Sexually attracted to my step-sister

Hey Sythe,

So I'm 19 years old and have a step-sister who is 17, and in all seriousness, I really want to have sex with her. I have told close friends about my desire and they none of them seem disturbed by it. I've done some research on the topic and found that it's pretty common, especially between step-siblings who dont have substantially strong family ties. Even with that, I would like to share my story and gain some feedback pertaining to my specific scenario.

So here's the background of how our families intersect. My mother had me at 18 with my biological father (obviously), lets call him "John". John wasn't around much and I didn't start seeing him every other weekend until I was about 7 or 8. John had a girlfriend after being with my mom who he then married. She had a previous child with another man who just so happened to be now married to a woman who is good friends with my mom. My step-sister lived with "John" and her mother for a long while until she finally decided to leave and move to her biological father's house with her step-mom who I had previously mentioned who is friends with my mom. I have a good relationship with said step-mom and her father. I no longer visit my biological father (John) but my step-sister ocassionally visits. I live with my mom and step-father.

Now with that out of the way, I shall explain further my desires. I have always been relatively close with my step-sister and for as long as I can remember I've been sexually attracted. With me being older and her being more matured, my lust has grown. We text semi-often and I have to restrain myself from blatant flirting. Although some overly-friendly texts slip through I think she takes it as just me being a good step-brother. Then again, when I say stuff about my appearance she's seemingly quick to overrule my statements. Maybe this is just kindness or maybe it's a little admiration on her part.

Should I try and make my fantasies a reality? Is it wrong of me to feel the way I do? I'm not trying to be in a relationship with her. So if I do decide to try and push things forward, how do I go about doing it? I don't think it's something our parents would ever know about either. Give me your opinions.

Thanks in advance.

 

Men will think about sex more than anybody can imagine, But its your ability to constrain yourself in these circumstances that defines who you are.


http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Having-An-Inappropriate-Crush

Give that a read over.

 

Man this is a sensitive situation, I don't want to see you make a move and things be ruined. Because she still is your sister in a way. It may not be completely incest, which is probably in your mind, but its not a good idea. Think of the problems it would cause in your family and how things could get later on. You're not going to date your step-sister, so just having sex with her is going to be really awkard. She is family and not going away any time soon. I personally would say no go to it bro. Don't make a mistake and create unwanted tension within your family

 

There wouldn't be tension though. I understand where your coming from, however both me and my step-sister dont have direct family ties really, atleast not anymore. I think if there was a way to find out how she felt I could better conduct my own actions and feelings. Although irrelevant, I'm not trying to play the conceited card, but I am very confident in my ways of making situations like these very comfortable. I'm a good looking guy and shes a stunning girl. I dont think I have any concerns towards those things.

I also think it's hard for me to relay a perfect representation of how our families are laid out through text form. But honestly the situation doesnt feel awkward for me in the least.

 

Also another thing, we dont share any of the same parents. So I don't believe thats definitively incest. Our siblingship is strictly through marriages that we are no longer apart of really.

 

bite the pillow im going in raw. jk, but in all seriousness, this may be something you discuss with a counselor and eventually your family as a whole.

 

If you don't share same parents, then it's ok.. i guess???
To me personally it could be pretty akward when she comes to visit.. atleast for a while.
I wouldn't go for it but it's your life and your choices. Choose wisely

 

I don't really see anything wrong with this except the social stigma of quasi-incest. If you're both consenting (and above the age of consent in your area), you should discuss it with her and see where things go if you get the feeling that she's into you. Obviously you'll have to introduce the topic carefully, but it sounds like you've been beating around the bush for some time, so hopefully you can handle that

 

tl;dr

Slow and steady wins what Super so graciously referred to as the 'quasi-incest' race. Hey, if you're not tripping about the whole step-sister thing then I say onward to victory. Maybe she isn't either.

It's good that y'all text, though I wouldn't bust a 'kiss you out of nowhere because I felt like it was just right' move. She might be totally freaked, especially if y'all are super close.

Compliment her more, etc, etc, make innocent yet flirtatious gestures towards her. Idk dude we're the wrong people to ask we're all super dead inside.

 

Does she flirt back? If so go for that, that shits hot

If not don't creep her out lmao.

 

Really just depends who you talk to. Everyone has different opinions. Personally if I had a bangin' step sister I would want the same. No family ties no blood relation.

 

It's not illegal or incestual; just slightly taboo and frowned upon. There are many families whose kids are also dating.. most of which admittedly are rednecks, lol. If you can cope with the comments and the disapproval that's likely to come from your parents.. go for it. But if it's just sex then you can get 'just sex' from anywhere else.

 

If you're not 100% sure you can make it work don't bother. There are plenty of girls out there with less strings attached.

 

Technically, it's not wrong to feel like that. I would recommend you just keep your space, until you become more serious or mature on a relationship (think marriage) than just plain lust.

 

Nothing wrong with it at all, just make sure she is in to it my slowly easing into flirting more etc.. first. because you don't want to creep her out or make it awkward between the two.

and if she isn't vibing it once you start easing in to it then there is always a girl you can find with a lot less strings attached.

 

May I suggest another course of action? Put yourself out there to other girls. Maybe your lust for her is because she's the closest girl to you, relationship-wise? Are you close with any other girls? Any girls you could possibly see dating? Personally I would not continue and move things forward with her because it's not favorable for you in the long term. So you guys have sex, then what? I know you said you're not looking for a relationship with her but because fornication develops close, sensual feelings, you could actually end up distancing your feelings with other girls in the future. You guys may always have that brother-sister closeness but you could always develop feelings for her too, the more closer to her you get. I would recommend not pursuing her but try pursuing other girls? Maybe once you find another girl, the feelings you have for your sister will go away?

 

This seems like one of those situations where you don't know until you go for it, but honestly I'd advise against it. A sexual relationship with someone so close to you can go incredibly wrong, odds are one of you will end up wanting more (Like a full out relationship) and if the other doesn't and you 'break up' it could make things extremely awkward between you two, and it'll be so hard since you'll have to see eachother on a regular basis, and you'll probably always know about relationships you each get into afterwards, causing jealousy/loathing towards their partner.

On the other hand, if you try it out and you're both into it, and you end up getting into a relationship together you risk being alienated by your families/friends (Not everyone will be accepting of this). Or even if they somehow find out that you had sex they might have the same reaction.

It's a tough one, but honestly I think its either going to be amazing and you live happily ever after, or it'll crash and burn and affect you possibly for the rest of your life. You said that you're not looking to be in a relationship with her, so risking all of this just for sex doesn't seem worth it in my opinion.

 

Hmm, are you really asking for advice, or for support for a decision you already made? Think about it.

If you want honest advice, I'd say it's a no go. As said already, there's plenty of other girls out there and a lot of problems could stem out if you end up getting together. If you're adamant about doing it though, give subtle hints and if she advances on those, then that's that.

 

Thanks for all your responses. I've read all them and it's put some sense into me. The lust for her can be the same for any other girl, and as you guys have stated it's easy for me to want such things from her when shes really close. I'm probably going to refrain from any flirtatious acts. I do enjoy my step-sisters presence and I wouldn't want to ruin that bond because of my cock.

 

From the way I hear it, I feel like she is trying to let you down easy. :C Just my 2 cents good luck man!