How to Flirt properly

[Herman Li]

I used to be good at flirting, but ever since my gf broke up with me many months ago I feel as if I'll just seem like a creep if I try and flirt with a girl, so I basically don't do it.

How can I flirt properly or get rid of this feeling that I'm a creeper?

 

[Jacmob]

I used to be good at flirting, but ever since my gf broke up with me many months ago I feel as if I'll just seem like a creep if I try and flirt with a girl, so I basically don't do it.

How can I flirt properly or get rid of this feeling that I'm a creeper?

Well a little more information would be helpful.. like can you get their numbers easily or ask them out easily to like the movies.. or are you just afraid to go up to them now

 

[Herman Li]

Sorry, I generally meant flirting as in "indirect sexual connotations", I guess?

I can talk to girls without a single problem, but I never give off any hint that I'm interested - even if they do.

 

[ignitiion]

Sorry, I generally meant flirting as in "indirect sexual connotations", I guess?

I can talk to girls without a single problem, but I never give off any hint that I'm interested - even if they do.

Oh, well in that case it's pretty hard to do without seeming like a creep some of the time. The reason you feel like that is plainly because some girls just aren't down to be like that and are going to take things far too seriously. I found for myself at least, the number one way to be a good flirt is not to care what other people think of you while you're flirting with them. Of course there are going to be some girls that will be offended by the fact that you came up and showed interest like any normal human being but those aren't the kinds of girls that i'd like to be with personally anyways. Just be there to have fun and generally it will all go smooth. If you seem like a guy who is just there to have a great time and strike up a conversation, they won't mind the company at all!

For showing interest, just laugh and make small amounts of contact like touching her forearm or shoulder or something while being really casual about it, she'll pick up on it for sure if she's interested in you back because she'll be looking for it to happen I hope i answered the question you were asking, if not i'll give it another shot hehe.

 

[Jacmob]

Oh, well in that case it's pretty hard to do without seeming like a creep some of the time. The reason you feel like that is plainly because some girls just aren't down to be like that and are going to take things far too seriously. I found for myself at least, the number one way to be a good flirt is not to care what other people think of you while you're flirting with them. Of course there are going to be some girls that will be offended by the fact that you came up and showed interest like any normal human being but those aren't the kinds of girls that i'd like to be with personally anyways. Just be there to have fun and generally it will all go smooth. If you seem like a guy who is just there to have a great time and strike up a conversation, they won't mind the company at all!

For showing interest, just laugh and make small amounts of contact like touching her forearm or shoulder or something while being really casual about it, she'll pick up on it for sure if she's interested in you back because she'll be looking for it to happen I hope i answered the question you were asking, if not i'll give it another shot hehe.

To add to this, if she seems like the one who has a good sense of humor.. joke around and be a little sarcastic about some stuff.. don't seem like a complete moron or a d1ck.. be close to them.. like casually just stand close to them.. if you get their number, then one of the hardest parts is over.. it's so easy to flirt over texting and meeting up with them you can just be yourself.. they would know you're interested and so you really wouldn't have to flirt all that much in person if you can do it over text

 

How old are you? Depending on the age of the girl you'll tend to say different things

 

Make them laugh, make jokes, make a joke of yourself (not too much though obviously) and then give them the prolonged eye contact, winner.

 

[Michel1984]

You can't "Flirt properly" You just have a nice conversation and go with it, done deal. Make her laugh, make some sexual jokes, etc, stuff that makes her blush

-michel

 

[Just4s]

just be urself

 

[FireZ]

Anytime you can make a girl laugh (and its not off the wall etc) that is always going to be a +1

 

[JackIAm]

Google: What girls want in a guy.

Surprisingly good advice out there.

 

[rue]

Make them laugh, make jokes, make a joke of yourself (not too much though obviously) and then give them the prolonged eye contact, winner.

