Hitting your kids

[Ouranos]

I was hit very often as a kid so Idc really, but yeah , I would spank/hit my children. It's not that big of a deal tbh, whats so big about hitting your own child. Like sabuse is different but hitting your child or spanking them for teaching them a lesson is not a big deal, minor problem in the world. I say theirs nothing to say about it because thiers no clue about it.

 

[ughh..]

If you're hitting a kid and he's stressed/scared/traumatized because of it you're doing it wrong. You hit a kid to make them see straight and listen up real quick. Then you explain what thet did wrong and why they were hit. My mom right after hitting me hard always told me she loved me and hitting me had nothing to do with how she felt toward me but to make me stop immediately and see what I'm doing from another point of view.

Some kids are quick and catch on fast enough where they don't get to the point of hitting and others are thick and need a wake up call before being to able to make them think rationally

 

[Hamouze]

It's called associative learning and conditioning. You stop doing bad things as you get older because you know there will be a negative outcome afterwards (memory of pain and punishment). If you aren't punished, as you grow older what is bad is fine to you as you associate it with reward instead of associating it with a negative feeling.

 

[Lean]

I don't believe in hitting children, mostly because I used to get hit as a child. You can teach them the same lesson by taking away their toys and other things. Although I don't have a son I have a daughter who is quite calm, doesn't misbehave and is friendly towards every other kid even if they're mean to her. I may see things differently if I ever have a son who gets out of line.

It's really the parents choice on how they raise their kids so if someone wants to hit their kids that's their decision as long as it's not excessive.

 

[kmjt]

Personally I would just take away stuff he likes, like video games, etc. When I was a kid I would have much rather a smack to the head then getting my Halo taken away lol. I don't really think these "small physical punishments" do much. I think kids more fear the thought of the abuse escalating. Knowing that he hit me in the head last time, maybe he will hit me harder this time?

If you ground your kid a month for the smallest things, he will listen. Unless he has some sort of psychological problem.

 

[Ouranos]

It's not a big problem as I said before, but yeah. hitting your kids is fine as long as your doing it fashionably right.

 

[n4n0]

It will also discourage the child from trusting the giant that hits him.

This is bullshit. I was spanked as a child by my father, and I never stopped trusting him. I love the man with all of my heart to this day, and we still talk daily.

 

[krutoi]

This is bullshit. I was spanked as a child by my father, and I never stopped trusting him. I love the man with all of my heart to this day, and we still talk daily.

As I said, even if you hit your son later on , he will forget about it and thank you for educating him like you did. A good example are all of these "examples" which show that even if they GET HIT or they were SPANKED when they were kiddos, they still love their parents so much, and I bet $10.000 that MOST of them don't regret anything that happened, they just listened and they are better than they would be if their parents would consent them to do all they wished when they were kids. What if they would like drugs and just because you didn't give him a "spank" he just kept and kept with them? Just useless once again, this is people's choice but as I stated above, hitting or spanking your son won't make him any bad , of course a constant hitting or spanking without reason each day isn't the best idea, that's bad , ofc it's bad. But NOONE said that we will KILL THEM. Jesus christ..

 

[Hamouze]

This is bullshit. I was spanked as a child by my father, and I never stopped trusting him. I love the man with all of my heart to this day, and we still talk daily.

If people start hitting their kids when they're 11, that's when a new factor takes play. You gotta start while they're young (I know it sounds really bad but it's the honest truth) so it conditions them (again it sounds bad but is scientifically proven for them to not repeat the mistake). My mother used to hit me when I was younger and yet to this day in college she is my role model and the strongest woman I know.

Also, I <3 N4N0.

 

[Ouranos]

I was spanked/hit as a child and nothing happened. I love my father more for hitting/spanking me then him not doing that.

 

[kill dank]

Nigga I whoop tha fuck out them keeds

 

[silver7410]

teach them patiently is a better way.

 

[Excited]

Think it's wrong

 

[Armoire]

There's better ways for children to understand something is wrong. Associative learning doesn't need the punishment to be physical, rather some other consequence that doesn't directly harm the child, e.g. taking away rights/privileges. "Hitting" is quite subjective, if you're lightly punching or slapping your child then I wouldn't think much of it, since that is common behaviour.

