Girl i talked to...

Hello sythe community i dont know where else to go to to seek advice on a situation like this so i figured this would be a fair place.
Well this is the backstory.
I met this girl on social media (snapchat), we had seen each other irl but never spoke and we got talking on snapchat, there was something about us we literally just clicked and i non stopped had all day conversations with her that never got boring for a good 6 months. In this whole time we never actually met up in person however we did plan to a couple of times but it didnt work out cause of busy schedules however we planned to and were both interested in doing so. Well within this time frame i did catch feelings and confessed my feelings a couple of times however she said she wasnt ready for a relationship at this moment in time which i dont know if it was a kind way to say no or she genuinly isnt interested in wanting a relationship.
Now this is where it gets tricky as we would talk about pretty much everything and occasionally flirt aswell and we always told each other we loved each other which we did.

Now this is where it goes downhill,
I randomly one morning had my messaged read but not replied to (blanked) so i assumed she may just be really busy or fell asleep or something, so i messaged her again a little while later to which i just got late replies and they were pretty blunt. I asked if anything was wrong to which i got no im fine, im good promise etc.
So i just accepted maybe shes not having the best day so i didnt bother her much, but then i got the same treatment the next day and the following day. I again asked what was up with her those days but got the same response.
Anyway yesterday i wasnt feeling my best and dont her to not talk to me and block me as this is making me feel like crap, which to my surprise she did block me and i regret that decision not too long later.
Like i literally shared so much about myself to this girl we knew each other so well, i dont think ill ever connect with anyone as well as i did with her which is why i really want her as a friend.
So i swallowed my ego and apologised multiple times and asked for her to unblock me, i talked to her close friend and she was helpful cause she knew how good friends we were but the girl just didnt seem interested at all, i asked if i could ring her multiple times to which most times i wasnt replied to and the couple i was she was busy. Ive made things worse my bombarding her with at least 10 texts today which most i havent even got a reply to and i just got a couple responses one saying were still friends i cant deal with your mood swings anymore, and the other saying im going to sleep.
I dont have mood swings often at all, very rare and i never like act different whatever mood im in with her. I see where shes coming from tho as i asked her to block me out of anger and i regret it later.

I just want to know what can i do to try get things back to normal? I just want to have this girl as a friend in my life who i can talk to like i used to and she was someone i could share anything with literally. Ive not been able to concentrate properly either and i have been making stupid impulsive decisions while this has been going on because i just dont feel like myself at the moment so i really need any helpful advice you guys can give me.

Sorry this is badly written out its midnight and i just want to get things off my chest and want opinions if you do take the time to read and reply i thank you dearly.

 

How was she during those 6 months? Was she very talkative etc? Also was she bailing out on the plans to meet up all the time?

 

Unfortunately, at this point the more you try to get in contact with her the more you are pushing her away. When you send 10 texts or try to contact her through her friends, it can come off as creepy. You need to give her a bit of space and hope she comes back to you. Constantly trying to contact her will definitely not help.

 

For some reason or another, something is going on in her life where she is sort of writing you off, and it may not be anything you've done. She could be going through a phase, and bombarding her and talking to her friends makes you come off as 'desperate' to put it bluntly. It may be hard right now but maybe when the smoke settles she'll message you to see how you're doing. You guys haven't known each other that long so it's not worth sacrificing everything else in your life that may be going good.

Give her some space (I suggest up to two weeks) when you yourself have calmed down and sincerely apologize. It doesn't have to be a 5-paragraph essay format text, just tell her your feelings, and let her know you'd love to be friends; however... you have to be willing to accept that she just may not want the same. Not ascertaining that she doesn't want to share any part(s) of her life with you, but it could be a possibility.

I know you don't want to hear it but people come and go, and some... some just stay in your life for a period of time, and that is how you begin to learn lessons. I'm not you, but for someone you haven't bumped into and hung out with several times, it's just not worth pouring your heart out to someone like that. We've all been there my friend and it's okay to feel (and be) hurt. Take my advice however you will, but I've been in similar situations at one point. My best advice is to just have a realistic view that you can only do so much from your side, but it's up to her to meet you halfway, and if she can't... well, then you'll have to make that "hard" decision.

Best of luck to you, and well wishes. I hope that something good comes out of this story.

 

Yeah when I was in Highschool I had a couple of these situations come up. The thing to do is back off entirely for a extended period of time or even forever until/unless she contacts you again. That's how these young silly girls are unfortunately.

The quicker you move on the better for you in every way, it'll make it much more likely she comes back and if not you're still ok.

Holding on, even just a little will lead you in circles that never end where you want to be.

 

Ignore her. That is all you have to do if you want her to want you.

 

Fuck em man chick come and go no use getting attached just dump her.

 

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