My gf of 6 years... or a beauty??

Yo, I've been with my girlfriend for just over 6 years now. She lives away for a lot of the time about 3 hours away, and she's always busy working (fair enough). I've got a very good job and probably earn more than double the average wage and I'm only 21. I lost my virginity to this girl, and I've never slept with anyone else, but I can't help but think I'm missing out on a proper sex life. I go out a fair bit and I get a lot of offers from girls to go back for drink, after party blah blah blah (obviously wanting the D) but no matter how fucked I get I always say no.

However!!! There's this girl I met back in October, and I sat and spoke to her in a pub for a bit, and I swear to god, I've never felt chemistry like it. I thought she looked absolutely amazing and I know she couldn't stop looking at me either. Anyway, I spoke to her that night, got a taxi back to hers and then I walked back to mine from hers (she said in the taxi nothing was going to happen, which I knew anyway cos I wouldn't have myself lol) and she literally lives a 2 minute walk from mine. This girl was smart, funny, very funny and we just got on great. Anyway, I went without seeing her for a couple of months until about December when I saw her again. This time I asked her for her number - something I've never ever done before. She took mine and told me she'd text me in the morning, and fair play to her, she text me the next day. Pretty much ever since we've been speaking loads and I've been to a few pubs with her on the odd occassion she's not at uni (studying to be a nurse). We just get on really well, but I know already that she's:

A) More volatile than my girlfriend
B) Funnier than my girlfriend
C) More sociable than my girlfriend
D) Not going to have as good a job as my current girlfriend
E) Not sure if she's as loyal as my current girlfriend
F) More attractive atm (but I dunno if this is cos I've been with my GF for 6 years??)
G) Literally has the most gorgeous smile and laugh ever. Truly melts your heart



Now... here's my dilemma. I'm going away on a family holiday in two weeks (girlfriend included), but I've told this stunner I met a while back that I'm back with my gf (we had a wee falling out when I rang her up drunk telling her I wanna see other people) and I probably shouldn't see her as much because of that. But I jsut can't get this girl out my mind... I dunno what to do? What do you guys think?

 

Dang thats wild! Interesting read - Don't hurt nobody to go both ways? I'm just kiddin . Anyways, what are you looking for? You looking for a girl with goods looks but not seeing a great future because of her job status? Or an average girl who has her life set up and knows what she wants?

I think this is sticking to your head because you haven't meet a girl like her with strong interest as yours, for a long time. So know she is always on your mind. You are gunna have to hang with her a little bit more to find out what she is all about, and if you feel like it is going to work (the way you want it), then just stick with your current girlfriend. Do you think your girlfriend is talking to guys while you are not around? Not trying to make you paranoid, but it is impossible to tell if your not around. But 6 years strong sounds like my statement is out the window.

Anyways, best of luck pal - and def post an update so we can see how things make out. Peace

 

Go with whatever makes you happy. Faith is powerful too.

 

I guess my advice is that go with your heart mate. Even though u may have been with ur gf for 6 years the choice u make might be the one that u will leave the rest of your life with. However I suggest if u go for the new girl break up with ur gf first as it is never right nor a good idea to two time. I wish u all the best with ur life mate and hope you got ur problems settled Another thing I would like to add is its good that u always stayed faithful to your gf as traits like these are things that will make u go far

 

Firstly you have to weigh the decision, 6 years is not something to throw away lightly. This may be a case of seeing the grass as being greener on the other side when in reality it isn't. It seems like the main factor to examine is the distance between you and your gf, this obviously prevents you from seeing her too frequently. Should you try and do something about that instead?

In any case if you do decide to jump ship, make sure to break up with your girl friend first and just be honest - the distance is killing it etc, don't just cheat.

 

Choose the 2nd because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't be falling for the 2nd.

