Getting kicked out

[ZippyGFX]

So me and my twin brother's 18th birthday is coming up real soon and my dad told us he wanted us out of the house because he can no longer put up with our "shit". My mother is away visiting family in Europe so there's nothing she can really do to change my dad's mind.

I'm planning on living with my friend and his family or at my girlfriends house for a bit, now that school is out I can focus on getting a job and saving up some money.

I don't have a lot of money saved up atm so I'm wondering if anyone's been in a similar situation and could help me out. Me and my brother will be working through out the summer saving up money.

Not sure how long I can live off of friends and family, should we be saving for our own apartment? And what types of things should I really focus on?

Any feedback is greatly appreciated, thanks

 

I think that's the best thing you can do, work with your brother and save up as much money as you possibly can, and I'm sure your loved ones understand what you're going through and will always have an open door for you while you're working to get your own house/apartment.

Or you can try and work things out with your dad, I'm not sure on your story but my dad sometimes threatens to send me to my mothers/nans when he's mad and apologizes the next day, is it like that? You could work through things with him till you have a stable place and until you have enough money to stand on your own two feet.

 

It all depends on the way your dad is. If my dad said that I would not be phased he'd apologize within 2 days and things would be back to normal. If you think you're dad is serious consider getting into working and saving for an education while splitting on rent for an apartment with your brother. Family members/friends would probably be a great thing to rely on to start you guys and help you get on your feet. I'm not sure where you live or what the job market is like where you live so I cannot recommend a job to save up money. Best of luck with your father and this issue. Hopefully everything works out.

 

[ZippyGFX]

My friend said I could do some roofing with him it's 10 hour days 5 days a week making like $12 an hour. Hard work but work is hard to come by out here especially just getting out of high-school.

My dad has said things like this many times but this time I thinks he's serious. Usually my mom is there to relax him and talk him out of it. I haven't been talking to my father a lot recently every time I try to, he'll just ignore what I say and continue with what he's doing.

One of my friends was kicked out at an early age and he's been living at a group home which he pays like $300 a month for rent and utilities living among people who are in similar situations, I might try getting into one of these if my financial situation doesn't improve.

 

That job sounds like you'll be earning your pay but its a good way to get through the early stages of life. The home you're referring to seems like it'll be really helpful with supporting your financial situation it would make it easier to build up a decent amount to be able to go to post-secondary education to get a different career if you so choose.

 

[ZippyGFX]

I definitely plan on putting towards some of the money to post-secondary education. I want to go within the next 2 years so I will be applying for OSAP (Ontario Student Assistance Program) where I can probably get a decent loan in my current situation.

 

[Game]

Look at flatsharing either just with your brother or with several people. It'll help you move out and save money to get you really into the property ladder.

 

My friend said I could do some roofing with him it's 10 hour days 5 days a week making like $12 an hour. Hard work but work is hard to come by out here especially just getting out of high-school.

My dad has said things like this many times but this time I thinks he's serious. Usually my mom is there to relax him and talk him out of it. I haven't been talking to my father a lot recently every time I try to, he'll just ignore what I say and continue with what he's doing.

One of my friends was kicked out at an early age and he's been living at a group home which he pays like $300 a month for rent and utilities living among people who are in similar situations, I might try getting into one of these if my financial situation doesn't improve.

I don't want to sound mean to your friends, but kids who are kicked out at a young and are forced to work/look for a house/go to school are usually the kids who don't do very well, make sure you consider your future in all of this, you seem really smart as well Zippy so if you're considering down the line going to college or something I would consider trying to seriously sit your dad down and speak to him.

There's nothing wrong with taking a gap year for yourself to work and save up money, but I've seen too many people get thrown out at a young age and end up on the dole in a housing commission house because they didn't get shown the right path which is sad (not saying this will happen to you)

But I just really strongly suggest working things out with your dad before you go trying to support yourself at such a young age.

 

[ZippyGFX]

My friends dad was put in jail and his mother no longer wanted to care for him so she put him in a foster home were he eventually moved out and tried things on his own. I'm very fortunate to have a brother in the same situation as me, it definetly helps financially, because its like making double the amount of money I normally would. We tried sitting down with my dad but he said he's had enough of us so were going to have to find a place to crash for a bit and get our lives back on track.

 

My friends dad was put in jail and his mother no longer wanted to care for him so she put him in a foster home were he eventually moved out and tried things on his own. I'm very fortunate to have a brother in the same situation as me, it definetly helps financially, because its like making double the amount of money I normally would. We tried sitting down with my dad but he said he's had enough of us so were going to have to find a place to crash for a bit and get our lives back on track.

Ah, gives me a better understanding.
You are lucky to have your brother with you, I wasn't trying to put down people in that situation or your friends in that situation it's just from what I've seen, people getting thrown out at a young age being unable to handle it and just going on the dole for the rest of their life.

Good luck with everything though, I hope you two can find a good job to work and earn enough money to get stuff happening.

 

[Hilly234]

If your anything like me, this will be the best thing that could ever happen to you, however as Chloe said it could lead down a bad track.
I got kicked out when I was 17 after numerous years of arguing with my dad (I hated him so much towards the end) also as you said my mum sorted it out and all was ok a couple of days later (for a few weeks until it started again), however it finally come to the point where me & him had finally had enough. I moved into my girlfriends mums house for a couple of months during this period I got myself onto an apprenticeship which was 2 years training (not so good pay). a few months after I started I managed to move into an apartment with my girlfriend. I will be honest it was hard on both of us (she was on an hairdressing apprenticeship too) and by hard I mean mega hard, my wages went on rent and hers on bills/food, anyway we struggled on each year both our wages going up. Anyway now were still in the same apartment and living a very comfortable lifestyle and after all this I do actually speak to my dad and we get on. I'm pretty thankful as I personally think he gave me the kick up the arse I needed. I have a perfect relationship with my girlfriend, I have a very well paid job for a huge company (job security is high) and my own place.

- But as I said, it's far from an easy ride/plain sailing as you probably know.

 

[b8rnt]

My dad is the same way, im nearing 18 and me and my dad have not seen eye to eye in many years, he is just a dick. My mom is always there to calm him down tho.

 

[ZippyGFX]

So the day finally came, and my father kicked us both out. He told us he was going to his friends 50th birthday that night so we were allowed to spend one last night in the house. Bad move on his part, me and my brother through a huge party with around 200 people showing up. The police showed up but we handled the situation well and got off with just a warning and got told to keep the music volume to a minimum. The next day after cleaning up after this shitfest my dad came home and me and my brother sat down and talked with my father. We are now on better terms and living at home

 

Glad to hear it, buddy!