Having a problem with girls

[ProblemsWithGirls]

So, I'm in my final year of Highschool (12th grade) and there's this girl in my English class that I've liked for a while now.

Let me start this off going back to my Freshman year of Highschool (9th grade). So it was my birthday and Facebook was actually something that was still active, and she wrote on my wall "Happy Birthday, you need to hmu sometimes" (for people that don't know what "hmu" means, it means Hit Me Up.) So I commented that I don't have her number and she didn't hesitate to post it just seconds after. I knew this girl liked me before because she even told me that she does during this time, for some reason I never really had the balls to ask her out, or whatever...

Anyways, now we can go back to modern day 12th grade English class. When I'm sitting in class I'll look at her every once in a while and whenever she looks at me she'll either smile, or do something other than looking away. I don't have her number anymore because it's been 4 years and I've gotten new phones since then. My brother is telling me to just message her on Facebook again, but just to talk to her through there and then try to get her number. (By the way, I don't sit near her in class, we're a good ~15 feet away) I didn't really like that idea because it seems like whenever I like someone that I can't really talk to that much, I'm being pushed through messaging them on Facebook, which I personally don't like doing.

What do you think I should do?

 

[Direchampion]

Do you guys have any mutual friends? Perhaps you could arrange a small party and invite her.

 

[Darbss]

i think the first hurdle is being able to talk to someone you have feelings for.
you can arrange all of the elaborate "accidental meetings" you want but if you don't actually feel comfortable talking to her then you wont.

 

[Darbss]

if you do see her just walk/run upto her (not like a rapist) and explain the situation? "hey, ive got a new phone and i realised the other day when i didnt have your number anymore. I was gonna call and say we should hang out"

BOOM.

Girls really arent as scary as you think man, i promise you.

 

[ProblemWithGirls]

if you do see her just walk/run upto her (not like a rapist) and explain the situation? "hey, ive got a new phone and i realised the other day when i didnt have your number anymore. I was gonna call and say we should hang out"

BOOM.

Girls really arent as scary as you think man, i promise you.

Problem is, I haven't had her number since 9th grade. Should I still ask it anyway or try a different approach?

 

[Darbss]

like. i get where you're coming from 100%

You're thinking it'll be weird because there's 3 years between having her number and maybe she doesn't want you to have her number anymore?

But girls aren't that complicated, they wouldn't even think into it that far. ESPECIALLY if she doesn't completely ignore you when you see her (you said she smiles and doesn't look away) she will be more shocked that you took the initiative to come talk to her and that you invited her to hang out. The time that you didn't talk wont even cross her mind.

From her perspective:

1. she wished you a happy birthday
2. she gave you her number
3. for whatever reason the contact died out.

she's not going to be the person to instigate again, you gotta litterally man up.

 

[pur3bloody]

Fuck facebook messaging bro. Walk up to her, start a normal convo, keep it simple, then say "hey, I gotta run to the next class, what's your number I'll hit you up." and bam, you're good to go. Once you have it, text a bit, and then if you're not too shy, call and schedule a meet up with her outside of school.

 

[DRSX]

could ask her if she would like to catch up and get a cup of coffee/get something to eat and just see how shes doing and at the same time get her number

 

[Almighty So]

Confidence will win her over. No doubt. Just go talk to her personally.

 

[Sanctuary]

Wait until you're both walking out of English class and be like, "hey, I lost your number" and see where that takes you. You might've blown it by waiting 4 years, but if you don't do anything you could end up really regretting it.

 

Just strike up a convo with her as class ends. You'll both be in a hurry to get to the next class. Then quickly say "Hey can I get your number? I got a new phone and unfortunately none of my contacts transferred over."

 

[Sun]

You could always ask her about an English assignment. Or if there's a project in class, or you need to study for exams, ask her if she wants to be your partner. School is a great excuse. I'd honestly not worry about it and just message her on Facebook. It's not a bad first approach. You could message her about whatever, just to get into a fast conversation to get her number again. Don't be afraid of messing something up or being weird about anything. I promise that she isn't thinking "Wow, I wish this kid would leave me alone." You know she used to like you, and chances are that she still does if she looks at you in class. Just go for it.

 

[Loyal 2 da game]

i think the first hurdle is being able to talk to someone you have feelings for.
you can arrange all of the elaborate "accidental meetings" you want but if you don't actually feel comfortable talking to her then you wont.

if you do see her just walk/run upto her (not like a rapist) and explain the situation? "hey, ive got a new phone and i realised the other day when i didnt have your number anymore. I was gonna call and say we should hang out"

BOOM.

Girls really arent as scary as you think man, i promise you.

These are wise words, OP.

 

Confidence is key. Girls attract to confidence.

 

[ProblemsWithGirls]

Okay so today in English we had a pretty good talk today, it was little bits and pieces but anyways moving on. Class ends and I go to walk out the door and she walks out the same time I do, let me remind you that she's a lot closer to the door than I am and would've been out before me by a long shot. We simultaneously walk out the door and she sparked a conversation on how she hates that class, I told her that I did too just to keep the conversation somewhat going as we're walking in the halls.

In my school we have a certain ID card that can allow students to leave early (I leave early everyday because I don't have classes that I don't need, she has a special ID as well but leaves at a different time). Now she didn't leave early today because she had a class to go to, but I'm almost positive she leaves early on Mondays and Wednesdays. Options: Should I asked her if she wants to hangout sometime? Should I ask her for her number? Or should I ask her to meetup after school somewhere?

 

[l0llyp0pst3r]

I think asking her out after school to hangout and grab a bite will be good. Just be confident with urself and strike up a the conversation. If u said that she was attracted to you before or even now then it shouldn't rlly be that hard. Also, you gotta fight for what u want so gl man

 

[Mired]

Hey buddy, just a tip. Happiness isn't going to come if you're not going to do anything.

Ask her if she wants to hang out. Bring her to the movies, grab a bite, just do something. Just talk to her like you would to your classmates or your friends. It'd make her feel comfortable as well!

After that, then get her number and progress from thee

 

I mean, after three years of not having her phone number, I would personally just do it over Facebook. But that's my IMO.

 

[Mired]

I mean, after three years of not having her phone number, I would personally just do it over Facebook. But that's my IMO.

Just a few things in case if you're still wanting to do it over Facebook.

IMO, sure, it takes alot of courage for you to go up and ask her, but have you ever thought about it? In her eyes, she might think that you're really sincere in asking her out because you went straight up to her and asked her out. It definitely puts you in a good light.

Another related one is the fact that even though you guys hadn't talked that much, you had the balls to go up to her and ask her out. You stepped out of your comfort zone, definitely.

Okay, and even in the (rare) case that you don't succeed, you can be happy that you tried, and there's nothing much for you to regret.

The first step is always the hardest, man. But it gets better here on out.