Disabilitys in daily life?

I am wondering if any users have been diagnosed with a disability, whether it be Autism, Aspergers, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, Bi-Polar e.t.c.

I have Dyspraxia, Dyslexia as well as possibly a mild form of Autism and/or Asburgers and have struggled quite hard since early childhood with self-confidence as well as general school work. I am now in university going into my third and final year in September and am quite proud of that achievement. I also have a part time job working in my local cinema serving customers which in its small way is helping me with my confidence.

I am wondering does anyone here have a disability they are willing to talk about, and how it has affected you in your life, and how it affects you now.

 

Moved to General Discussion.

 

There was a kid in my class who claimed to have Aspbergers and was annoying as hell. I don't know if he actually did have it or was just socially inept, because at one point in time my grandmother kept a foster kid with Aspbergers and he in no way acted like this guy.

 

Aspergers (Not aspbergers or Asbergers).

Anyways I have somewhat of a disability i suppose. I have extremely poor fine motor skills in my right arm which is my dominant hand I was born that way and can't write for shit. Its nearly better for me to use my left hand to write. My gross motor skills however seem to be fine. You might not think its much of a disability but I develop carpal tunnel pretty fast if I am writing a lot or using the mouse improperly. Imagine being in elementary school with carpal tunnel and the teacher just thinks you are being lazy and rushing your writing. Yeah it sucked pretty hard.

 

I have ADHD and a disability in my short term memory. Basically I can't focus on things or even remember them too well...

So basically I am fucked...Even though they might not seem like "big" things, when you put them together, they are really bad...

 

@ Emperor: The person might have Aspergers, just a different aspect of it to the one your Grandmother's foster child had. With my dyslexia, i am brilliant at maths and can read extremly well but it is hard for me to absorb information, as well as my handwriting, spelling and punctuation skills are extremly bad.

@ Annex: I know what you mean, like i said above my written work is terrible as well as my memory for absorbing information thanks to my dyslexia, but i was only diagnosed two years ago at uni, so ive went through all of school and college with teachers just thinking im either lazy or just rushing my work which was a struggle.

@ Realsies: I've got a friend with ADHD and i know how much it can affect your life, combined with a short term memory problem must be quite difficult. Im sure there is systems out there that can help you with the memory side of things, if you ever want to talk drop me a pm and ill see if i can help.

 

I walked out on my grade 7 teacher and told him to fuck off when he called me lazy because of my writing. I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with carpal tunnel and he looked like a giant asshole and after the school year finished he got canned.

 

Nice one, its a piss take like with teachers... Their the ones supposed to pick up on things like this and reccomend the right people, not just take the piss all the time

 

I don't have ass burgers or anything, but my little brother is right on the cusp of a lot of these disabilities and he has all kinds of problems with social situations, school work, interacting with other people, anxiety issues, and an 'immaturity' that for me, is very hard to understand sometimes (he is like a 6 or 7 year old in a 13 year olds body, and sooo different than I was at that age).

I love my little brother to death, but we fight a lot and I have a hard time dealing with him sometimes as his social awkwardness and finicky behavour drive me up the wall sometimes. There are times when I swear to god he has hard core OCD and he becomes obsessed with the tiniest things and gets so wound up and emotionally distraught over things that most people have no trouble at all with... like an empty wrapper lying on the floor or crumbs on a counter, or a person not washing their hands after eating.

Since I've been back with my parents the last year, living with him has been difficult. But it is a good learning experience, and the more I learn about his problems and consider the things he has to go through on a daily basis, and the overwhelming stress and anxiety he experiences over the tiniest things, the more tolerant I become of it and the more I begin to accept and understand his disabilities. I am really worried about him going to high school next year though, as he has NOWHERE near the mental capability needed to survive in that kind of environment, not yet at least. My parents are also very frustrated as the school system has provided very little help over all these past years when my parents have been endlessly trying to find him the help and care he needs to learn these important social skills, and develop the habits he needs to be more independent.

