Breakup, I need help, please, urgently... :/

Hey guys, many of you probably don't know me, but I don't care... I just need advice from someone and I live nowhere near my friends, soo...

Okay me and my girlfriend were together for about 10-11 months (since december 10th, 2009). We have had MANY bumps in our relationship but we loved eachother A LOT. I don't care what anyone says, just because we're 16 doesn't mean we can't love. Anyways, recently I began feeling something for someone else and I was kinda hitting on them (telling them they're beautiful, amazing, etc) and she found out. At the same time, I hit on 2 other girls while I was with my friend (this was merely to get into their pants... it failed, sadly)... She found out about the one girl I fell for and was very upset over it. She decided to give me another chance and about 2 weeks later, she found out about the other girls that I hit on (I was talking to my friend about how I'd fuck them... lol...) Now she just packed up and left today.

Now, before we broke up, I promised her that I wouldn't cut myself, kill myself or go around and fuck random people... She asked me what I was going to do and I told her that I'll just go around and mess with other people and now she's pissed about that...It's my only way of coping (an addiction, really).

I need help guys, I didn't feel so bad when she was in the same area as me, but now that she's gone I feel like shit. I want to just die... I look around our room and there's barely anything left. She took nearly everything. All I have left is my computer, guitar, cat and a TV (my bed, fridge and microwave will be gone soon)...

Guys, what can I do? I just wanna die... I'm feeling like crap, please, please help me :/


PS: I have Major Depression, which makes this kinda worse, since I already felt bad about everything in general.

 

I don't want to be blunt, but its your own fault. you say you love her yet you act like that around other girls? trying to get into their pants?

For a relationship to work, trust is needed from each of you, she has to believe she can trust you, she obviously can't.

Now to the comments about not being able to carry on, Mate.. theres no need to think like that, You're young, and if you act as you say you do, i'm sure it won't be long until you find another girl, this girl isnt the end of the world. You're 16, you can't even legally drink a pint yet, don't contemplate self harm..

 

Yeah it was my fault... But I really just want to move on and learn from this. This is a lesson I'll remember for the rest of my life... I just want to keep going, but I don't have the strength. :/... I'm feeling like such a piece of shit for what I did, not because we broke up, but because I hurt her. I will never forgive myself for that. The pain of others is never something I want to bring, ever.

 

Wait... I don't get it. You guys love each other but yet you keep fooling around? Okay, I can see that she obviously loves you - she's given you chances over and over again to make it work. But what the hell? I thought love was that feeling where nobody could compete and everybody else disappears. Judging from your asinine demeanor, I doubt you were in love.

You deserved it.

Now. The past is the past. You'll feel like shit today but if you want this feeling to not happen again, change. Nobody is going to love you if you throw away their trust like that. Commit to your actions and words. If you really loved her, I doubt you'd do such things. Make an effort. Once the pain subsides, build up your character again.

 

Don't kill your self over a girl man that's just stupid.. You will learn when you get older. See when i was 16 i thought 16 year olds are all immature, So i went and got with this sexy 20 year old, She was the exact same man. Shit never changes as you get older. Just don't get with silly little girls, There for the one night stands, Ladies are for keeps. btw i'm 18 lol

 

Thanks guy for your "encouraging" replies. I know it's not worth hurting myself over a girl, but I want to... I won't, but the urge is there. Not to mention I spent about 6 hours moving her out, and about 2 hours crying... I'm too exhausted and have a test tomorrow and LOTS of homework :/

 

She obviously loved you enough to stay with you i guess? ive cheated on my girldfriend twice ( weve been dating 2 years almost now ) and shes still with me.. an obsessed... i've learned.. and thats what it takes in a relationship..especially when your a teenager..sadly.. is cheating... your hormones go crazy.. until you learn that you don't need anything else but that certain person.. and i hope youve learnt that.. i sure have <3.. give it some time.. recooperate slowly.. and try and talk to her ..maybe in a month? im sure you 2 could work things out again.. without a dout if she has feelings for you.. im sure shes hurting to.. maybe 3 weeks.. dont give her long enough to get over you.