This first part is the key, make her (or whomever she is) laugh. Come of as casual, but show genuine interest in her by asking her questions and complementing her responses. Usually, what you want to say could be a good thing if it's not perverted.

 

[Schyler]

Don't be shy, be outgoing but not obnoxious, try to make her laugh. It's pretty obvious when a girl's having a good time. Just don't be nervous or awkward. Gl

 

This first part is the key, make her (or whomever she is) laugh. Come of as casual, but show genuine interest in her by asking her questions and complementing her responses. Usually, what you want to say could be a good thing if it's not perverted.

And lastly, forgot to add this, treat her the same as you do when you're with her yourself, as you do when you're around her friends or your own friends. Say the same, complimentary things to her as you would alone.

 

[malyce]

Some people just try too hard. They deliver cheesy pick up lines, show off the muscle they wish they had, and all around act like idiots.

You want to be a good flirt? It's actually suprisingly easy.

Women (at least in my experience) love a few things. They love a man who can get dressed well, but still has a little bit of an edgier side to him. They love a man who is confident in himself, and expresses that in friendly ways (approaching them, starting conversation, etc).

Confidence is key. Style is also key.

Don't walk into a dive bar wearing a suit, but don't walk into a five star eatery in jeans. Don't talk about how cool you are, or how well you're doing for yourself. Ask he engaging questions and LISTEN to what she has to say. Make her feel like she's the only woman in the room. Even if Megan Fox and Jenna Jameson walk past you and wink, pay them no attention. Keep focused on the person you're making conversation with. A sense of humor works wonders when the situation gets awkward.

Lets recap:
Be stylish.
Be engaging.
Be confident.

Charisma is very hard to teach, unfortunately.

 

[ClazzD]

dude i feel the same way too after a long year and a half relationship

but i sorta feel like its cause i dont want to
but on the other hand its like i repel girls too

 

[Herman Li]

Sorry I've never replied guys. I'm 19 btw. Ummm well I'm kicking some bad habits so I feel this will help my confidence and such. Possibly after some practice I can manage to be a good flirt. Though it's like, I can easily spark a conversation and get a fast smile/laugh in, but it's hard for me to keep her interested tbh. Sigh.

 

[SmokeHut]

Some people just try too hard. They deliver cheesy pick up lines, show off the muscle they wish they had, and all around act like idiots.

You want to be a good flirt? It's actually suprisingly easy.

Women (at least in my experience) love a few things. They love a man who can get dressed well, but still has a little bit of an edgier side to him. They love a man who is confident in himself, and expresses that in friendly ways (approaching them, starting conversation, etc).

Confidence is key. Style is also key.

Don't walk into a dive bar wearing a suit, but don't walk into a five star eatery in jeans. Don't talk about how cool you are, or how well you're doing for yourself. Ask he engaging questions and LISTEN to what she has to say. Make her feel like she's the only woman in the room. Even if Megan Fox and Jenna Jameson walk past you and wink, pay them no attention. Keep focused on the person you're making conversation with. A sense of humor works wonders when the situation gets awkward.

Lets recap:
Be stylish.
Be engaging.
Be confident.

Charisma is very hard to teach, unfortunately.

Excellent advice, but.. If they both walked past winking. I'd find that invitation worthy of a kidney, or both !

OT

Confidence is key, and generally talking to a girl JUST because you want to take her home generally won't get you anywhere. Unless you're in a place where the girls are tremendously easy. Which is unlikely.

I find from your situation that you're probably talking to girls at college/work rather than at a club or bar. Better just to be friends with everyone and see what comes your way. If you're worried and anxious in a conversation or dropping uncalled for comments then you will most likely just be deemed a creep.

 

[miixa]

Even if Megan Fox and Jenna Jameson walk past you and wink, pay them no attention.

Those should not be in the same sentence together

 

[Dan<3]

It really all depend's on the type of girl you're aiming for and the type of person you are.

Just be yourself at most times.

Dont be sexually frustrated.