I am really happy to hear that you are finishing University now, and that must feel incredible to know you have overcome such a big obstacle in your life I hope my brother can get as far as you have!

 

Thank you for your post Zerk. I can seriously see where your coming from with your brother. Hopefully the High School will have the right support for your brother or if not then i would advise going to see the education board where you live and demand the extra support your brother needs.

I extremly respect you for your ability to understand your brother and what he is going through and am happy that you are learning as you go along. I am sure that with your support and also your parents support your brother can go on to achieve anything he puts his mind to. He might need support along the way with his work but if you support him, then that is all you can do.

With the OCD thing, i do get the feeling that your brother has a form of OCD in the compulsive section which would be the "Washers" section, this is an overwhelming desire to be clean, he might not wash his hands till their red raw but to him seeing a spec of dirt could trigger certain reactions in his brain that makes him have an uncontrollable urge to clean.

 

-snip- nevermind. Changed my mind about sharing that.

 

No problem promethium, if you ever want to talk privately I'm always happy for you to drop a pm and it will be dealt with in the most confidential matter.

 

I have trouble running.
I hurt both my feet and it starts to hurt when I run.

 

I suffer from a blood virus & A bone problem, I used to be in hospital a lot when I was younger, not as bad now & the bone problem was just a thing on the side, but now it's swapped. I have more concern about my bone thing, as Its kinda fucked me up a bit.

 

@ Sexy: Get your doctor to check it out, you might have torn a tendon previously in your foot and it might not have healed properly which is causing the pain, or you might have previously fractured your foot without knowing it and that might have also not healed properly.

@ Just sayin': Thats harsh with those problems. With the bone problem, although it is probably not related to yours, i also suffer from Hypermobility which means im very double jointed and can dislocate bones easy. As well as that when i was born they found out my pelvis was inward curved which has bent my legs inwards at the socket so if i run my legs go to the side of me rather than forward. The amount of times i was bullied at school because of it. If you ever want to talk more just drop me a pm.

 

Yeah I am certain he has either a mild form of OCD itself, otherwise just certain qualities of the illness. This is what is so bizarre about my brother's situation though, he has not been diagnosed with any specific disorder just yet, but we know for sure he is "borderline" or right on the cusp of several. He has qualities of autism, aspergers, OCD, anxiety, and other disorders that have to do with social anxiety or social awkwardness, including the "immaturity" I spoke of before.

He would not be immature at all if he was about 6-7 years younger, but he is 13 now and doesn't seem to have emotionally matured much at all since his younger years. He has a very hard time recognizing social cues, interacting with other people, knowing what kind of things are socially acceptable and what kind of things aren't, and he is also very dependent on my parents to do everything for him - cook his meals, wash his clothes, even do the tiniest of chores like clip his own fingernails. A common phrase I hear from him is "I just don't know how to do that", and sometimes it is very hard for me to deal with when he is unable to complete a simple task like make a piece of toast or wash a dish in the sink, so it has been hard for me to adjust to his needs and most of all, to UNDERSTAND what he is going through and how monstrous these menial tasks seem to him.

I don't think high school is going to have the proper support for him next year. I've been there myself, and pretty much the only kids who receive special care around the clock, are the handicapped kids who have severe mental disabilities. My brother is "right on the cusp" like I said before, which falls into a grey area where the school will stick him in regular classrooms with regular kids, and he just won't get that 1 on 1 attention he needs with a teacher, and he will be lost in the crowd as he struggles with things his peers will find incredibly simple. I also worry about the independence high school requires - I don't think he is going to adjust to that very well.

My parents are trying and fighting to get him the help he needs, but we will just have to see. It is going to be a very stressful year next year I suspect

 

One of the best places to go is try and take your brother to an Educational Psychologist. They specialize in the disability's mentioned and they should be able to give a definitive answer to what disabilities your brother has and should be able to set up with the school the support your brother needs. That is who diagnosed me with dyslexia.