From personal experience, any punishment should not be followed by anger or verbal abuse. This is normally where it becomes detrimental and/or harmful to the child.

 

[Direchampion]

I think hitting your child is reasonable under certain circumstances.

In some cases the child just doesn't understand that he/she is being an asshole so you have to show him/her somehow. Words don't always work. This is from my experiences with my younger sister who doesn't give a flying fuck about other people but doesn't get punished due to her gender.

 

[MirrinDesertBoots]

hitting your kids really doesn't help anything. If you want to prove a point have them sleep on the driveway for a night.

 

hitting your kids really doesn't help anything. If you want to prove a point have them sleep on the driveway for a night.

Yes, and have child protective services take the kid away.

Hitting your kids is the most effective and non inhumane way to psychologically teach them the difference between right and wrong.

 

[malakadang]

You should not be initiating force on a rational agent. Although it's ambiguous if the kid can be considered a rational agent 3, 4 even 5 years old, you should never ever hit kids when they're 8 for example. You should also never steal their property. It seems so blatantly obvious to me, you want your child to respect other people and their property. Hitting them in no way facilitates this, it actually promotes it. It tells them that violence is an acceptable means to an end, more specifically, initiating violence on someone if they do something you don't like.

 

[Swan]

You should not be initiating force on a rational agent. Although it's ambiguous if the kid can be considered a rational agent 3, 4 even 5 years old, you should never ever hit kids when they're 8 for example. You should also never steal their property. It seems so blatantly obvious to me, you want your child to respect other people and their property. Hitting them in no way facilitates this, it actually promotes it. It tells them that violence is an acceptable means to an end, more specifically, initiating violence on someone if they do something you don't like.

Interesting how black and white you think it is.

I was caught stealing before, and I was caught using violence. And, I was both punished physically, and had items of equal value reciprocally taken from me. I didn't ever do it again. The reason why? Because it taught me empathy for those my actions had consequence on.

It's kind of funny how the white knights pretend to be experts in this field. Honestly, I don't actually know what quantitative effects hitting children has, but at least I'm not claiming one way or the other with "children are impressionable" as my justification.

Edit:

Having read above, I noticed someone claiming that a sample size of 700 was quite enough, and someone claiming that it wasn't. Let me break it down:

You have a population of 1.9 billion kids or so, according to Ghast. 700 children represents a very, very small portion of that population. Now, certainly, a sample of that size may be used to say something about the population within error, to the point where you can theorise about the population. However, that's only one sample. ONE sample. In statistics, one sample is not hard evidence or proof - it is simply a representation of the population at the particular point in which the sample was taken. You cannot possibly make the sample 100% random, which means in order for the data to mean anything, either a larger sample size proportional to the population size, or more importantly, multiple different samples from all over the place at different times and under different conditions need to be taken.

For example, recently in a laboratory I was testing quality of various thermocouples in aqueous conditions - I took multiple samples both under same and under different conditions and every sample yielded SIGNIFICANTLY different results.

700 people is a perfectly good sample size. 1 sample is not enough samples. Therefore that statistical information is not enough to form any conclusions about the majority of the population. Having said all of this, I didn't actually read the paper mentioned - I'm just going of what the posts were saying - so if I've mistaken something about the data then please feel free to say so.

 

[nodnarbusn]

Please stop making yourself looks stupid. You are talking to person who has actualy taken courses on mathematics and statistics so trust me when I say that a sample size of 700 is enough.

Strong irony.

I took a math class 700 people is enough to base judgement of billions.

Thats not even a drop in the fucking bucket. You really need to adjust your attitude as well, you are the only one in this thread being a prick (for no reason l might add). Next time you are in school attend english class, that way when you are having egotistical bitch fits we cant rip on you for broken english.

This is bullshit. I was spanked as a child by my father, and I never stopped trusting him. I love the man with all of my heart to this day, and we still talk daily.

This. I wasnt spanked often or overly aggressively. Just enough to get the point across, and it did. I dont resent him a bit over it.