Hope it works out.. sorry man =/

 

I agree with everything apart from the part where me and her are together... I made it clear to her that I'm no good. She moved out of town and I've already begun to cut her out of my life (deleted off of msn, facebook, everything I could think of)... It is something I've learned and I'm sure I won't ever do again... *sigh*

 

You're thinking to quick.. your just upset .. don't do that.. don't cut her out of your life... just give it time.. then see what you want to do.. who knows just by saying Hi in a few weeks could change ALOTT

 

Man don't let her controll you, When you open up your feelings to girls they try take advantage off it, Show her who is the boss real talk. Don't go telling her your no good, It makes you look un-confident, Girls like confident guys who can just say what ever when they please trust me man, Best thing is get her on lock.

 

Telling you you were being an ass will not help solve the problem and i'm sure you know it and understand it. What you need to do now is prove to her that you can be loyal. Why do you pretend to be someone you're not (cheater)? You say you love her a lot so you should show her that and only to her. All you can do now is keep trying. Send her one message a day saying "I'm sorry" she will eventually give in. Ask her for another chance after.

 

Im sorry but i just have to laugh about the addiction part. You can not get addicted to messing around with girls...hehe...Why would you want to die..well you are 16 so if u really "loved" this girl, I guess you would feel this way. You screwed around with other girls,so she is mad at you and you are trying to get us to help you out because you messed up.
Well, If it were me, I would apologize and mabye send her some flowers, then just leaver her alone. If she starts to talk to me after couple of days, i would slowly mend the relationship back from friends, then to boyfriend and girlfriend. Take it slow. Or you could just get a new girlfriend. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

 

Okay to everyone: She's texting me telling me she's willing to try, etc etc... I've told her that I simply don't want to try, I don't want to be with her, no matter how much I love her, I know the more chances she gives me, the more I'll cheat... It's for the best really.
As for the addiction part, it's actually possible... I'm kind of addicted to sex. I can barely pass 2 days without it without going mad :/...

Now I just need time to try and get myself back together... that's 10-11 months of my life gone, down the shitter.

Oh also,what's the best way to tell her I don't want to be with her? No matter how blunt I am she just keeps texting me back with things like "it hurts, I'm willing to try" etc...

 

Actually You can go without it..You are 16. I know More then you,believe me, But you should tell her that you are not her type and you are likely to cheat on her again if she was ur gf again...Think that will end her texting you.

 

Well, of course I can go without it, but I feel like I cannot. I thought you'd understand what I meant... Anyways, I told her that... she wants me to try :/ now she's pulling the whole "I can't live" scene on me... I honestly don't know what to do, I can't stay strong much longer. I'll end up breaking and getting back with her if she keeps this up...

 

Hehe, If she says she cant live without you and that type of stuff...then she just wants you back and is trying to make you come back by feeling guilt. I would find a new girlfriend,because i would know that, the one texting me is somewhat crazy and needs to see a psychologist..Anyways it is your choice.

 

I know it is x.x she's just making it so difficult to stay away because I still love her :/

 

She keeps trying to tempt me... telling me it'll work.. *sigh* I dunno what to do. She's leaving to move in exactly 35 minutes...
She keeps telling me it's not too late, to just tell her to stay... Why is she doing this to me? I love her more than anything... But I know I can't stay faithful...

 

Don't let your hormones get the best of you. Ask her if she'd give you just one more chance, but if she says yes; don't blow it! Just tell her how you REALLY feel about you, and tell her how/why you acted the way you were.

 

I don't know if I want to get another chance though... I mean, I think it will just repeat. I'm addicted to sex :/ If I don't get it from one person, I'll run around and look for it from someone else... I don't use her for sex... But if she stops for a while, I can't control myself...

I got back together with her... she left for the place she was in before to visit her mom and think for a bit... but she doesn't know if she can move back here... So I might have to have a long distance relationship again :/...