Father Problems...

So we are getting our kitchen renovated. Meaning we have had to eat out for the past four weeks and our town is only 10,000 people so not many restaurants. And my dad only approves of some places. And he only likes to eat in. No places like Subway. He will literally not eat at some places because of reasons that make no sense. For example he will not eat at this Chinese place because they need a renovation inside. He likes to call the place a "Dump". So he only approves of these two restaurants. The one is okay but before the renovations we would never eat out unless we went there. So finally we went somewhere else. Well this place is a bit weird. They have 2 waiters and 1 waitress. Sometimes there will be a different one but not usually. So the waitress comes from some country and she doesn't talk loud and she looks at you very weird. Then the 1 waiter is from somewhere in Africa or Asia. Then the other waiter. We think he is the owners son. Comes from a different job and doesn't really speak he just sits there and waits for you to do something. And the oddest part is. They wear the same clothes every time. So after eating at those two restaurants how many times. It really gets irritating when you find out we are eating there. So tonight we get into the car. And we are trying to find out where to go. My parents never just say lets go here its always you decide. But when you don't pick there places its no that restaurants is blah blah blah. So tonight we were going to the restaurant we always went to. So i said can we go somewhere else for a change. And my dad flipped out and we drove to i swear every different restaurant in town. Then he finally says "Just drive the fucking car home" So when we get home i go to my room and come on the computer. And he of course is swearing the whole way home and to every restaurant. He runs up the stairs rips my door off the hinges. And screams at me using words such as "Bitch" "Fuck you" "Fucker" "Slut" "Hoe" "Hore". So that is pretty much my story.

No trolls please. Im looking for advice. Anyone?

 

Yeah me and my dad also don't have a very good relationship. My dad is very controlling and it seems like yours is as well. All I can say is just pity them. Just let them have their way and if you truly still have such a disgust for them when you turn 18 just move out. Thats a stinger to them and you can just let them know why. I feel your pain man, I really do.

 

Yea well my dad goes months at a time not talking to me. But he has never done anything like this before. Its not that bad. He probably spends 8-9 months of a year not talking to me.

 

My dad doesn't live with me anymore :x

 

We're humans and we need to survive. Food is essential for survival. When we are deprived of food, we do things we normally would not. I know this, because I have done it. When I don't get food on time, I am not myself. Would it be fair to say he was hungry? Yes. Would it be fair to say he didn't get to eat? Yes. We all work hard and deserve to eat at end of the day. Why can't you just get something for yourself from subway or chinese, and let your parents go wherever they want to go?

 

Paragraphs.. From what I understand you irritated him so he got frustrated and yelled at you. If he didn't physically abuse you just accept it and know not to annoy him in the future.

 

Seriously, just ignore him. These kind of people are really weird. I suggest you say sorry, but if he doesn't accept, then too bad.

 

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Apparently your dad is obsessed with control. If he can't have it his way, he can't have it any other way. As others suggest, why don't you go to like Subway while he goes to a restaurant? You don't have to eat with him..

Is there a chance your dad is OCD? OCD can manifest itself in very weird ways.. Such as someone being forced to only take left turns, only go to a certain place, etc.

 

Some people are hard to communicate with, they don't respect other peoples opinions, need to have things their way and basically are just selfish. Unfortunately your dad sound like one of these people. When in a situation like that there isn't really much that you can do in all honesty. You have to learn to live with it and do your best to not let it get to you. He is your father, which makes it hard but just because he is your father it doesn't make what he does right. Simply try to ignore him, and as bad as it sounds do what you can to keep him happy. Soon enough you will be on your own

 

Your dad sounds a lot like mine a complete control freak. He doesn't like his opinion underminded and doesn't like me having any authority over anything such as a TV programme to watch. However this could be due to stress or depression. I would ask you mum what is wrong or even confront him yourself.

 

Does your dad have some sort of autism?

 

Agree.

I wouldn't take this advice. It's never a good idea to just ignore something... It seems to me that your a thinker. Most people like this will think about the topic till it irritates them to extremes. If this is not you sorry.

I would suggest talking to your dad whens he most happy and not busy. I would try to get your dad on the more open minded side. Just talk to him every now and then and make small conversation. Eventually he'll get to the point where you guys will have a good enough relationship to hear out each others ideas.

 

Yea sometime i might just hit him... All my friends agree he is 1 big dick.

 

Tell your dad to take a fucking chill pill and let go of the OCD. Not like that obviously, but confrontation is the only thing that can be done in a case like this. My dad used to be the same way but I told him off one night in front of the rest of the family and he hasn't started shit since. If you don't think that's a good idea, go to your mom for advice since she probably agrees.

 

Well...
I thought my bickers with my dad sucked, but he'd never use those words towards me. Nor would I to him, not even after what has happened recently due to him being a fool.

I don't know what kind of advice to give you really..
I find it's just horrible that he could call you something like that over and over again.

He sounds like someone who is INSANELY insecure and has his major issues.

I know it's impossible to do, but don't take him seriously. Karma will get him back, just do your thing and get out of there asap, without damaging your future of course. If he ever gets physical in any way with you, DON'T be afraid to contact authorities.
Verbal abuse to a teen is already against the law, so he is already running on thin ice if he decides to get even dirtier.


Anyways, if you ever just wanna talk or whatever, just add me on msn. I'm a good listener/talker hah and I'm sadly on my computer a lot.


Good luck.

 

Yea, But if i did that he would probably hit me or something. So ill take the safe side and see what he does.

Alrighty will keep that in mind.

 

I'm not sure what kind of advice your looking for? Just try something different at the restaurant or ask if you can pick something up after they eat, and if your dad hits you or anything call the police. I mean yelling at you and using those words is illegal so you can use that against him next time.