Lack of intimacy with pregnant girlfriend.

Now first off let me state, I am not just talking about sex here. My girlfriend is 5 months~ along and I feel as if I almost put her off entirely. She's always been very cuddly, "lovey-dovey" throughout our entire relationship.

I expected throughout her first trimester for her to be feeling sick and not being as affectionate, of course. However, I heard throughout the second trimester, girls are more prone to actually have more of a sex drive.

Again, this isn't just about sex. I struggle with telling myself it's not me and it's normal; I feel like I'm being pushed away. Giving her a kiss is like walking on egg shells. I'm wondering if this is normal?, will pass it pass?, And can anyone relate to this situation? Thanks for your help.

 

It should pass. I'm not saying it will, but it should... Sometimes these kinds of feelings can last an entire pregnancy, sometimes they can last even beyond pregnancy with postnatal depression.

 

Is this something you have read or experienced yourself? It'd just be nice to have someone who can relate.

 

Well, when my ex was pregnant, she split my head open with a monkey wrench... But she was a fucking psycho before then... But I've seen women act like your girlfriend is because of depression brought on by pregnancy and/or postnatal pregnancy. Like a change in the way the act. It could be hormones, it could be depression brought on by the hormones, or it could be both... You could always try talking to her heartfully about the issue.

 

I have talked to her about it. I'm just wondering if anyone can relate...
Oh wait, you can't reply.

 

It's normal for some women to be less cuddly and try to avoid more intimate situations (this isn't all girls but some girls).
They will feel insecure about the weight they pile on through pregnancy and don't want to be touched because they don't feel attractive or sexy anymore. I've been in a similar situation as this.

 

I can't say much about the time you will spend during the pregnancy, but postpartum depression is a real thing for after the pregnancy. Postpartum depression (it can actually affect both you and your girlfriend) is usually when a person falls into depression after childbirth. It is very common and affects millions of people annually. In order to avoid this happening after childbirth and making matters even worse, I would personally recommend confronting your girlfriend in a very friendly way and just sit down and talk about it. Don't "talk to her", but rather ask her why it's happening, how she's feeling, what feels different, what you can do to make things better, etc..

You don't want to find out after childbirth that she was depressed even during childbirth when you could have avoided this. I say this because irritability and lack of desire for sex are symptoms of depression.

Wish you luck with your relationship and future child fam

 

I really very much appreciate this advice man. I'm definitely going to take this into consideration and it's a great heads up for the future.

Thanks for the positive wishes

 

It will pass like what the gentlemen said up there. In my situation I was with the mother of my child for three years and we had a good relationship. We always spent time together, had sexual relations all the time. Once she got pregnant she was very horny all the time and wanted attention all the time. When the child came out, something clicked in her mind out of no where and she called off our engagement and dumped me and kicked me out onto the streets and didn't see my child for almost 2 years.

 

Hopefully doesn't happen to you

 

My current girlfriend is pregnant and she is handling the hormones surprisingly well but yeah from the very start she lost her sex drive. She has five weeks left and its finally starting to come back. You have to remember that this has nothing to do with you, and she is coping with the hormones and pregnancy the best way she can.

 

:'( Wow, I'm really sorry man.

Thanks buddy. It's good to know it's common and it's not just me. On a brighter note things seem to have improved slightly.

 

You have to understand that it's not just her - it's the both of you. Really start to reflect on yourself and whether the way you're doing things is the a fairly intimate/romantic way, or could you be more intimate, more romantic, more understanding of how to navigate her sporadic hormonal tendencies. If you aren't already, try talking to her about ~things and see where that goes.

 

I have talked to her thoroughly and she herself claims it is "just her". I'm very sympathetic to our situation and treat her with the utmost respect. I've read a lot about the decrease of intimacy in pregnant woman and from others experiences, it seems very normal. I was interested to see who could relate and if this was normal. Also how long it could potentially last.

With that said, I respect your input. Thank you.

On and unrelated note, your signature is not helping my situation

 

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