Anger Managment

Hey guys, i usually just offer advice on this sub-forum but today i come to you with my own problem.

I've recently come to terms with the fact that i probably have anger management issues. I'm a very nice and genuine guy and anyone that deals with me in real life, work or over the internet has no issues with me. However i tend to snap and lost my cool more so than other guys.

here are some examples in dot point to keep the thread easy to read.

1. my friend jokingly tripped me, i ate shit and apparently got straight up and punched him square in the head. i only remember apologizing profusely afterwards (were okay now as mates)

2. my girlfriend wouldn't answer my calls one night (so so stupid that i laugh now thinking about it) threw my brand new iPhone 5 into a brick wall in frustration and then punched the same wall because of breaking my phone.

I know all males have excess testosterone and shit like that, but this isn't the issue. I have regular sex and fap like every other day.

how do you guys handle your temper, give me some tips.

 

I exercise regularly, and that helps me - but overall, I'm not an angry person. It might do you some good to talk to your doctor as your examples seem a bit extreme.

 

my examples seem extreme to me even laughable, but when im in that mind state logic doesn't play a part.

 

I think your solution if pretty obvious, you know you have a problem with your anger so clearly the best option would be to seek professional advice. What's stopping you?

I used to get angry at my partner, I accepted the fact he didn't deserve it (most of the time) and arranged some sessions with an anger management councillor. I attended 4-5 session and I can say they helped wonders, if you can't afford to see one and are still in schooling I believe most school (at least where I'm from) have an onsite councillor, maybe make an appointment with them.

 

If your in school dont fucking go tell them thats the last thing you want to do, they treat you like your a fucking retard take you out of important learning and let you squeeze little squishy balls.
Just be a man and maintain it, if not keep buying new iphones every time she doesn't answer your calls.

 

I've only just realised that i have an issue, and i do my best to maintain it. I work full time and can control it almost 100% of the time. I'm just asking if there is something that i can do/not doing that will help me stop before i snap and do something stupid.

Not in school but i can imagine that it would make school very difficult and your peers would view you totally differently afterwards.

 

Sounds like you still have some sessions to attend yourself. This is horrible advice. I agree with Divica. You recognize the problem and the severity of it, the next logical step would be to seek some sort of help. Counseling does help, despite the naysayers. Might be worth looking into.

 

i suppose it is worth a shot, i just want to clarify that im not an abusive person. i just have trouble keeping a cool head in certain situations.

 

A lot of people seem to have this misconception that attending counseling sessions means there is something seriously wrong with you, which is by no means the case. Counselors are there to assist you in working through whatever struggles you may be dealing with.

Best of luck

 

Thanks

 

You're taking the correct steps in admitting in it. You passed a milestone that many can't reach. You should be proud of that!

OT: Seek some guidance from your school counselor or a close friend/family member. They will be able to help you out better than us on the forum.

Also, everytime you feel like doing something out of frustration, do a push up or just count to 100. Do something that takes your mind off of it.

 

I was really just advising him about what not to do if he was still in school as to his peers he would seem like a bit of an outcast/not normal and it would make school life worse.
The last bit was just banter mate
No harm intended sorry if i did come across a little unpleasent.

 

I'm not one to really express my emotions in public, but if I ever get angry about a situation I usually think of the consequence that I might face before doing my action (i.e, you throwing your phone at the wall and it breaking). You have to look at things in the future and/or in someone's else's perspective. Maybe your girlfriend was busy? Yes your friend was stupid for tripping you, but did he anticipate that you were going to eat shit?

 

This is very true usually im a pretty logical person though so thats what i dont understand. I lose my temper and im a totally different person.

Also thought i would add i'm not a heavy drinker and i don't do heavy drugs that would alter my persona

 

Hey, add me on skype 'dunworry2sythe'. I almost got expelled in middle school because I had huge anger management issues. I worked through it, and have several techniques that I can share to help you out More than happy to talk to you at length about this

 

Thanks man, appreciate this side of sythe
ill add you now and whenever you're free to talk id really appreciate some tips.

 

Well consider yourself lucky for acknowledging that you have a problem. Now try to find tips on how to fix it, I can't help because I've never dealt with this but good luck.