Hey was up plz help:)

sry for bothering for some noob but i rly need help...plz...am now instaling in the 1st time wow and tbc expanzion,so i have little problems....i dont have friends who play wow around in a miles and i wanna ask how to conect to this server...
1.-my expanzion is 3.0.1 and when i start launcher it starts with wotlk screen and i didnt even instaled it
2.-how to get patch list and from what order i need go to get 1 with i can play on this server coz i rly like it
3.-u dont need to tell me abouth the realmlist and others only for patches
thx i hope u help me and rly wanna conect here thx agn