Girl shit, again

I'll tell you from personal experience.
One ex-girlfriend of mine had been friends with this 'gay' guy before we dated.
He came out during her and I's relationship.
I swear, he messed up so much stuff in the relationship, made her do things, was bi-polar, whatnot. He was just a drag.

Ended up breaking up because he started so much shit between us and, just, yeah. If you can get rid of him. You might be alright. You might break up.

But, currently. My ex has stopped talking to him (it's a year later) and she wants to get back with me.

This might just happen to you.

 

I'm not going to give you advice, because you've already heard all of it. Rather, I'm going to pose to you a question:

These friends she chooses to hang out with and things she chooses to do: do you really see yourself tolerating it, ever? This is the person she is. People don't generally change who they are, ever. Can you accept this quality in her and let her be herself, or is it going to tear you apart?

Over the summer I was thrown out of a relationship with a girl I'd been dating for two years, for literally no reason. She did things I also didn't like, but I looked past them because she was more important than the things she did. Looking back at things, I know I could have and should have done better than her. The break up was hard, and Jack Daniel's, though he's a good friend, didn't help much. I spent a lot of nights in bed sobbing, and a lot more nights dreaming about her. Moving on is hard, I won't lie or butter it up, but the truth is the sooner you do it if you're going to, the faster the pain ends.

It's been a while since her and I split, and every time I see her my heart skips a beat, but I have someone new; someone much more compatible. Though I've not attuned myself to my current girlfriend, I can see myself being happy with her for a long, long time. With my ex, that feeling was a coin toss.

I guess the ball is really in your court, and sorry I have given you advice when I said I wouldn't. Do you suffer now, or suffer then? Either way, I'll leave you with a song, as music truly is the best therapy for a broken heart:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=om1dJ3WixPw

 

Very simply I think you've spent too much time with her during your relationship. My first ever girlfriend from about 2 years ago was someone I spent way too much time with, and I developed jealousy/trust issues with her.

You shouldn't come out with your insecurity to her, let her know your fine with whatever she's doing and just play RuneScape while you wait. Turn the tables on her, don't text her or start any conversations until she starts them with you.

If this relationship is somehow restored back to the way it used to be, make sure your the "man" in the relationship. There's too many girls out there to put up with one girl's shit.

 

Not bothered what anyone says about my comment but I would kick 10 shades of s**t out of that gay Nick kid, not because he's gay but he's done it with your gf and as you say, is a bad influence. Did you say this guy takes steds? Even if hes bigger than you, size doesn't matter much, just look @ Ufc for backup that's what I would do but I get mad really quick so maybe im going too far.

 

i think you should just leave her alone. it seems like she's playing too many games and you seem like you're a good guy and trying to be the best boyfriend as possible. its gonna be hard to just let go of her after being with her for so long. but if she cant take you seriously and you cant trust her because shes proven you right in the past then there's no point in being in a relationship any longer because it will just all fall downhill again. You should just be really mature about breaking it off to he. like saying "Our relationship isnt working out and i dont think youre ready to be serious so we should end this". try to stay calm and be the mature one, and just leave it all where it is and move on. i wouldnt bother keeping her around if she isnt going to respect you as a boyfriend and a person.

 

+ this ^^^^

 

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