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Girlfriend shit againOkay, so to give you a little background info on what's going on.
So I've been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years.
After meeting her, we started dating within a week or two so not really much time to get to know each other's friends and stuff. When we first met, she was hanging out with people all the time. She would spend days with them, sneak out at night to drink with them, and generally doing the typical highschool kid thing. I knew one of her friends as Nick. Nick was a good friend of hers for about 5 or 6 years. Nick and my girlfriend spent a lot of time together, practically every day. They stopped hanging out so much for maybe a couple months, then I met her. All of her guy friends have tried to get with her at one point or another.
So naturally I met Nick. He was a decently attractive guy, but he was gay. As I got to know more about him, I found out he had only been gay for a year or so at the time I met him.
I also found out that before he came out, he had sex with a lot of girls, including my girlfriend. They were best friends for a long time and this was before I knew either of them. My girlfriend continued to go out and fuck around with her friends until she turned 18.
By this time a few things had happened (got in trouble with the cops twice and was hanging out with a guy who had previously sexually assaulted her) and she was about to start college. Now, I'm not the kind of guy that will tell her what to do and what not to do. But if I'm the one who's unhappy, I'll leave. I told her that I wasn't going to deal with her going out every night and getting into trouble with the cops and just her general attitude towards life. I said it's me or your lifestyle. She picked me and things got better. She didn't go out with her friends much but she still had some on the side.
Every time she had gotten into trouble or lied to me about things, it was with Nick. We all hung out at my house on one occasion and he was just disrespectful. I ended up not liking Nick very much. She got brought home by the cops within the next few nights because she was out with Nick. I told her I'm not gonna be around if she keeps hanging out with Nick. She said she wouldn't and that was it. I was happy with this because I love her and didn't want to leave over something silly like that, even though I don't want a girl that is in trouble all the time since I occasionally sell weed and don't need that kind of attention.
So time goes by and she went to hang out with Nick and promised me to meet me at her house to go to a movie and dinner at 6. She said she would be with him for about 2 hours. We agreed. She ended up going to Indiana and smoking salvia with Nick and not getting back until 7:30.
On another occasion, She was supposed to pick me up from work and she was an hour late, so I called her only to find out she was out at Taco Bell with Nick. After everything that happened, she still had the nerve to hang out with him behind my back. She even comes to pick me up with Nick in the front seat.
And her friends were drinking and driving with her in the back seat and Nick was driving. They got pulled over and the cop brought her home because she didn't know she had been drinking.
FASTFORWARD
Last night, she was acting weird and I asked her why and she said she needs some alone time because we hang out 24/7. I was like okay, well it's 1:30 AM and 95 degrees at my own house, so Ill just stay here in the air and leave in the morning. I didn't tell her I left and she texts me almost as soon as I left her neighborhood asking where I went.
This was the first time we had been apart in about 2 and a half weeks. Like 3 hours later. She texted me from her house saying she was going to get gas and cigarettes. I texted her back saying, "Oh, cool. Are you going home after that?" And she tells me she's going to Nicks.
I call her and we argue for a little bit about how every time (literally) she hangs out with him, she gets into some sort of trouble, or ends up lying to me about something she did. I tell her that she doesn't take how I feel into consideration when making certain decisions. I also point out that on the one day I'm not with her, she calls up the one person I don't like. She also told me yesterday that she needs some times alone, so why would you go hang out with someone? Throughout the whole conversation, She doesn't say more than 4 words at a time. She's then like, ""I'm gonna leave, I'll text you when I'm there."" then hangs up.
I love her dearly, but I don't like how she never takes my feelings into consideration. It's like she does things that she knows are going to cause an argument or disagreement, then has nothing to say when we actually do get in an argument. I can't dismiss the fact that they've fucked before, even though hes apparently gay now.
I have never lied or cheated on her, so she has no problem with any of my friends. So to her, she see's me not liking her friend for no reason, but I have nothing to say like "It's just how you don't like me hanging out with so-and-so."
I've offered to go with her to spend time with friends, but she says we spend too much time together. Plus, I don't really like Nick, and we've had an argument before so why would I go hang out with him?
Basically, I'll tell her how things make me feel or what I like and don't like her doing, but I won't say she can't do something. If she cares what I think, she'll work on it. If she doesn't and I can't stand it, maybe we're not meant for each other.
But that's a worst case scenario.
