Girlfriend help.

My girl is seeing her ex behind my back.
I am 100% certain of this. Don't ask how I know.

If this helps.
They ended a month before we started dating.
She reluctantly broke it off with him because he was trying to change her too much.

Were both 17.

She is being way more affectionate towards me since she has been seeing him.

What am I meant to do?

Ive tried the following:
Asking her if she is seeing someone else and she stormed out all angry and shit. Defence mechanism to hide guilt. It was obvious lol.

Whenever she is there I text her a friendly text asking how was her day, what is she up to etc. Always ignores the question.

Ive told her I don't mind if she hangs out with her ex's or other guys aslong as it isn't behind my back.

Help appreciated.
Please no immiture replies.

 

if you are strong enough. fuck her ex up.

 

Agreed, just kick his ass, and he'll back off.

As for her, have a friend of hers or yours to get close to her,
kind of see what she's doing.
If you know for a fact she's seeing him, then either talk to her, break up, or beat his fucking ass.

 

Do what you feel is right, not what people from Sythe are telling you to do.
If you're POSITIVE she is, i'd break it off with her, because it means she betrayed my trust. But that's just me.

Do what YOU want.

 

Put it in her butt.
Ok, on a more serious note talk it out confrontation face-face is always key. I'm sure you've dated her long enough to know/tell when she's lying the facts are there as you've laid it out. People seeing "others" on the side tend to feel sorry for what they've done to there normal partners thus showing more affection towards that person so I can see where you're coming from. Some/any evidence is there.

 

Dude are you dumb shes obvosuily cheating on you. you gave her many chances but she just blew them away.. break up with her or go with somone while your dating so you show how it hurts you that shes seeing someone. break up before shes destroys your heart.


-Grafix the Love operator

 

Ignore that shit dude, dont do anything untill you find out for sure. If she is cheating, keep ur pimp strong and give her a backhand. As for him, if you live in sydney n need some extra beef to handle hes ass im here 4 ya

On another note: dont do anything stupid. If u find out shes cheating; then fuk another chick and if she asks why then ask her why.

Play it smart dont be a retard. "Quote eminem"

 

You shouldn't have any problems with it as long as they aren't having some kind of affair; the way I understood was that she just chills with him which could be fine as long as it doesn't escalate.

 

W00t GJ, coming on a site of people comprised mainly of illiterate 10-15-year-olds with no past experience. Anyway, if you know it for a fact just ask her without acting like a dick about it.

 

If I were you, I would seriously fuck this guy up..but if you are not..uhh.."strong" enough or scared..then go right in front of her with another girl and laugh at her face..you gave her too many chances, and she fucked them all upp.

Good Luck, man

 

That sucks.

She probably feels guilty and is trying to make up for it subconsciously.

Be more direct about it - try telling rather than asking. You are the one that should be upset, not her. Don't be surprised if it doesn't go well, but it's probably for the better.

She'll either break it off with you, or come clean and quit. No sense in dragging it out - it will only get worse

 

I'd just tell her to decide whether she wants you or him.

And if she ends up deciding him, then comes back to you, tell her to fuck off.

 

For once, one of these threads didn't turn into a flame ground, interesting.

Well, you say you're 100% sure, but how can you be sure without any facts. Try to find out a bit more, talk to her friends or something, and if you can get some facts straight that she is cheating on you, break it off, not worth keeping that going, as even if she stops with this guy you won't really trust her, and that just makes problems lol. So yeah, try to get some actual facts, once you do, either apologize or break up, depending on what you find out.

 

Talk things through with her. If you're 110% sure she's lying to you, leave her.
Don't mess up her ex. That's lame. You gain nothing from revenge.
Don't mess her up emotionally. Two wrongs don't make a right.

 

X9 is right. Honestly shouldn't try to seek revenge, but if her ex is like... weak and skimpy... and she said hes coming onto her. THEN fuck him up

 

With only reading the title, it is clear that you need help in your life if you come to Sythe.org asking for Girlfriend help.

 

And if you aren't, fuck her up. Same results.

 

Move on man, fuck her. Women do that shit, they have a BF they really like, when something goes wrong the girl goes finding another guy until her ex admits he did the wrong. Shes using you to make her ex jealous and get him back stronger than before.

Thats it works, been there, done that.

Now your best bet is to counter that and see another girl and show that girl more affection to make her really jealous. Her mind set will be 'who does he think he is?' and you will really dominate what happens in the end between you two.

And if she ain't really hot, don't even bother, just move on and find another girl to fuck..

 

It's because it's not a "I leik this gurl but I has too much scared" discussion. Girlfriend troubles are different then retards asking for girl advice.

Well if she is in no way cheating on you then don't do anything drastic. If shes having sex, making out, flirting, etc. then confront her about it. Well, confront her anyway. If she isn't cheating on you don't try to be over controlling because you can't have a good relationship when you tell her what to do all the time. She starts resenting you for it and it leads to other shit.

If she is cheating, something along the lines of breaking up with her are to be made. Maybe just be like "I don't know what to think, lets take a break" approach. It's up to you. Even if you care about her a lot and you don't want to loose her, if she is going to treat you that way then she isn't good enough for you.

If she isn't then it is all up to how much you trust her, which should be little at this point since she lied to you (not telling is lying in a relationship). If you don't feel comfortable with it then talk to her about it.

 

Ask her why the sex isn't good anymore.