Being a 'player' without breaking hearts

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Being a 'player' without breaking hearts
  1. Unread #1 - Mar 19, 2013 at 8:36 AM
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    I hooked up with this girl who was a friend of all these other girls I usually hang out with, both Saturday and Sunday night. Both nights we were both fucked up and I had a blast. Now this girl is texting me a ton and telling me daily to come through and cuddle with her, etc. I don't like her that much and I don't/didn't want anything more than the weekend fun that we had. How do I just break it to this girl? I wanted to just flat out say it over text sometime today. Opinions?

    I kinda messed up by going along with it yesterday by saying we're def gonna hang out again eventually, bla bla bla. Now I just want to tell her I'm not interested at all anymore but she has a connection to all these other girl friends so I don't want to bring in some awkward shit whenever I go to hang out with them. I'm not a bad guy and I don't want to just sleep around, but I enjoy the single life so much right now I don't want to make any commitments. I want to go out to a club and meet new girls. Guess my biggest fuck up was not making my intentions clear to her from the start.
     
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    Talk to her in person about this. Just be out and honest with her, and ask her if you two can go back to the way things were before you both hooked up. She might get angry, but over time she'll get over it.
     
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    Lol oh god; me and my friend met up to smoke last night after this girl kept texting me shit like "I'd do literally anything to see you tonight.." and I just didn't reply. We're in my car about to spark up and a group of girls come out of nowhere behind us and she's in that group. Not sure if she saw me haha.

    Yeah.. I just want to avoid texting her the obvious "EY WE GOTTA TALK ABOUT DIS" before I tell her, but I feel completely not replying to her is worse. And there was no "before we hooked up". I feel like I've never spoken to this girl sober.
     
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    I recommend keeping her around, but the easiest and safest way is to text back and say "sorry but i don't want to hang anymore"
     
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    Talk to her. Tell her how you really feel and hopefully she'll understand..
     
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    .... he took the words right out of my mouth lol
     
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    Yeah true the answer here should've been obvious. I think I'll just text it to her though haha.
     
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    Being a 'player' without breaking hearts

    You got yourself in a shitty position dude, but DO NOT TEXT HER..Tell it to her face, in a manner that is not rude, but understanding.

    I'm sure you want to avoid any drama, so DONT do it over the PHONE, and make sure you do it in person, and be AS KIND AS YOU CAN, but make sure she gets the point.
     
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    I'm probably heading over to their dorms tonight to hang out. I'll break it off then. I think she gets it though considering I'm not texting her much.
     
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