She said she'll be back in like 2 hours, What should I do??
So I've been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years.
After meeting her, we started dating within a week or two so not really much time to get to know each other's friends and stuff. When we first met, she was hanging out with people all the time. She would spend days with them, sneak out at night to drink with them, and generally doing the typical highschool kid thing. I knew one of her friends as Nick. Nick was a good friend of hers for about 5 or 6 years. Nick and my girlfriend spent a lot of time together, practically every day. They stopped hanging out so much for maybe a couple months, then I met her. All of her guy friends have tried to get with her at one point or another.
So naturally I met Nick. He was a decently attractive guy, but he was gay. As I got to know more about him, I found out he had only been gay for a year or so at the time I met him.
I also found out that before he came out, he had sex with a lot of girls, including my girlfriend. They were best friends for a long time and this was before I knew either of them. My girlfriend continued to go out and fuck around with her friends until she turned 18.
By this time a few things had happened (got in trouble with the cops twice and was hanging out with a guy who had previously sexually assaulted her) and she was about to start college. Now, I'm not the kind of guy that will tell her what to do and what not to do. But if I'm the one who's unhappy, I'll leave. I told her that I wasn't going to deal with her going out every night and getting into trouble with the cops and just her general attitude towards life. I said it's me or your lifestyle. She picked me and things got better. She didn't go out with her friends much but she still had some on the side.
Every time she had gotten into trouble or lied to me about things, it was with Nick. We all hung out at my house on one occasion and he was just disrespectful. I ended up not liking Nick very much. She got brought home by the cops within the next few nights because she was out with Nick. I told her I'm not gonna be around if she keeps hanging out with Nick. She said she wouldn't and that was it. I was happy with this because I love her and didn't want to leave over something silly like that, even though I don't want a girl that is in trouble all the time since I occasionally sell weed and don't need that kind of attention.
So time goes by and she went to hang out with Nick and promised me to meet me at her house to go to a movie and dinner at 6. She said she would be with him for about 2 hours. We agreed. She ended up going to Indiana and smoking salvia with Nick and not getting back until 7:30.
On another occasion, She was supposed to pick me up from work and she was an hour late, so I called her only to find out she was out at Taco Bell with Nick. After everything that happened, she still had the nerve to hang out with him behind my back. She even comes to pick me up with Nick in the front seat.
And her friends were drinking and driving with her in the back seat and Nick was driving. They got pulled over and the cop brought her home because she didn't know she had been drinking.
FASTFORWARD
Last night, she was acting weird and I asked her why and she said she needs some alone time because we hang out 24/7. I was like okay, well it's 1:30 AM and 95 degrees at my own house, so Ill just stay here in the air and leave in the morning. I didn't tell her I left and she texts me almost as soon as I left her neighborhood asking where I went.
This was the first time we had been apart in about 2 and a half weeks. Like 3 hours later. She texted me from her house saying she was going to get gas and cigarettes. I texted her back saying, "Oh, cool. Are you going home after that?" And she tells me she's going to Nicks.
I call her and we argue for a little bit about how every time (literally) she hangs out with him, she gets into some sort of trouble, or ends up lying to me about something she did. I tell her that she doesn't take how I feel into consideration when making certain decisions. I also point out that on the one day I'm not with her, she calls up the one person I don't like. She also told me yesterday that she needs some times alone, so why would you go hang out with someone? Throughout the whole conversation, She doesn't say more than 4 words at a time. She's then like, ""I'm gonna leave, I'll text you when I'm there."" then hangs up.
I love her dearly, but I don't like how she never takes my feelings into consideration. It's like she does things that she knows are going to cause an argument or disagreement, then has nothing to say when we actually do get in an argument. I can't dismiss the fact that they've fucked before, even though hes apparently gay now.
I have never lied or cheated on her, so she has no problem with any of my friends. So to her, she see's me not liking her friend for no reason, but I have nothing to say like "It's just how you don't like me hanging out with so-and-so."
I've offered to go with her to spend time with friends, but she says we spend too much time together. Plus, I don't really like Nick, and we've had an argument before so why would I go hang out with him?
Basically, I'll tell her how things make me feel or what I like and don't like her doing, but I won't say she can't do something. If she cares what I think, she'll work on it. If she doesn't and I can't stand it, maybe we're not meant for each other.
But that's a worst case scenario.
She said she'll be back in like 2 hours, What should I do??
