Whats wrong with me?

[Absolutions]

okay, so to start off im 16 and in 10th grade.
i have a lot of friends (some of which will ditch me for dirt)
i know they arent true friends but i have true friends too.
anyway thats not the problem. see, the problem is that i havent had a girlfriend since elementary school (6th grade). a lot of girls like me enough to go out with me if i asked them but i cant figure out why i dont take advantage of the situation. and belive me when i tell you they are to die for. its just i think they are arractive and nice but i cant seem to work up the courage to ask a girl out.

im a fairly confident guy and as i stated above have a lots of friends because of it. i think the problem is that im afraid of rejection even though its an almost guarantee that they will say yes. my beign afraid of rejection started in elemntary school when i was best friends with this girl. she was perfect in every way and we used to hang out after school and talk for hours. when i finally asked her out in like 4th grade she said no straight up. i didnt think much of it because she told me she liked me but she sadi she also like 2 other guys in my class. i eventually asked her out about 4 other times in elementary school to which she said no to all of them. that killed me inside. after all i was only in 6 grade when i asked her out the final time. after that i never asked a girl out again.

i dont know why. im guesiing its because im scared or something. the girl form elementary school is in some of my classes this year and i still like her. i know i dont know what love is but im pretty sure i love her. she gives me chills when she talks to me. shes absolutly perfect. we dont talk anymore because she thinks im mad at her. the real reason is that im trying to forget about her because she wants to just be friends and i want more.

so i think she is what is blocking me from asking all these beautiful girls out.
so tell me guys/girls, whats wrong with me?

 

[owen.w]

Dont worry about girlfriends for now and stop being so cocky that will come back at bite you.


You should also NEVER take advantage of a girl dont do that because it might ruin her life.

 

[Swan]

You're acting as if a relationship is the only thing in the world to you. Guess what? Girls are humans as much as any guy. Big whoop.

You're being a bit cocky as stated above. If you were actually confident in these girls liking you enough you'd likely have enough confidence to ask them out. After all, if you're sure they like you enough there's no way they'd refuse, right? That's called being cocky. Don't do it.

Next, you're treating the concept of a girlfriend as if it's a prize or boast. That's just stupid. You want to ask girls out for the sake of asking them out, and that's shown by the fact that you appear to show interest in a lot of girls, meaning you'd willingly go out with anyone, yet play the victim due to the girl from your elementary. That's self-justification and victimisation at best. If you want anything meaningful perhaps you should either wait or find someone you can seriously say you can see in your future. And I don't mean without a second thought, I mean "can I see this woman in my long term future" as in you actually want to spend the foreseeable and unforeseeable future with her. If not, there's really no point and it's just toying with another person's emotions. Of course, you'd likely not find too many candidates in 10th grade. It's possible, but improbable.

Basically what I'm saying is, and I do not mean to be harsh, grow up. You still have a longggg way ahead of you. Speaking from experience having had only one girlfriend I wish it had never happened. That's usually what happens with highschool relationships, just watch your friends fall in and out with each other like pieces on a chessboard.

 

Do you actually have any friends that are girls?

 

[owen.w]

Do you actually have any friends that are girls?

...im guessing not to much...

 

[Absolutions]

im sorry if i came off a bit cocky. i didnt mean for that i just wanted to know why i cant seem to ask these girls out. i have a couple girls that are just friends btw . i know girls arent for boasting purposes. like i said im sorry i just wanted you to know the facts before giving me answers. i didnt want you to think its not because girls dont like me. its jsut the pressure eminating from my friends form the fact i havent had a girlfriend in years. i live in new jersey and everyone always has a girlfriend and gloats about it etc. im trying to find the right person but im afraid that when i find that person i wont be man enough to ask her out. my friends give me shit for not having a girlfriend but what ever. thanks for the replies everyone

 

Try making friends with the girls you like, just friends though. Some girls seems really nice but are really bitchy once you get to know them, make friends and then decide from there. Just don't chicken out when asking them out. If you're sure they like you, you won't have any problems.

 

[.eNaCiRRuH]

Make them friends, hang out with them.. get to know them a little better. That will help build the courage to ask them out, and also help you figure out if they are right for you.

And stop being cocky, girls hate that shit and you look like a tool.

 

[Fedor]

dude, later on she will be asking you out. LOL but seriously just go for other chickas

 

[Fayded]

Make friends, Ask them to hang out outside of school, ETC. Rejection is almost instantaneous. And I HIGHLY disagree with Swan, because I know on several occasions of "High School Sweethearts" being farther in love than relationships started far after high school. I'm not saying in high school, you're meant to find the "one", but you can and high school are the years that you're supposed to have fun. Do what you need to do and know that you CAN do it. Good luck bro.

 

[A86753]

...i cant seem to work up the courage to ask a girl out...

...im a fairly confident guy...

...its an almost garantee that they will say yes...

...whats wrong with me?

Good question

 

[Absolutions]

thanks for the replies guys/girls. i think i have a better understanding of what to do now. and i think you can find the right one in high school that your supposed to spend the rest of your life with. my brother is proof of that. he met his fiance in 9th grade and now they are engaged and she is going to caldwell college and hes in the marine core. they love eachother beyond imagination. just wanted to throw that out there

thanks again helped more then you think.

 

[K 0 X D]

its easy be gentle,nice,etc. but school is most important right now.