 

I actually agree 100% with this. You seem to be interested in girl #2 because your girl is not there to distract you (if that makes any sense) im sure when you see your gf there will be a spark, something that you missed about her, and she will seem perfect but as you come back the spark may begin to fade because you will start to forget about all of the good times. I suggest you go on this family trip with your gf, spend time with her; see how you feel. If you feel good, and you missed her then cherish her and apologize for what you did. Otherwise, if you did not; break up with her and move on. I think it's the distance that's ripping you two apart. Keep in mind just because you think this girl is "prettier, smarter, etc etc" the same could be said about you in regards to another male. Im basically saying, work things out fucker (because I love long term relationships and not random hoes). And about the sex-life; listen if you're really that deprived then talk to your girlfriend, think in her prospective if she said she wants a different dick in her? how's it feel? not so great, so talk things out and see what you BOTH truly want.

Can you see yourself marrying your gf?

Just think bud think!

GL AND UPDATE THIS!

 

go for girl number 2...

 

6 years is a lot to throw away but if you're sitting comparing your girlfriend to another girl you should leave your girlfriend because she deserves better than that, just saying.

The only person who knows who you like better is you. But honestly if there's so many things you're comparing then there's no point being in a relationship with her, she'd likely be heartbroken if she saw this.

 

Bro trust me on this , I've been in the same situation , just stick with your girlfriend all those 6 years and loyalty gone to nothing.

Second trust me even if you choose the other girl after 4-6 years your gonna lust over another one , trust me in the long run if your looking at the future stick with your girl. try spending more time with her , doing wild things ( not sexually ) but like drinking , trekking going places spending time trying out new things.

Best of luck.

 

If your already having doubts about your girlfriend because another girl has come into your life then I highly suggest breaking up with your girlfriend.

 

I agree with Roary, if you're sitting there comparing her to other girls there's an issue. Nothing's ever really better on the other side of the fence, I'm sure you've heard that before but I find it to be quite accurate in many situations. Perhaps you could try new things with your current girl to keep it interesting, also try to do more activities with her see if that young "flame" is still there. If there's no interest left then you'll know it's time to move on and I'm sure you'll both agree to it.

 

Nailed it

 

From past experience, do what makes you happy. Theres nothing else to it, would you miss the girl you've been with for 6 years, ask yourself that. Why have you been with her for 6 years and is it worth throwing away for this girl you feel chemistry with? Sure, everyone has a small 'crush' and likes different girls, I've been with my girlfriend 2 years and I find other girls gorgeous, but I wouldn't even touch another girl or look at them in the same way as I do with my girlfriend, simply because I respect her and don't need anybody else. Think about it in the long run man, do what makes you happy.

In my honest opinion though, someone hit the nail on the head, if you're comparing, you don't deserve her

 

All depends on what you want from life.
If you want a family I'd say stick with your gf, but if you want a sexy nurse to fool around with then do that.

 

"Sexy nurse to fool around with"

Lel.

 

If you decide to leave your girlfriend for the other girl dont just break up and let the girl nr 2 know it because she will only think that you will do the same with her and this will only lead to fights and probably ruin your relationship. I'm also in a long relationship (5 years and 7 months) but i would not just let my girl like that. Just talk to her and try to find a solution to the distance and it will be fine . I also wonder sometimes how would it be to date other girls and just change some things in my sexual life but then i just say to myself why do this when im already happy enough with the relation i already have.

I hope you make a good decision mate.

PS sorry for my horrible english. Cheers

 

This depends on one's personality; To cut my advise short - You need to balance and look at whether that 6 yrs meant enough to you to want to stay with her or whether you wish to move on, try something new. Personally, if I managed to be with someone for 6 yrs [longest for me was like 18 months], I'd stay with the one. But you have to know.

PS: Analyzing [who is funnier, prettier etc etc] leads you nowhere. Just follow what your heart dictates.

 

i wish you the best of luck though mate please let us know what happens

 

I'm in a very similar situation myself. I don't really have advice except to listen to the above, but good luck. Keep us posted.