How do I tell my girlfriend?

Ok I have decided not to tell her. It's better if she didn't know. I don't want to lose her because of this. However, if she asks what I'm doing, I could not bear to lie to her.

 

If she asks, try to make it through her head as much as possible that there is quite good money involved in what your doing(i read your last thread), and you just really have to say it that you are not doing it for the pleasure or anything like that, its really the only thing you can add that isn't a lie that could somehow improve your chances with her not breaking up with you

 

Who needs a girlfriend when you work in porn?

 

just tell her, soon or later she will find it, Better be honest with her.

 

Any girl would not like the idea of her man having sex with another woman. Lie to her if you must, but the guilt of it will be worse off, trust me.

I would say leave her for the job, or leave the job for her.

 

...or better yet, why the fuck didn't you just talk to her about it BEFORE signing the contract?

idiot.

 

exactly you have to tell her because if you dont and she finds out then there is a 100% chance that she willl break up with you.

 

As stated before:

- Don't tell it: You're lying, if she finds it out she'll be furious and yes, she'll most likely break up with you.

- Tell it: Try to explain it, and there's a chance she will and a chance she won't understand it.

Before talking to her, ask yourself this: 'How would I feel if she would do it?'

 

She's a woman, they don't understand concepts unless they're rationalizing their own actions.

I suggest not telling her as well. When she finds out, break down and cry telling her you were ashamed but you wanted to buy her a diamond ring or something and a house, and you were just trying to make a future for you two... and then tell her you understand that she doesn't want you anymore... pull a guilt trip or 20 in a matter of a few seconds...

 

And yet, last time I checked, you're alone and I have a girlfriend of nearly 4 years.

 

What's that have to do with anything

 

Yeah, she'll break up with you. And I believe you said gay porn? Yea you're ruined. There's no advice to give. Would you go out with her if she was a porn star all of a sudden? Lol. And keeping a secret wont make for a healthy relationship. Especially if you think you see a future... that won't exist anymore.

Because he's f'ing guys xD

He's trying to act like he knows everything about women, yet he knows nothing; it sort of has everything to do with it if you ask me.

 

'adult entertainment industry' might be a little less shocking and possibly more serious way of replacing the word porn. she might not take you seriously otherwise. hope all works out for you dude

 

That. Man the fuck up and tell her, or get out of her life.

Doing that just makes you a jackass.

 

You lose either way. Tell her now, and she'll most likely dump you. Don't tell her, and she'll still figure it out and definitely dump you. In the second scenario, you get a little extra time with her; however, she'll be supremely pissed at you for hiding it - not only because she'll see it as cheating, but because no matter how often you get tested, she'll see it as risky behavior that put her at risk as well, without her knowledge. It'll be much harder to stay friends after something like that.

Women can sense when something's off, though. Especially if you feel guilty about not telling her, there's no way you can hide it.

 

You choose to be in a relationship. I choose not to. It's really not relevant to this scenario.

Either way he's a jackass. At least with my way there's a chance she'll stay with him in the long run... if he's a good actor at least.

 

If you tell her, she will almost definitely leave you.

If you don't tell her, she will only leave you when she finds out.

Don't tell her and you might have a few more months at least.

 

she'll break up with you, why not tell her before u sign the contract. well you're screwed.

 

I would consider myself lucky if I was in a relationship with a pornstar, but its a completely perspective to woman.

 

If you sincerely cared about her you would have talked to her before signing the contract...anyways what's done is done.
Right now, you should just go and tell her. Better her finding out from you, then from somebody else.