A tough situation

[CaptainMoose]

Well everyone here in this forum, I was just curious as to what you might do if you were in the position I'm in. Thanks in advance for reading through this story;

My girlfriend and I started dating October 10th 2008, almost exactly two years now. We were in high school when we started dating and we have both been through quite a bit in the last two years. Some of the bigger ones are; my parents divorce in direct relevancy to something I did, she spent a year in Colorado for college, I live in Nebraska as she did before she moved for college, her parents moved down to Texas, I dropped out of college for personal reasons. All in all, it has been a very tough two years, but as of about a month and a half ago, she moved back to Nebraska for college, and also to be near me. But, I have been put in a situation by my parents to make a life-altering decision in the near future. Basically join the Air Force or re-enroll in college. My girlfriend told me that if I joined the Air Force, she wouldn't stay because she felt that she's put forth more effort and sacrificed more than I have, and then I guess joining the Air Force would make her feel that I threw it all away. But I really disliked learning the the whole classroom setting. In fact, I hated it so much that I made a 4,000 dollar mistake by trying that and failing to attend my classes.

Basically, what would my fellow Sythe members do in my shoes?
What, if any are available, are some possible alternatives?
Not looking to be flamed, your post will be reported.

 

[goku usa]

Honestly, this is not the time to follow your dip stick. Think with your head. If you don't like to go to school, then don't. It's not her decision, it's your decision. If you feel that air force is the way to go, then so be it. This is the time when you make or break your future. The decision is yours not her. If she can't respect your decision, then she's not worth it. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

 

[CaptainMoose]

Thank you very much for the advice.

 

[FireZ]

She moved away from you once so I don't see how that was not sacrificing on your part. Anyways I'd put school first and her 2nd.

 

[SkyeValentine]

If shes willing to try to guilt trip you into staying just because she "feels" shes done more, then go ahead do what you want. She could just not be ready for the distance, or not ready for something real...either way shes not ready, and you shouldn't have too throw away the future you want for her. Yeah love is a big thing and they always say your love in your life comes first, but the reality is, if you don't put yourself FIRST you won't be happy, and in the end not just love ends up done-for, so does the future you want. So put YOUR future before her, if she some how decides in the end she'll stick it out, good for you, if she doesn't...theres still like 6,790,062,216 people, your soul mate is somewhere in there I'd go with whatever is BEST for you, whether it involves her or not. If she had a huge decision like that, I can honestly say she would think twice about it as well, so don't feel the least bit guilty... But..thats just my opinion. c: