Ask her out over phone or text?

Personnally, I wouldnt do it over phone. Tbh it would really be against my nature to do so. In my opinion, If you re not asking her in person, that means youre not ready to be with her because youre afraid of what can happen in real life when you told her. Do you really want to remember you asking out on a phone? You cant see the reaction, you cant profit of the moment,... Take my advice. Its way better to ask in person.

 

100% agreed. Seeing a girl blush and say yes is a priceless moment.

 

Some interesting answers, thanks for all the input, I will update this thread on Monday with either a response, or if the ask-out "window" wasn't available.

 

Be a man and tell her face to face to see what will she do, how will she react to that and so on. Otherwise you can't just say her through a phone because as many stated above, you need to see everything in order to know if she does like you or not.

 

nothing wrong at all to ask her to hang out over text

 

Monday Update: Well I have come now to my computer to update my thread, okay lets see here... I wanted to ask her out, but the situation that I was in - I feel as if it wouldn't be appropriate. Basically she texted me asking about some homework she was missing, so I sent her a pic of the HW - but it didnt go through.

This gave a reason to call her to get her somewhat comfortable, so I only talked to her for a little to see if she got the pic/ whats she doin/ etc. So then I texted her and said I would need her help on one assignment, and that we should sit next to each other again. (We only sat together once.)

So I came into class late, and I see she was sitting in my area with a seat open next to her, so I sat and we took a test. Test over and I was chilling with her for a little, got to get more info on her. But I can now confirm she is shy, she talks very low that its hella hard to hear her! Anyways, so were out of class, and shes looking at her phone. So I was like "You waiting to get picked up?" She said "Yeah I gotta call my mom."

No one around, atmosphere was fine - vibes were cool. I asked you live in "xxx city" right? She said yeah (I already knew this answer). So I was gettin ready to meet up with a friend so I was walking away slowly, but turn my body slightly, and my face still looking at hers and said something like "If your mom cant pick up you sometime, I can give you a ride...if it's cool with you and your mom."

Couldn't remember her facial reaction, but she didn't seem stunned at this. She basically said softly "Alright......Bye" as she left the building. (Why'd she leave the building if her mom wasn't there yet?) Now I was thinking maybe I attacked to early, but I think this was the best option. Asking her to hang would be asking for an answer right there. With me offering a ride, she has the right to accept whenever she feels comfortable.

So with that being said - you still with me? Haha. My plans are to establish more contact with her, attempt to talk to her on the phone multiple times, then ask her casually over the phone (or in person) if the time is appropriate. Thanks for reading and I will continue to update this probably bi-weekly. Stay pimpin'

 

Since you know she's shy, then attacking won't be the best option of course. Just take your time. Let things progress naturally. Slow and steady ultimately wins the race for you.

 

In my opinion, the way you said "If your mom cant pick up you sometime, I can give you a ride...if it's cool with you and your mom." wasn't really asking her out, and also didn't portray any confidence from you, it felt kind of like an "iffy" question to her. And she probably walked outside just to wait outside for her mom since you were leaving anyway. Or maybe her mom got there.

 

Yeah I wasn't trying to ask her out, just putting an option out there to let her know I'm available. Not sure if her mom was there, but she seemed like she was getting comfortable until I told her that. I said it casually, she probably took it iffy, considering she is still young and probably had no one offer her a ride like that.

Yeah Mired, just gotta take my time with it, but I'm starting to lose patience! Lol, gotta keep focused.

 

Just gotta read her and see if there are any signals there. It doesn't help that she's shy, but with any girl, you have to push/pull, and also build at least some comfort before going in for a meet up.

 

Might be late but this one really caught my attention. Dude, if she is into you how you describe it, don't degrade the situation and ask her over the phone at all. Do it in person! Just after class this week ask her if she wants to hang out sometime (even getting a coffee on campus or something). Can't go wrong with going somewhere to chat and shit... Every relationship I've had we went and talked first day then decided we'd date after that. (Test the waters, chicks hide the crazy until its official)

 

in person, always in person

 

Bi-weekly update: Will try to keep it short, as nothing really happened anyways. The next Monday I got her to open up a little better, found out some more information about her etc. Didn't attempt anything as it didn't feel right.

This recent Monday, basically chit-chat again - class was over and she was still waiting outside, so I sat at the table and said something like "I guess I'll hang with you until your mom comes." She basically said "If you want, you can" or something like that. My memory is crappy, but yeah something among those lines. But she didn't say it rudely.

So I just chit-chatted again, then walked out with her and went separate ways to our rides. Left off with saying bye. Now this is interesting, if you remember last time how I said she walked out, making it seem like her mom was there to pick her up. Well she "thought" her mom was there, but wasn't - so she waited in the library. Hmmm...

So now it's confirmed she left because I must of put too much pressure on her, by offering her a ride. Now I'm strongly debating with myself here, I just don't think this girl will hold up if I ask her in person. I feel as if I'm putting the friendship at risk if it she gets nervous.

This day and age, social media has taken over (ashamedly) and kids feel comfortable talking via text and whatnot. I feel as if I should ask her over the phone, or casually through a text message. Just stuck in a little limbo here..

I will still read responses and and make bi-weekly updates and we will see how this goes. Enjoy your day gents.

 

Pull the classic let's go out and study together card.

 

Honestly do it in person seems very beta to me to do it over the phone or text.

 

What is another week? If she isn't talking to any other guys and you believe she isn't that flirty girl then I would wait and do it in person.

 

just be confident and you will get the number without a problem

 

Phone is better than text.

 

Woo hoo hoo, boy I do have a juicy update for you gents. But this story is still ongoing until this Saturday. So, with being said - I will update this thread probably next week.

 

Using the Phone is MUCH better then texting.