you actually knew these people for a while and you still only want to see your significant other 3 times a week, then yeah it's probably you. A guy begging for money from you? If that's the case I'm assuming you're wealthy and that could be a cause of a problem. Just be smart in who you choose to spend your time with.

 

You need to put more effort into your relationship, no relationship is perfect and youll never find one that is 100% perfect. It takes a lot of time to get to know each other. You shouldnt end a relationship just because of some stupid excuse except for cheating. We all make mistakes, learn to balance your life out so you can do whatever you normally do + hang out with your partner.

 

Not sure you could ever be in a relationship that absolutely fine, you need to find the fixes and carry on, find a true guy to stay with and don't get straight into a relationship.

 

Hamouze gave a really good example, you need to just find a few friends that you would rather see for x amount of times per week. Eventually you're going to find someone that you just want to see everyday.

 

Then don't get into a relationship. If you don't want to spend time with the guy or sleep with him of course he'll look for someone else or "cheat."

Like someone above said, just settle for friends. It sounds like what you want isn't a relationship anyways.

 

Are you a male or female?

 

Do not, I repeat, do not give into this crap. If a guy cheats on you just because you won't give him sex, he wasn't the right guy for you and he was 99% an asshole/douchebag who doesn't deserve a proper healthy loving relationship.

 

Sex is an important component in a healthy relationship.

 

This. You don't want to sexually frustrate your partner whether it's a male or female. It's not only part of a healthy relationship, but of nature. If you're showing deep affection for each other, there needs to be a vector of release for all those emotions AKA sex.

Now I understand if they don't want to have sex after a week, but if you're completely ruling out sex then don't expect a healthy relationship.

 

Shouldn't matter.

Seconded. There are millions of fish in the sea, so don't chase ones who mistreat you.

 

Never had a bf super but hey good luck. Relationship wise I like to think of them as something that's meant to last a while now you seem, from what I read, not to like that. Have you though about just having someone be a friend with benefits?

Just to fool around on occasion and have a little fun here and there but nothing serious and ghosts in public light.

 

Imo its good that u stay healthy and don't succumb to these guy's needs when they don't respect ur decisions. Start off as friends and ask urself can u see urself being with him in the future, cuz eventually if u get married u will see him everyday. Also, if hes just using u for sex/money and doesn't treat u the way u shud be treated and cherish the r/s then don't get into 1 with him. Take time to know the person and get out of the r/s when u know its not right. That being said, don't rush into r/s and give others false hope only get into one when ur sure hes rlly right for u that way u can make the r/s last longer and hopefully a life time. Gl

 

I think you need to emotionally mature a lot before you try to get into another relationship. I don't mean to be rude so please take this in the most constructive way possible, but you sound like a junior high school kid. Allow yourself time to live life and experience different things in order to grow as a person.

 

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

I've learned the hard way that being in a relationship for the sake of being with that person is a bad thing. Do what makes you happy. If you want a boyfriend but can't seem to find someone you want to be around, then wait. Just wait until you find someone you can't imagine not having around, someone you get excited to see and anticipate to see when you know you're gonna see them later. That's when you date someone, not just for the sake of it. Don't even think about it, just let it happen when it should. Forget about the idea of a boyfriend and form some friendships you're actually interested in having.

 

Hey,

Whatever you're feeling is totally fine, because that's what you feel. Many people are comfortable with only platonic relationships. Then you have asexuals who may even wish never to have sex.

Yes, there may be less people who feel the same as you do, but not nobody. You will find the person for you just as easy as anyone else will. Respect your own boundaries and don't compromise. Don't feel pressured in to any relationship or situation you don't want to be in; there's no need. You can be in a relationship with someone and never have sex, or only have sex when y'all feel comfortable to in that moment, then never again maybe. It's all fine.

"Of course they will cheat" is the lamest excuse around. Anyone who cheats for any reason is a scumbag.

 

It sounds like you're dating the wrong kind of guys. If all they want from you is sex and money and if they want to be with you 24/7 that's not good for any relationship. Try looking in a different direction when you're looking for a boyfriend.

 

So let's get this straight. In a span of two weeks you have people begging for sex/money, cheating, and wanting to hang out too much.

Sounds to me like you should slow things down a bit. Maybe actually get to know these fellows before entering into your standard 2 week relationship with them. If they're pissing you off, then just don't enter into a relationship with them at all... problem solved dearest anish.